In a few years I will be forty and the topic of my death and how I will be buried has crept into my mind from time to time. Now I'm hoping that I will live a long life and will have figured it out by then. But I can't help to wonder, if I die tomorrow, will my wishes to be buried non-religiously be followed through with?
As you know, Christians have this topic covered. Every burial I have witnessed is steeped in religion, even the state held ones. But for me or someone who doesn’t want a religious burial, what do you do? Where do you go to make sure that your final requests are followed? What organizations are out there to help in such matters? I have tried for many years to separate myself from my religious roots and I certainly don’t want to be trust back into it upon my demise.
The only discussion with my family concerning my death is that I am requesting to be cremated. I know I should discuss this with them and get it out there, but I think they would still bury me Christian.
I have also thought that all this is for not because I will be dead and I won’t know the difference. So why worry about it? Then I think, if I was Christian or religious then this wouldn't be an issue and that just pisses me off!!!!!
I am the only “out” atheist in my family. My mother, who is a devout Christian, will want a “Christian” burial for me no matter what I say, I am pretty sure of it. I haven’t discussed my wishes with her because I don't think it would do any good.
I do have some ideals on how I want to be remembered and put to rest. I think that I want my ashes to be placed in the ground under a newly planted tree on my families’ property. The tree will serve as my tombstone and I think my family will always call that tree “Duwayne’s Tree”. (“Duwayne” is my middle name and that is what my family calls me by). I certainly don’t want to have a service in any church, or even have a pastor/preacher/religious person to conduct the remembrances.
Well I guess that this is where you can add your two cents to my thoughts. I would like to know if anyone has any ideals on my dilemma? I would like to know has anyone else come across this problem or thought about how they would handle this issue? I would like to know am I worrying about “nothing” or is there some solution out there I am unaware of? Your comments will be greatly welcome.