You don't need secular Judaism or any religion. Just abandon all this Jewish and Judaism nonsense and fine a life that doesn't revolve around any particular religion or culture. Find a few hobbies or fun activities you like to do, alone and with your family and your friends. Try to be as culturally unbiased as possible. This should be easy for you, being an atheist. Perhaps read about a variety of familiar and exotic cultures and realize that you don't have to waste time doing any kind of traditions or ceremonies just because you had converted to Judaism. Don't just do any practice or have any belief just to fit in with any group. Do not first pick a group and then do what you need to do in order to fir in with them. Instead, figure out which activities and positions you want to do and hold, and then seek out those people who are compatible with YOU! Another thing, never let your son get circumcised! Circumcision is serious sexual assault that was invented by certain ancient tribes in order to inhibit masturbation.
"Circumcision is serious sexual assault that was invented by certain ancient tribes in order to inhibit masturbation."
Um...I am not sure where this explanation came from, but I can guarentee you, based on the memories of my youth, that it didn't work!
I had a could couple of minutes laugh. Thanks! :D
Actually, many ancient civilizations that preceded Judaism also did it. For the Egyptians, it was part of the rite for the various priesthood indoctrinations to open the initiate to certain mysteries (whatever they were), and not to keep one's hands off of "Mr. Happy".
Interesting input found at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_male_circumcision
But thanks for the chuckle! :D
Stop laughing. You have no right to have an opinion about male genital mutilation for the same reason nobody will let you have an opinion about Jerry Sandusky's conviction for rear-end raping boys in Lockers rooms. Either Jerry Sandusky's sexual assault was good or bad or neutral. He was an assistant football coach at Penn State University. The reason you instantly recognize that rear-end raping boys is bad but cutting parts of boy's bodies off is good or neutral of funny (if you call it circumcision) is because you grew up in the bubble of American and/or Jewish culture, and your culture taught you to think one assault is funny while another assault is horrifying. In the bubble of American or Jewish culture male circumcision is considered good or neutral while other assaults or abuses are considered bad. Other abuses other cultures have done include female circumcision, foot binding in china, putting boards on kid's heads to change the head shape until the kid was 4 years old, in Mesoamerica, bizarre hazing-like initiation rituals, and so on. When I mention female circumcision, you are instinctively repulsed. The reason is because in American and Jewish culture, we don't do female circumcision, not because you used your brain to realize that all these assaults are just as bad as circumcision. It is not the case that male people are born defective, needing part of our bodies cut off. Both sexes are equally good and should be treated the same. Notice that in a circumcision the mother never watches them hurt her son. A lady in California glued her kid's hand to a wall and got sentenced to 99 years in prison. You don't think that is funny. Cutting pieces of male people's bodies off is funny to you. I'm not laughing.
I meant that you grew up in the bubble of Israeli Culture, and in the bubble of Israeli culture, cutting part of male people's bodies off is considered good or neutral, while other very similar behaviors like cutting off parts of female people's bodies, would never be tolerated. The reasons given in favor of circumcision are just as false as the reasons given in favor of doing religion.
Actually, I grew up in the USA and moved to Israel 10 years ago. In 1952, the doctor automatically did the procedure, because it was commonly done then. (When I was 18, I became religous and had a "do over", which was just having a drop of blood extracted.) As a kid, I grew up in a Christian area, but in the community showers, I only recall seeing one other kid during my entire childhood uncircumcised. I recall thinking he got the tipped cut off somehow, but never asked im about it.
So no, it wasn't Israeli culture, but American culture. And it wasn't done for religious reasons during my day, while some did, but they were a minority. But I can understand your dielemma, just not your obsession. I have had an active and enjoyable sex life, and I never mourned the "loss", because it affected me in no way. Are you mourning your loss and are angry at your parents about it? Is that what this is all about?
The reasons you are not able to feel what you are missing due to your circumcision and why you think you are unaffected by getting part of your body cut off is for the same kind of reasons why color blind people are unable to see why their eyesight is off. Additionally, nobody likes to feel like something is wrong with himself, so of course circumcised people do what you do, invent or borrow reasons why circumcision is good, why they are in good shape, and so on. By inhibit masturbation, I mean that of course circumcision doesn't eliminate sensation; gently stroke your palms and then try to gently feel your glans and notice the difference. With reasonable respect, you will feel a lack but laugh and convince yourself you have all the sensation possible. I don't want you to feel shitty about yourself or seem too arrogant or smart, but I know I know what i am talking about. I do want to help make circumcision illegal just like female circumcision and other sexual abuse and assault is. I am like an atheist while you are still religious in terms of circumcision. You do realize that Judaism is a system of maladaptive obsessive-compulsive behaviors and beliefs, right? I know that I didn't know what circumcision was until the week after I turned 27. Then I read a bunch of information about it. Even though I was taught that circumcision is done to mark us as different, it was actually invented in order to try to reduce sensation because that is how obsessive-compulsive Judaism is. I suggest you read a book by Leonard B. Glick which I read, called " Marked in your Flesh, Circumcision from Ancient Judea to Modern America." There are other Jewish anti-circumcision activists and anti-circumcision organizations. Look up foreskin restoration. Look up Elyahu Ungar-Sargon, Ron Low, Norm Cohen, Miriam Pollock.
Of course I can laugh at nonsense. "To keep boys from masterbating"? LOL!!!
And now you devolve into the same false-equivilance that PETA uses "eating meat is murder!". For females, the process is done to mutilate the clitoris and prevent her from ever having any enjoyment from sex. For men, it is the removal of a cowl of skin, a result that ends up sensitizing the penis during sex. Some may argue that the movement of the sheath may also add enjoyment, but I don't know if that is speculative or not.
In other words, like peta, the "Save the Penis" activists make this false equivilance for the sake of...I don't know. You might as well call peircing the earlobes of baby for earings is ear mutilation, just like the mutilating their clitoris!
And then you have the balls to equate it with anal sex? ROTFLMAO!!! You are now just making shit up, you know that, don't you?
Dude, you really need to find another outlet for your obsessions!
Pardon me while I share your stupidity with a friend of mine. He could use a good laugh as well.
The very fact that you have people in this forum attests to a need to bond with others of similar experiences or likes. While we have rejected the idea of a God, that the Torah is True, and that the stories are nothing more than literature, it does not mean that everyone feels equally comfortable with rejecting that connection entirely. For example, in Israel there is an atheist kibbutz made up, mostly, of Russian immigrants. They are proud of their bond, as only Russians can be, and proud of their atheism.
But there is a difference between being part of the club because you got the lifetime membership (Jew) and actually believing in any of that (Jewish). For example, if you are invited to a Purim party, which is basically a costume party (costumes were a a much later addition) with a lot of drinking and dancing and singing, based on a story that cannot be placed historically - do you denounce such things, or accept the invite and have a good time? I agree with @Loren who brings up the social nature that we humans crave.
I had a friend who was Scottish (in the USA) who, every month, put on his kilt and got together with other Scots and did whatever Scots do (I am still not sure). It was a cultural thing, and he could name all kinds of Scottish history that I was ignorant of. It reminded me of the Flintstones where Fred and Barney would go to the "Loyal Order of Water Buffaloes Lodge No. 26". But in the case of finding such a social outlet that is devoid of any reference to a deity, is going to be tough. And if a religious reference is disturbing to you, then perhaps a different social outlet or connection would be more appropriate. It doesn't have to be Jewish, but it could be. In other words, find your own comfort zone, and be honest.