Are you open about being an atheist or are you in the closet?

I am semi in the closet. I do have to admit that I am not comfortable discussing my views with just anyone. I am the type that wants everyone to like me (such a fault I have!) and I am nervous someone will think I am a bad person. Even when I find someone who is passionate about science, I still try not to venture down that avenue. So lucky to have you guys!

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Interesting thought TNT666. Do you really think the concept and practice of community is really so controlling and negative though? Mafia and mob is a strange comparison to church/temple/Sikh(?) fellowship, I'd think. 

Sure there is a large amount of fakeness in such buildings and groups, and definitely a lot of cliqueness... but I think that's too broad of a stroke to paint. I've experienced my share of very pleasant, supportful, and loving fellowships. Of course I've seen my share of terrifying control freak churches too!

I like your last line though, the thought of belonging to the whole world instead of a single community. It's a great life-perspective. =)

The concept of community in the Mafia is central and was only understood socially in recent decades, but for those who are leaders, they understand the power that "helping" gives to the giver, more than the receiver. This is also visible in international politics, and in domestic policies of "aid" to our own countries' First Nations. When one country "gives" to another, it is a calculated move to promote the interests of the giving country. Just like when the government's "indian affairs" "gives" to tribes, we in fact keep those people down, and maintain our power over them. Giving is a powerful control tool.

I think because most of this internet community is composed of religious 'ex's, there is a tendency to want to keep the 'comfy' feelings provided by religion, yet throw away the ugly feelings, while not realising that they are one and the same; while conceding/realising that those 'comfy' feelings are the result of political manipulation, of the most basic nature. This is IMO an unbalanced approach, life is made up of all shades of good and bad. I'm not against religion/gods because they're "bad", but simply because I think it's a waste of intellectual capacity to spend even 30 seconds giving credence to nonsense and delusion. And people willing to give the time of day to delusion passing itself off as reality should not be considered "capable" (compared to legal competence to stand trial) to partake in political decisions.

It's really no different than when soda companies sponsor sporting events, they're not doing it out of the goodness of their heart, it's advertising.

I agree with the mantra in life that nothing is free. Everything as an ethical cost... even apparent kindness. And always remember... those people most effective at control are the ones who DO NOT come off as control freaks. People resist control freaks. It's the smooth talking, charismatic (in its wide sense), loving, kind, people who exert the most control over us... and they know it :)

Before we can truly throw out religions/gods from our socio-political sphere, we'll need to stop being apologetic about religion's "good sides" and recognise that it was all advertising/marketing. Until that hurdle (and it's a large one) is crossed, religious delusion will remain present in our society... because we enable it.

I've never belonged to any particular "community", not religiously, not politically, not sexually, not nationality. But I've been atheist since birth, so I was always accustomed to thinking outside the religious box. My family wasn't militantly atheist... it's just that gods don't exist, so why even discuss the topic???

I think (from reading many many people here) that leaving religion is not a one-stop event. It is a gradual process, where more and more layers get peeled off, until in the end, at the core, there is nothing left of that concept.

You have many many years ahead of you to ponder on the true purpose of religions (control, not godliness), I'm sure you'll have an amazing time here discussing with people. I wish you much success on this path :)

I like your thoughts on the subject TNT.  I'll need to think about them more, but so far they seem correct. I was a Mormon for 55 years, and I can now see that church is guilty of the kind of control you mention.

TNT666, what an interesting thought! I am already so thankful for this community, you alone have got the wheels turning in my head more than it has since I've been out of college. You are right, I (and I'm sure many of us) have a long path of learning and discussion ahead of us. Such is the glory of life!

From your post, can I assume you follow the ethical philosophy of the non-existence of altruism? That is, that true altruism does not exist, all actions of "caring" are really done out of self-fulfillment or obligation. I personally have accepted that mindset since looking into it, but still struggle with hammering out the specifics of it. The gaping difficulty I've found in this perspective is that it's faulty to assume one's intentions first of all, and secondly even though it may be true subconsciously, the first thought in people's minds when helping the drowning child in the pool is not "I am doing this because it is the socially acceptable thing to do and if I did not do it I would be judged.... etc etc." They are thinking "OMG that person is drowning!" It's an immediate reaction without much thought. 

With that being said.... I still have to agree with you! The giver does absolutely have power. I believe the Bible is one of the texts to admonish one not to take out loans, because the lender is master and controller of her who holds the debt. It is so true. Even charity leaves a feeling of being at debt. I know that colleges, for example, who fund lower income students into their doctorate and graduate programs only do so with the knowledge that a large percentage of such charity cases will give back financially to their alma matter. 

However... I still have to wonder. It seems to me a little presumptuous to say that religious community and giving is advertising. Perhaps it is, but is it their initial intention? Perhaps. Or perhaps it's subconscious. Perhaps it is for all of us. When we work at soup kitchens, or given to St. Jude's or whatever are we doing it for altruistic reasons or just to say "see, Atheists can do good too!" Are we advertising ourselves as well? Is it even right to judge? As I see it, the religious groups are still the ones who do a great amount of work for the community. Advertising or not, things are getting done, are they not?

Food for thought though, for sure... What do you think?

I would be interested in an analysis of whether the funds would be better deployed if the religious groups didn't enjoy tax benefits? I think they serve the the community only to try and get people on board in a subtle way and to justify their tax exempt status. They do of course do it for guilt/ulterior motives as well as it books them a place in fairy land as well. 


That's true... but like you said we all have in-group, out-group mentalities. For Atheists, we can tend to judge the religious people heavily and not realize we are doing some of what they also do. Although we may not meet weekly and disallow those not like us into our fellowships, we do heavily judge those not as "enlightened" as us, sometimes. 

Judging will always be a daily component of human activity. I do not begrudge religious people their right to judge... my judging is based on facts, theirs is based on delusions. IMO, the atheist position is stronger. ;)

Just curious because that's an interesting point, can you give examples of the judging based on facts? I can see how their opinions are based on delusions, certainly, but "facts" seems like a strong word to me. 

God is delusion, male domininion over female is delusion, human dominion over nature is delusion, 'good' and 'evil' are delusions, 'right' and 'wrong' are delusions. Everything is based on HUMAN words, words used in order to acquire power. I have studied science for so many years, that anything that comes out of a religious mouth is ridiculous to me. So I do judge religious people, because NOTHING they do is based on evidence, all is based on perception. There is little I distrust more than human perception.

You know... like people who see lights in the sky and immediately jump to the conclusion: Aliens! or people who see reflections or hear noise in a house and jump to the conclusion: Ghosts! or people who say: I could feel it in my bones that that was going to be a lucky number when they win lottery. These kind of delusions really depress me.

"because NOTHING they do is based on evidence, all is based on perception. There is little I distrust more than human perception."

Interesting! TNT666, if I may ask, what is your epistemology? If perception is not it, than what do you base your knowledge off of? 

Surely it can be observed (excuse the pun!) that one interpretation is more delusional than another. One sees lights in the sky and says "aliens!" another says "airplane!" The former seems absurd. However, one will need to establish a proper form of obtaining knowledge if anything is to be furthered in such a debate!

It's all about being verifiable. The definition of supernatural is its unverifiability. Some people prefer to live in an unverifiable world, because it seems more romantic, or it gives greater value to the imaginary. Work on tribes which have adopted colonial ways shows a concordance of 'valueing the imaginary'. But anthropological work on isolated tribes, who've not had contact with us shows that there is simply no place for imaginary in people who live off the land. A plant does what a plant does, the animal feeds so many people. Our First Nations have been in contact with whites for so long that our ways have rubbed off on them, and they come to use words such as spirituality, in the way white people use them, and this is a great loss to human kind. Although all my schooling is in science, I am more of a contemplator than a knowledge seeker/modifier. I see that humans have had only catastrophic influences on this planet, and I directly associate that with our obsession with the imaginary, the possible, the dream. In this sense, atheists in general have failed to distance themselves from their religious origins. Humanism is centered on the very same principals as all other religions, advancing humans... as if it was some sort of competition, some ultimate meaning of life. I have never felt that urge to modify/destroy my environment. Most knowledge, based on valueing the imaginary and possibles, has overall been good for the victory of humans over nature, but it's been bad for the ecosystem.

In the end, it's not entirely how we get knowledge, but what we do with it. If knowledge served respect instead of destruction, I'd be less wary of it. Knowledge existed way before modern science came about, and also before humans developed religions. At this point in my life, any knowledge that increases the gap between humans and the natural world, I consider to be wasteful knowledge. In this way, my favourite scientist is the naturalist, because they're focused on knowing without destroying.




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