If your heroes are celebrities or historical figures, also include whether you personally know (as a friend or just a bystander) anyone you consider a hero.
I realized recently that, while there are people I look up to for any number of reasons, there is not a single person I know who I want to actually model myself after. I know not one person who lives according to the values I believe are important. I would not call anyone my "hero." (If this is your definition of "role model," then feel free to use that term as well. I'm not sure if everyone thinks of role models as people they would actually model themselves after or just as people with some admirable characteristics.)
I can speculate as to why it is that I don't have any real life heroes, but I don't honestly know. I wonder how common it is. Is it universally true? Is it that every person has a unique ideal image?
The philospher Epicurus. From what I have been reading, I perceive him as a twin mind, as if he and I are birds of a feather. I could imagine him as the right partner to share my life with, unfortunately, he lived 2300 years too early.
:/ I know how you feel, I have never had an adult -or anyone- in my life that I've really loved or even looked up to. I am too unique in both good and bad ways for there to be someone I could call a role-model. I am one of a kind, and it's lonely.
But it seems we have a least a few things in common, so I'll support you with what I have, it's not much but I hope the thought counts. : >
I mostly agree. I've looked up to several people in my life, but my opinion of them has not held fast through the years. However, the people I've looked down upon have treaded a pretty steady course.
Hero worship is very akin to lust/love relationships, it's an infatuation, an emotion based on a moment more than on reason. People in love (or in hero worship) tend to disregard character faults (relative to each and every one of us as they may be) in whom we love/admire, yet accuse a mere human of such behaviours. Love/adulation/worship are all included in the same 'willful blindness' phenomenon IMO.
Through the years, I've developed my own personal template of what I value in any human
-lack of impact on the planet and fellow humans
-willingness to fight those who do impact the planet and fellow humans.
Because overall, our humanity's impact, as I assess it qualitatively, not quantitatively, as do seeming a majority of atheists, has been a negative one. Overpopulation is due to modern amenities such as medicine and technology, not the lack of. Pollution, depression, poverty, cancers, all are results from a transhumanist (camouflaged as many religions) world view which desires more humans, and longer lived humans. This is not good for our true happiness.
Hero worship throughout history has generally favoured violence and destruction, others find more benign heroes such as Ghandi... but what impact did Ghandi really have in the end? none really. Is India a better country today than it was under British rule? I don't think so.
In my response, I use the words "heroes" and "role models" synonymously. They are two different but similar things, but you can replace "hero" with "role model," and I would still feel the same way.
It's refreshing to find someone else that doesn't have heroes, because it seems everybody does these days. I don't either, and I think I'm happier without them. It's not an ego thing; I just tend to think that looking up to somebody else would make me overlook my own qualities and (perhaps most importantly) flaws. Maybe it's my upbringing, but I've never looked up to anybody.
In fact, quite frankly, having heroes is kind of a turn-off. I can't help but think to myself, "is your life so empty?" To me, it's a sign of too much soul-searching perhaps, and not enough acceptance of yourself, warts and all. Too much of the "power of positive thinking" and not enough realism. It also strikes me as kind of ... well ... I don't know ... rude? To focus all that attention (and money) on one person and ignore all those other great thinkers and doers and achievers and *ahem* the girl/boy next door?
I wouldn't say that I have an ideal image, either. I'm more interested to see how I evolve naturally over my short existence on Earth. It's the journey that matters to me, not the destination.
He's not my hero, but this quote has stuck with me for many years. Say what you will about him (some of my harder-core-than-thou friends will call him a poseur), but he's stuck to his guns.
"I don't have any heroes. They're all useless." - Johnny Rotten
That they are, John.