More specifically I'm referring to when people tell you something like "God is punishing you" or "God loves you" when they know you're an atheist? The double standard in this is obvious when you reveal your view towards it and you're immediately labeled as arrogant or close-minded. I think this notion is asinine because the fact that they aren't receptive to your worldview is the very essence of being close-minded.
How do you "win" so to speak in these situations? What do you all do?
P.S. I'm thankful for atheist communities such as this because if I didn't have it to unwind I'd lose my mind.
When I was an atheistic Wiccan, I would simply reply with the equivalent statement: God bless / Goddess bless, Merry Christmas / Joyous Yule, &c.
Here where I live now, and everyone in the county knows me, no one gives me such greetings. (They still greet me of course, but leave out the religious overtones, except for one woman who used to be our neighbour and still thinks she can save us from her idea of the devil.)
In the latter case, she was more comfortable with me as a Wiccan than as an atheist. (I still hear the "you gotta believe in something" remark, but not so much anymore, as I believe in lots of things, just not unsubstantiated stories.)
There is no "winning" if your goal is to prove any kind of point to these kinds of people. They have a vested interest in deluding themselves into believing that you are the problem, despite any contrary evidence or reason, and without just cause. The best bet is to stay away from such people, and remember that while they may LOOK bright, that it is just because the speed of light is slightly faster than the speed of stupidity.
Well, once I felt really bad.
But little by little I'm getting used.
I am an atheist, I in live Brazil and here in our country to declare atheist is the same thing as being in "hell." (ironically)
I am sorry to hear of your rough experience. I hope you are able to find friends that are willing to accept you for who you are, rather than who they want you to be.
I just say "no'
If my acquaintances know my views about religion and say something like "god is punishing you," I return by saying, "I know your god is punishing me, because you are here." If they say something similar to "god loves you," I say " I know your god loves me because you are leaving." If they do not know me and make similar comments, I do not give them the time of day.