Are you open about being an atheist or are you in the closet?

I am semi in the closet. I do have to admit that I am not comfortable discussing my views with just anyone. I am the type that wants everyone to like me (such a fault I have!) and I am nervous someone will think I am a bad person. Even when I find someone who is passionate about science, I still try not to venture down that avenue. So lucky to have you guys!

Views: 10842

Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Interesting scenario, Anthony.  Of course it would be reckless to irritate this guy.  Did he seem a little psycho when you were talking?  Did he ever mention violence?  Your point is well taken.

Suppose you were in a Muslim country.  Then the danger would be worse.  (At least at the present time, not so as we move back toward the Middle Ages and the Crusades.) 

The threat of violence is some sort of defense mechanism for the belief system.  Makes it a lot harder to confront it head on. 

Being a chicken myself, I would have not only told him “Christ is Lord” but soldiers of Christ should be given medals like they do in the U.S. Army. 



Let's put it this way. Would you think someone who comes out of the woods with a deadly weapon past the legal time of day for deer hunting and asks you if you believe Jesus is Lord was a psycho ? And when it comes to being out of reach of such a person I'm a chicken too, lol. And, as a matter of fact, about two years before that I got an anonymous letter printed in marker post marked from Knoxville but with no return address, saying I had the wrong friends, and that my judgment day was coming.

Are you familiar with Pat Condell on Youtube?  He’s an atheist orator, you might say.  He once displayed his hate mail and it was very scary indeed.  Scores of it, the idiocy of it!.  Brave guy.  Check him out on Youtube if you’re unfamiliar.  He gets millions of hits. 

The point is the vitriol is all bluster and mindless ire.  But I admit it only takes one jihadist to make it real.  That’s what makes the threats so effective.

One thing's for sure, you did right to realize your situation. 



I love Pat Condell and agree he's a very brave guy.  I'm not near that brave.

 Sometimes, I think it's not a matter of bravery, it's just not being stupid.  Like in Anthony's night encounter, I would have been very careful what I said, and lying would not have been out of the question.

Anthony's story bears an uncanny resemblance to an exerpt from Mirror Reversal, the Atheist Novel at the right.  There are certain times in our lives when reality changes to a more primitive level.   

Homer’s heart raced; he still didn’t know what to do.  He hated that situation when consciousness is raised above the mundane, when the parties involved realized exactly what they were—jungle animals threatening one another for territory and breeding rights. 



PC is one of the stupidest racist sexist atheists in the limelight. I no longer watch any of his vapid videos. He's the kind of atheist that makes us all look bad.

I hate to tell you this, Anthony, but your experience sounds perfectly usual to me here in the south.  This was your typical redneck not a psychopath at all.  And you responded in the only way you could have to avoid any kind of unpleasantness.  You are talking here about people who handle rattlesnakes at church.

Same here Anthony. I am becoming more out of the closet gradually. Hope to be all the way out of the closet one of these days.

Try this:  These are people who love to reinforce each other’s crazy belief system.  So play that game; they’ll love it.  Start with learning some buzz words like, Amen, Jesus is Lord, and try to sneak a couple "begottens" in there. 


Hit ‘em with, “you know, the Holy Paraclete sure loves the blood of the lamb.”  You could say “Holy Ghost” but “Paraclete” sounds more devout and mystical.


Try, “The Garden of Gethsemane doesn’t have weeds.”  They’ll love it. 


You’re walking past a church while the congregation is coming out.  Notice, “it’s a beautiful day today, but it stormed like heck on Mount Cavalry when Christ was crucified.” 


Keep on spouting this stuff and they’ll make you an elder in no time.  Religion is a game.



Good points Richard.

I'm open, but I think it's because my environment allows me to be. There are times when I have to check myself or not respond in the manner I wish to, but I have a couple of real life friends that I can openly discuss things with. I want people to like me as well, so I often do the cost/benefit thing. Fortunately there are communities like this where we can talk openly.

In my country it's not a matter of being a believer or a non-believer, but being anything else instead of christian orthodox. So the reaction an atheist will have coming out will be the same as a christian catholic will have. As you can understand, my society is not "shocked" for not believing in any deity, but for not believing in their specific one.

I prefer not to talk about religion with any believer, because the few times I did it I made the other persons feeling depressed and unhappy(as we all know, atheism is not an optimistic belief). So, whenever I'm asked why I don't put my cross after a prayer or why I don't go to church, I just say "because I'm agnostic" refusing to elaborate.



Update Your Membership :




Nexus on Social Media:


© 2016   Atheist Nexus. All rights reserved. Admin: Richard Haynes.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service