How did you feel after leaving your religion and becoming atheist?

When I left islam and realized all other religions are a load of bull crap and became atheist It was one of the best feeling i had i felt free from guilt and can do anything you want like  accepting facts , sexual desires are ok , eating pork etc as long as your not hurting others. What about you what was how did it feel and what about your story ? Sorry for my bad English since it's not my first language.

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Kalliope, I don't know you but i'm happy for you. Welcome to our world.

I think I was sad, really. Then angry, not only at myself, but at those whose critical thinking skills I respected, leading me to conclude that I was wrong about them or that I was right and they have to know they're peddling nonsense. I was shunned by my faith for divorcing my first wife (we had no kids; it was no one's flipping business but our own). I had people telling me my second marriage was adultery by Christ's definition (who asked him?).

But I was sad to realize that I had wasted so much time studying and devoting myself to the understanding of a conflicting mess of fairy tales served up as holy truth. All the time I spent trying to figure out if Noah's Flood was true or false, worldwide or regional, could have been spent training a telescope to the sky or really getting a firm grasp of the truly awe-inspiring process of evolution by natural selection.

The worst thing about believing a fiction is the opportunity cost: you waste time doing something useless that could have been spent more wisely doing something constructive.

"...the opportunity cost...."

Thank you, TCS, for the reminder. I wasted much time and energy trying to comply with Catholicism. My healing required me to see that the time and energy Catholicism demanded had been doing something constructive for Catholicism: making me easier to control.

BTW, I minored in economics and your using the term 'opportunity cost' moved me to look for its first use. In Wikipedia I found this: The term was coined in 1914 by Friedrich von Wieser in his book "Theorie der gesellschaftlichen Wirtschaft." My mother spoke German but she didn't pass her knowledge to her kids.

I felt about the same as you did, free from all the guilt of not doing the religion and free to do activities or work in the time I would have had to go to religious services. I'm a lapsed Jew and my parents sent me to religious classes at their synagogue and the classes taught a higher level of Judaism than what my parents did so a vacillated between feeling guilty for not doing orthodox Judaism and just going along with what my family did or didn't do and in college I had to go to Hillel (a Jewish college organization) and Chabad (a sect of Hasidic Judaism) often and to weekday afternoon/evening services in addition to 2-3 hour long Saturday morning service and the Saturday afternoon/evening service, all in order to avoid feeling guilty for not doing it, so I would feel that I was doing my sacred duty to keep the Jewish traditions. I came out as an atheist in October 2009 but was still afraid to talk to non-Jewish girls or go to non-Jewish event until August 2010.

Now I am well familiar with what is wrong with religion and I say Judaism and probably religion in general also, is a system of bizarre, inherited, maladaptive, abusive, time-wasting, obsessive-compulsive behaviors and beliefs, a mental disorder people inherit and sometimes modify a little and have to do and pass on to other people in order to avoid feeling guilty for not doing it.

Well I de-converted the same day I was "saved" and I didn't know Atheists existed, I was kept in a bubble my whole life so.... I felt alone.

I'm really happy you feel liberated and free, it sounds like you feel really happy. Being free from unreasonable undeserved guilt is also a fantastic thing. I'm very happy for you Jaber Al Khayam

I felt liberated. In scripture Paul claims he had the scales fall off his eyes at conversion. This is exactly how I felt when I realized that I am atheist. What I had believed before was a lie.

Thank you for telling us, BenGee and Michael and everyone. We, too, feel really happy for you.  You are now more truly in the world of the free---the freethinking mind. 

Incredibly free for the first time in my life. It was from Judaism which I found very oppressive. I also self published a little book about it on createspace and suggest everyone do the same. Very therapeutic!!!

Eric Stone

Relieved and free. No more stressing over the sky daddy's judging my every thought. It's a sin to question in the fundie faith. Pretty much nothing there but all the ways you can go to hell. Lol. It's funny now. Then it was terrifying.
I doubted the whole story from the time I started hearing it as a child. The doubts never left me and the blind faith never kicked in.
Open atheist for twenty some years now.

 Jaber, ironically as an atheist for the first time in my life I have what religion promised. Peace. I have never been more happy or comfortable in my skin. I can now see clearly what is right and wrong. I never worry about offending some unseen God by doing what is natural, or by committing some thought crime, or committing some offense that I am not aware of. Yes peace.




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