Well that first post from me was just the initial response to the first few posts – but now I’ve read the whole thing I have a slightly different take on it. I’m surprised that I’m the only one it seems that has taken Egan’s initial comment with much humour and hilarity!
I think I must be quite detached from notions of ‘doing good’ in the world – I spend most of my childhood in pain and having compassion with others and so have spend a large part of my life thinking desperately how I might help and save others from this pain.
At the end of the day, you can’t save the world! And in light of evolution and natural selection – and even the heat death of the universe.
From all this I’ve come to quite a simple place. Life is hard and painful – anyone who has given birth can attest to this! Therefore – enjoy your life – do what you will to enjoy it.
Some recommendations – which you can study further in the group on here Compassionate Connection (CC)– consider my own and others basic needs (see discussion on CC) –
In fact here are the 4 I like best:
Be mindful of our own feelings and needs – now and into the foreseeable future – with equal consideration of others feelings and needs – again into the foreseeable future. Use protective force where others lack tools to consider others need for safety – and be mindful to show appreciation of self and others as a matter of course.
What this basic ‘philosophy’ amounts to is this – if you can successfully care for a child into the foreseeable future IYO – then have one, foster or adopt one – what ever you deem most appropriate. If you can’t then don’t.
If you find it hard to gain happiness in life – seek and seek some more – that’s what I’ve had to do – I’ve had many times in my life when I wish I hadn’t been born, been angry with my parents – none stop almost – for having me – and have wished that I wasn’t here any more – not much of an existence – but I’ve very recently found much more happiness in life – it took me 32 years but hey at least I’ll have the rest of my life in reasonable happiness – hopefully : ) my main problems consisted of mental health problems and minor related physical health problems that I’ve been able to fix essentially through changing my diet and changing my attitude.
then what are you doing here? shouldn't you be at church, seeking your illusory happiness?
i'm like george carlin, all i'm asking for is a little consistency. either you see the world as it is and work to make it better, or you tune out reality, seek short-term happiness, and wait to die. most people do that through religion. why would you object to religion just to form your own similar fantasies?