My name is Michael. I'm in my 40's and live in the Seattle area. I've been an atheist since about age 14. Despite this reportedly being one of the least-religious areas of the country, you'd be hard pressed to find any actual evidence of that fact; churches here seem more plentiful than in California or Nevada where I grew up, and finding other non-religious people (particularly women) is quite difficult. I'm single, and I'd like to date, but, in common with much of the northwest and Alaska, the proportion of available men to women is so high that it's extremely hard. Add things like religious and political affiliations into the mix and finding even a remotely-compatible partner is really tough. Particularly when one wants, as I do, to have children.
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You know, I've had the same sort of experience. Anyone I get involved with will definitely know my thoughts concerning God and God-belief, but I can tolerate it if my partner has that particular mental virus. However, the religious women I've known typically refuse to tolerate it if *their* partners are *not* religious, and won't get involved with an unbeliever. Maybe it has to do with wanting to meet their spouses in Heaven.
That's pretty much my experience, too. I could deal with some vague level of religion, but in every relationship I've had with a theist, it only took a few months before she was wondering why I didn't want to go to church with her.
Not sure how I'd deal with the Young Earth Creationist part, Carol. If someone is THAT devoid of scientific knowledge ... just, I dunno.
And I'd be worried if we ever decided to have kids. I sure as hell wouldn't want to raise my kids Christian.
Agreed on most of this... the relationships I've had have all been with religious people, simply because it's so hard to find anything else. However, for the most part, we managed to get along on that score, as long as we agreed to pretty much stay off the subject. The few discussions we did have, though, wound up largely the way you said - she was much more bothered by the fact that I DID NOT believe in imaginary beings, than I was by the fact that she DID.
Hey, don't feel out of things; we're not all 20-somethings here. Some of us are downright well-seasoned!
I know exactly where Central Point is; I've been through there a couple of times. Always kind of wondered why it was called that, since it doesn't seem very centrally located in the state.
We're kind of neighbors, on a national scale; I'm a ways north of you, near Seattle.
I suspect that the reason religious people can't stand to be around atheists is that they know, at some level, that their beliefs are irrational, and are afraid that, without constant reinforcement by other believers, they will eventually succumb to logic and clear thought, and begin to realize that they are living in a delusion.
I was the opposite--I ended my last relationship in part because I couldn't deal with the person's theism but I think it was more due to his hypocrisy and lack of ability to discuss his beliefs without throwing a tantrum. And boy oh boy did he get pissed off when I pointed that out by saying "Not only do I not believe in god but I also don't believe in your Catholicism. You say you're a Christian but you act like an atheist."