As an Atheist, how do you deal with it?

It's definitely, definitely the hardest thing for me. I think about how crappy it is to have a mother who is hurt by my religious decisions, but how much worse would it be to realize that when I lose someone in my family, they're gone forever?

A lot of the Atheists I speak to don't think about it, or don't seem to mind. What do you think?
(Hopefully this isn't a duplicate thread.)

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Humans, being so high in the food chain, sequester a high concentration of nutrients, but why? For whom do we sequester so many nutrients? The manner with which we entomb or decedents is inequitable to the environment. My desire is to be planted as food for an endangered Redwood tree.
Well I think that your fear of death is a large reason why religion exists at all; because it offers that of-so-soothing answer.
In fact, my girlfriend has a son who she was considering raising a deist because she was worried that the coldness of the reality of death would traumatize him.
I think that one of the most universal principles of atheism is that the truth is always the most important thing.
Maybe I'm not the best at giving death advice since I have no fear of death at all, but perhaps it would make you feel better to change your perspective from yourself or your family to the world - the human species. If you or someone close to you dies - nothing at all ends. The world goes on almost exactly as before, and everything is essentially fine. :-)
A christian guy I know said, "When my time comes, I'm ready to go".
Not me. I like it here on earth, a lot. I don't want to leave. It's not that I'm afraid. I was afraid when I was a believer. I didn't want to burn and I didn't want to see demons! Hell, even heaven seemed kind of scary!
Now, as an atheist, there's no christian afterlife to fear. There's probably just incomprehensible nothingness. But still, I don't want to go. This is the best place for me to be. I really want to stay.
I don't fear death. In fact, I have made preparations for it as early as ten years back. I have selected and purchased the spot where I will be buried and worked on the details of my memorial. No, I am not dying or terminally ill. Death is just inevitable. All a question of time. I live each day as if it were my last so to speak. :)
I wouldn't say I'm optimistic about death but I try to keep my mind open because the universe itself is so impossible and weird that maybe anything is possible. I look outside the window and I think that if my consciousness is the only thing keeping me separate from all that maybe death isn't so bad. Maybe there are other states of being maybe not. I suppose were all on a win win we believe in an afterlife and get it or we don't and we will never know or we believe we will be nothing and we get nothing or we get something as a pleasant surprise XD I don't want to die I love my life and I love the people in it but I suppose its a fair trade a life for a life.
I really admire those people who say "I'm going to die, there's nothing I can do about it. I accept it. Nobody knows what happens afterward, theres no point worrying about it I'm just going to live my life as best I can." I hope one day I can say that truthfully.
I almost feel guilty when people struggle to move past the fear of death because for me, and it seems I'm not alone on this site, the lack of fear towards death is natural. It does not feel like a trait that is any more admirable than being a brunette, it is simply one of those things. Honestly the idea of eternal life was far more frightening, unnatural and creepy to me than death ever was.
Perhaps it is a family trait. There are books and web sites devoted to positive things to be done after one dies that include everything from green funerals to becoming gem stones or coral reefs. That may help some feel more a part of the circle of life.
Here's what I say to my kids (10 & 4 years old), when they ask about death or like "where do we go when we die?", I say, "Do you remember where you were before you were born?". They usually answer "No." So I simply say, "That's where you go. To that same place you came from."

It's kind of similar to what Dawkins is saying in that clip, (btw, thanks for that.) What I say to slightly more mature friends is, "We've all been dead already. We've been dead for most of history. It's only now, this moment, that we're alive. And it's extremely short time wise. So we should enjoy it. Live for today. It's all we've got". Ironically, it's similar to what Jesus Christ was saying.

Here's a meme to spread. Jesus was an atheist. Most likely I think. He was too smart not to be.
I agree with you that we are probably go back to where we were before we were born when we die but I don't remember being born or much of my infancy but does that mean it didn't happen? I'm not going all religious on you I just thought it was an interesting point to make.
You are right, in that we do not know what did happen, or what will happen. However, it makes sense to act according to that which we believe is most likely to occur. There certainly are many bad ways to die! To reduce the chances of experiencing one of those, it makes sense to me to try to have alternative possibilities - with the following caveat:
If one becomes obsessed, depressed or otherwise overwhelmed with the thought, it's probably best to simply continue to avoid thinking about it. Death will occur with or without a person helping it.
Me I try not to worry about dying because I feel that me being alive is the greatest gift of all time. I watched a certain documentary with Richard Dawkins about the odds of all of existing. The right sperm and the right egg had to come together to form you, then you had to survive the 9 months until birth, then if you were a sick baby like me you had to survive after being born. Don't worry about death, focus on living. Read all the books you can enjoy your family while you have them and focus on the positive things in life. Life is too precious to be wasted thinking about death or fearing it. You are doing the very thing billions and billion of people who were never born got a chance to do, LIVE!
I think the most significant thing to note is that they're no longer in pain.

After that, you realize that mourning death is for the living. We will miss them, regardless of faith, and our days will be darker without them in it. The promise of seeing them again...well, there's nothing that can guarantee that in any case. Some heavens say that we will be who we died as; do I have to be overweight for all eternity? Some heavens say that we will be the best of ourselves. Will I recognize my great-grandmother in her early twenties?

There's nothing in any book that says you can't miss someone. When you love someone, and they pass away, your life is forever changed. But I say this: celebrate them for who they were when they lived, and love them for who they were, and worry less about what happens to them after they die, and more about how you will carry on their memory once they're gone.

We all want our loved ones to go on to a better place. But what if that better place is simply a nothing, a less than the physical or emotional pain they knew here?




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