I was looking again at a NYTimes article about turning negative thinkers into positive ones. I liked that the article not only described the benefits of positive emotions, and the hazards of negative emotions, but then discussed strategies to foster positive thinking.
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Michael, you are a realist, you know the background story of so many things and you teach us as you respond and in your posts. You have a great gift and you willingly share that information with us. I think you enjoy being able to contribute to a conversation, and I enjoy reading your input. You experienced what many others have and you know from where they come. The other person feels affirmed, knowing that at least one other person understands. That seems optimistic to me.
Daniel, perfection! We are happy, content, confident of our position. And, we have our problems to overcome, just as everyone else. We don't have superhuman powers, we have powers of realism.
A benefit of being happy, is it really annoys the hell out of people who prefer to see you suffer.
Yeah, but if I'm wanting others to be unhappy, I'm not happy.
You are right again. And if I want to be happy, I make others happy.
I am not responsible for whether other people are happy or not, but I do know it is suicide to live with a negative person.
I like Laura's style, she wakes up with a happy greeting to everyone, finds something good about everyone, which keeps me on my toes because I am a world-class judge. When a problem or conflict occurs, she used active listening to hear the other person, speaks her mind and clearly and non-judgmentally as she can, and then looks for ways to solve the situation with input from others and critical thinking to find a solution that all can work with.
A good example is how she uses her work crews. She knows the skills of each employee, she knows what they don't like. She spells out the project describing what she wants the end product to be. She breaks the tasks according to function: some are good at planning, some at physical labor, some are good at keeping inventory, others at writing. There are times when people need to be able to cross-over to another task and they do it willingly. She keeps the team working as a team, not as individuals working on their projects. She keeps them focused on the end result. When the task completes, all celebrate!
Good one Daniel.
A lot of religious people are that way. They especially want to see atheists suffer. Perhaps because they’re suffering with cognitive dissidence, along with shame, guilt, and fear.