Are you open about being an atheist or are you in the closet?

I am semi in the closet. I do have to admit that I am not comfortable discussing my views with just anyone. I am the type that wants everyone to like me (such a fault I have!) and I am nervous someone will think I am a bad person. Even when I find someone who is passionate about science, I still try not to venture down that avenue. So lucky to have you guys!

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Me too.  On Facebook I say I'm a Secular Humanist (not atheist).  Make 'em look it up; they'll get the drift!
I'm an open Atheist except for one relative of mine who is 90 years old, I don't really know what his views are, but I wouldn't discuss my disbelief with him. I try not to brag about it, but if anyone asks, sure, I'll let them know what I know to be true. I have a decent good grasp on Astrophysics, Biology and Physical Anthropology (Human Evolution) so when anyone wants to argue that "there's just so much we don't understand, blah blah blah, there must be a higher power, blah blah" I can reply with certainty that my claims represent reality.
The ask and tell policy.  Yes, that's my way as well.  I live in France and have a lot of company when it comes to non-theists here, so I never hide my non-belief.  I post atheist related articles or videos on my Facebook page (I especially like Sam Harris' material).  I haven't been asked if I'm an atheist, but I did answer in the negative the question:  Do you believe in god?

In places like South Africa especially in the black communities when you come out of the closet and say you are a full blown Atheist they start deserting you and telling each other that you are satanic and got possessed by forces of the dark.. Worse part, I only listen to heavymetal rock and have posters of Slayer and Black Sabbath on my bedroom wall.. And yeah, after going through that process of being named Luciferian, I decided its better if I keep my thoughts a secret..

Before I let my religious fam know my views I had the worst visions of what it would be like. I let it eat at me for 10 yrs. I finally hit rock bottom during my divorce and told everyone.  I went to church every sun before. When I told my preacher he asked me if I thought he was full of crap lol. I told him the only reason he is a Christian is because he was born in America where it is dominant. If he was born in china he would likely be Buddhist. But I told him I still loved him and I don't have any malice towards him. It was hard. BUT once it was over with it was a huge weight off my chest and I realized that it wasn't even close to the hardest thing I've been through. You'll find the strength.
I'm pretty much out of the closet with friends and family.  However, I googled my name and found my Atheist Nexus website page.  That freaked me out, so I changed to just using my first name.  When you fill out the Profile page, it asks for your Full Name, so I had just given it without a thought.  I guess I'm not so far out of the closet that I want just anyone looking me up to find out.
Me too! 
You have to go to My Settings, and click on My Page, and change your name in the website address, also.  Then when someone clicks on your name from Google, they get Page Not Found.
I am not fully open about being an Atheist.  I try to avoid religious and political topics as much as possible.  I try to avoid conflict.
Are you ever in a situation where you can't hold back and you say something?  I can  think of two conversations earlier this year where as soon as the words rolled off my tongue I regretted it.  Oops :-)

Well I have to make sure I restrain myself sometimes -- isn't always easy to do.

I'm very much in the closet.  My wife has no idea.  The only people who know are a couple of people I work with that are of similar belief.  We all work in this small southern town where there are 7 churches and no stoplights.  I quit believig about 2 years ago (I think I disbelieved longer than that but didn't really come to grips with it until then) My wife has been a believer since childhood and is actually a very strong rational thinker but refuses to apply it to her beliefs as that might "lead me down Satan's path" (her words). We live with her mother who is 80 years old and has the logical reasoning skills of a 3 year old. (Anything she doesn't understand is "stupid!")  THis woman sends a total of about $100 a month to various televangelists.  I know i'm being dishonest and living a lie but at the same's just hard.  I feel like that if I came out to my wife she'd divorce me and keep my son away. The first part would hurt, but  I could live with it.  That boy of mine, however, is my universe....I guess as a parent you have to make a lot of decisions and do things that don't make a whole lot of sense.  I guess I'd rather be here to protect him from the full force of the crazy than to let him get it undiluted.  But at least somebody in my real life knows what i'm going through and can sympathize.




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