Are you open about being an atheist or are you in the closet?

I am semi in the closet. I do have to admit that I am not comfortable discussing my views with just anyone. I am the type that wants everyone to like me (such a fault I have!) and I am nervous someone will think I am a bad person. Even when I find someone who is passionate about science, I still try not to venture down that avenue. So lucky to have you guys!

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I hate to tell you this, Anthony, but your experience sounds perfectly usual to me here in the south.  This was your typical redneck not a psychopath at all.  And you responded in the only way you could have to avoid any kind of unpleasantness.  You are talking here about people who handle rattlesnakes at church.

Same here Anthony. I am becoming more out of the closet gradually. Hope to be all the way out of the closet one of these days.

Try this:  These are people who love to reinforce each other’s crazy belief system.  So play that game; they’ll love it.  Start with learning some buzz words like, Amen, Jesus is Lord, and try to sneak a couple "begottens" in there. 


Hit ‘em with, “you know, the Holy Paraclete sure loves the blood of the lamb.”  You could say “Holy Ghost” but “Paraclete” sounds more devout and mystical.


Try, “The Garden of Gethsemane doesn’t have weeds.”  They’ll love it. 


You’re walking past a church while the congregation is coming out.  Notice, “it’s a beautiful day today, but it stormed like heck on Mount Cavalry when Christ was crucified.” 


Keep on spouting this stuff and they’ll make you an elder in no time.  Religion is a game.



Good points Richard.

I'm open, but I think it's because my environment allows me to be. There are times when I have to check myself or not respond in the manner I wish to, but I have a couple of real life friends that I can openly discuss things with. I want people to like me as well, so I often do the cost/benefit thing. Fortunately there are communities like this where we can talk openly.

In my country it's not a matter of being a believer or a non-believer, but being anything else instead of christian orthodox. So the reaction an atheist will have coming out will be the same as a christian catholic will have. As you can understand, my society is not "shocked" for not believing in any deity, but for not believing in their specific one.

I prefer not to talk about religion with any believer, because the few times I did it I made the other persons feeling depressed and unhappy(as we all know, atheism is not an optimistic belief). So, whenever I'm asked why I don't put my cross after a prayer or why I don't go to church, I just say "because I'm agnostic" refusing to elaborate.

"atheism is not an optimistic belief"? Your statement struck me as odd. I don't feel that way at all about atheism. To believe that some process started all this diversity, and with time and space expanding from some source, the Big Bang, perhaps, and has evolved into all these diverse forms and functions that just astounds me. I feel so lucky to be a conscious person, sharing a very small spark of time on the Earth, and will return to atoms and molecules when my time is completed. There is no end, only change. Some spark started the process, some spark started you and me, and we followed the DNA blueprint to become who we are created to be. It is our job to give a definition of who you and I are. No one has the right to define us or mold us into some creature of their desire. We are perfectly imperfect just as we develop.

We have the responsibility to be all that we are capable of becoming ... nothing more, nothing less. A moral code resides within us and we don't have to go searching for a guru or pope or potentate to define us. We are created Homo sapiens sapiens, meaning we are social creatures, finding safety and comfort in bonding with other Homo sapiens sapiens. If you or I are unhappy, our jobs are to find fulfillment, self-respect, work that comes from our native interests, a loving, healthy community. If, by chance, we get into dysfunctional relationships, it is our responsibility to either make the relationships healthy or build new ones.  

The silliness of religion deserves only contempt. The history of religion, I don't care which one you look at, is the root of violence. 

"A moment’s reflection attests that religion and violence are often woven together in history’s tapestries. Any number of religions have justified violence under certain circumstances, and others have become caught up in its processes. In the ancient world, Zoroastrianism transformed earlier combat myths into a theology of eternal apocalyptic struggle between good and evil (Cohn 1993: 114), and ancient Judaism forged a confederacy under conditions of war (Schluchter 1989: 185, 200). Early Christianity had its martyrs, and the medieval Roman church, its crusades and Inquisition. As for Islam, the close association between rulership and religion -- together with the principle of jihad (or holy war) as a vessel of reformation -- infuse politics with enduring potential for violence. 

~ John R. Hall, Religion and Violence: Social Processes in Comparative Perspective

"Religion kills. Throughout human history, people have killed in the name of their gods. Emile Durkheim rightly stressed that religion serves to strengthen the bonds of solidarity among those who worship the same god, in the same way. But the flip side of this solidarity is enmity towards those who worship other gods or worship the same god differently. Religious boundaries separate the pure and virtuous ‘us’ from the impure and evil ‘them’. We who worship our god our way are truly human. The Other, who worships other gods, or the same god differently, is less than human and thus killable. Yet while the hostility towards the Other found in most sacred scriptures has often had lethal consequences, one cannot assume that these texts dictate the actual behaviour of believers for all time. Scriptures are constantly being reinterpreted as historical circumstances change. And some conflicts in which sacred texts get invoked may infact have secular causes." 

Henry Munson, Religion and violence

Hector Avalos: Religion and Violence, A New Theory for an Old Problem

I certainly agree, Joan.  That line about atheism not being an “optimistic belief” struck me also. 

Did you look at Barbara Walker’s Compilation of Biblical Quotes that I posted a few days ago?  Here’re a few beauties. 


1. KILLING.  (As in "Thou shalt not"???)

The biblical god personally kills a total of 371,186 people, not counting his slaughter of every living thing in Genesis 7.  The biblical god also orders the killing of a total of 1,862,265.

 Gen. 22:2 - God accepts human sacrifices (including that of Jesus, later).

Ex. 12:29 - God kills all the firstborn in the land of Egypt.

Ex. 15:3 - God is a god of war.

Ex. 21:15,17 - Anyone who strikes or curses a parent must be killed.

Ex. 22:18 - Every witch must be killed.

Ex. 22:19,20 - You must kill anyone who "lieth with a beast," or who worships any god other than Yahweh.

Ex. 31:15 - Anyone who works on the Sabbath must be killed.

Lev. 20:10,13,27 - You must kill adulterers, homosexuals, wizards, and spirit mediums.

Lev. 21:9 - Any priest's daughter who fornicates must be burned alive.

Lev. 24:16 - Blasphemers must be killed.

Deut. 3:4 - God is pleased that his warriors destroyed 60 cities.

Deut. 7:16 - You must kill all the people God delivers into your hands, and

"thine eye shall have no pity upon them."

Deut. 13:5 - Any prophet or "dreamer of dreams," who serves another god, must be killed.

Deut. 13:6-9 - If your brother, son, daughter, wife, or friend tempts you to

worship other gods, "thou shalt surely kill him."


Who the heck sees the above as optimistic?  Some kind of ghoul or Mafia don. 

It certainly supports Mssrs Hall and Munson’s assertions about religion and violence. 



Alex, you should state the name of the country so we get an idea what you’re talking about.  My only advice would be to seek out like-minded people so you can be yourself and not have to filter what you say and think so securely. 

I question your line, “as we all know, atheism is not an optimistic belief.”  We don’t all know.  In my opinion, not believing in nonsense is liberating and the essence of freedom. In my belief system, humans will do well to eradicate the last vestiges of mythology, so we can move on to a true spirituality based on humanism.

We’re making progress, but it’s a slow process. Instead of “keep the faith,” say “learn science and how to think critically” so you won’t need to deceive yourself with false hope.



When I said "as we all know atheism is not an optimistic belief" I was thinking about atheist general opinion on death and how horrible it is (at least for me) to believe that one day we just stop being(I know that we still exist as atoms and molecules, but we will have no consciousness).

I must admit that I'm surprised to learn that many people find atheism an optimistic belief.

I'm from Greece by the way :d

Both ends of the emotional spectrum are unfounded in this scenario. If you cease to exist, you don't exist, there is no happy, no sad, it's just non-existence, and as such, it logically should be neutral in one's mind.

What you've written sounds so much like myself I don't even think I need to write a response.




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