Hi Fellow Non-theist-People,
I am a 55, HWP, divorced, intelligent, nice guy who doesn't believe in a big granddaddy in the sky.
I also have a lot of hair left ;-).
I am hoping someday to find someone to get older with, and maybe some other (more fun) activities too.
Anyway, if you are visiting or live in the twin cities (MN), drop me a line, we might hit it off -- who knows??
It wouldn't hurt to have a glass of wine ...
The standards that I usually run afoul of are: (in order of frequency)
1) I'm not good-looking enough.
2) I'm not tall enough.
3) I want to have children. (And she doesn't.)
4) I'm not a member of the right political party.
5) I don't like the right sports.
6) I don't live in the right town.
7) I'm not rich enough.
8) I want to get married eventually. (And she doesn't.)
9) I'm not of the right religion.
10) I'm not of the right race.
11) I'm divorced. (Many women won't date divorced men, even if she's divorced herself.)
12) I don't eat the right foods.
13) I don't have the right job.
Managing to successfully navigate all the possible requirements is extremely difficult. Consequently I rarely make it through without getting caught on one or more of her standards.
I would agree. And I've never gotten a rational explanation for it. But it nonetheless seems to be true. A certain proportion of women simply will NOT date divorced guys. Under any circumstances. The phrase I've heard them use is that divorced men are "damaged goods". And I've asked, "How can you say that when you're divorced yourself?" The only answer I've ever gotten was "Oh, it's different for women."
It's not a religious thing, either; this has occurred with women who were non-theist.
So, yes, it's seriously messed up. And yet I've run into it several times. (shrug) Your guess is as good as mine.