I was asked by an Xtian if I decorated for Christmas.
When I answered "NO" - I got the questions I have heard before.
"Are you against Religion? Are you against Christmas."
(Religion is bad - so yes I am against religion)
Any of you here get these same questions?
How do you handle them?
Steph, my favorite Winter Solstice greeting! I'm reposting to family. Thanks for posting.
No one seems to question that I don't decorate for Christmas anymore. Apparently many do not because it is so much trouble and overdone. I prefer the Happy Holidays because America is a melting pot with many different religions. Businesses cannot afford to show less respect for one over another and everyone knows this.
Oh I agree Lillie. I just don't have the time to decorate the house for xmas. Plus I feel no real need to.
When I was asked if I was going to our employee holiday party this year by a teacher I replied no. She almost immediately went into "don't you like the people here?...I like this school....I care about people here", so I replied "do you"? and ...thats good. I also said I am not into the whole christmas thing. She said "I am, I'm all about it". I said "okay".
I would also like to respond to being against Christmas or religion. It is a difficult question in that we are all individuals who have every right to be self guided to what belief you may want to believe. At the same time we are all dependant upon each other for our very own survival whether you want to admit it or not. That being said I feel perplexed in the fact that I do not want people who I depend on be obscured by religion. Even though I have no power to change a person's belief without their consent I feel liketheir belief of religion puts my survival at somewhat a disadvantage. You may ask how? Well, my first example would be pure social prejudice prevents me having the same opportunity others may have. Since religion is compellingly obvious and dominant around the world to most people, finding ways to be profitable in life can be very very tough for the average atheist.
This is a great topic. One of my favorite things about being an "out" atheist is that I don't even get asked if I want to go to a xmas eve service. Awesome!
I think they know I am atheist also but it doesn't seem to matter to them if it allows them a way to undermine me.
Earther, that might be what is happening here. I'm not really sure.
It is difficult to find out. No one really wants to take the blame for starting a war or fight or antisocial behavior unless they just don't care. My school has a holiday party and my boss has a gift give away during this time of year. I decided to not go to either this year. I have gone before and thought I would just be polite and social. I no longer feel I can do that and feel okay with it. I decided that I just won't go. My explanation to my friendly collegues will be that I am not trying to make them feel like they are doing something wrong but this is just my choice and I choose not to go. To me you just cannot take the religion out of an employee holiday party and gift giving. I know what it really is and I just cannot do it anymore.
I'm a quiet, reserved person. Christmas is the opposite of that. I like to think of my home as my refuge. With all of the craziness about christmas, crowds, marketing, inescapable muzak, bellringers, traffic, I want my house to be a peaceful, relaxing place where I can forget all of that. Plus, with decorations up everywhere we go, we don't have to put them up at home too. We can just go to the grocery store, and enjoy what they have put up.
I use that word "enjoy" advisedly. I hate it. But I don't want to argue with anyone about it either.
It's true, we may like to bring reminders of seasonality into our homes. In Spring, we may bring in daffodil and forsythia branches to celebrate.. In Summer, we may have a bowl of fresh fruit, tomatoes, or flowers. In fall, we may like having colorful leaves and pumpkins on the table. In the same way, we may want to acknowledge the Solstice, when our ancestors worried about loss of sun, and warmth, and food, and comfort, and we are so fortunate with those. For me, that usually means baking - bread, or pumpkin pie, or sweet potato pie, or something else. It warms the house, the smells bring back some good memories. It has nothing to do with chrismas, or my reaction to christmas.
If someone asked me about decorating, I hope I tell them some of this. Thanks for the opportunity to think about it, in case someone does.
They decorate at work. I try to ignore it. If someone asks, I can say, the decorations are everywhere. So I don't have to put them up at home.
Even then Pope acknowledges that christmas is not the anniversary of Jesus's birth. Jesus never declared that there should be a pagan holiday marking his birthday, and neither did Paul or any of his followers in the New Testament. Jesus preached against open displays of prayer. He preached against church-based money changers. He would not have approved of christmas. Since Christmas is not the anniversary of Jesus birth, even to christians, celebrating it would be like honoring 9/11 on March 30th. If someone doesn't know the real date (hard to know since there probably wasn't a Jesus as described in the Bible), picking Dec 25th is silly. Other gods were also "born" on that date.
Thank you Sentient for sharing your story.
I am also quiet and reserved.
I don't need the decor here - like you say - I can go outside and see it.
My neighbors on the corner have a small "trail of lights" display with singing air floats and everything.
They went all out on lights and balloons and everything!
Sentient - personally, I'm not even convinced that Jesus was an actual person. I've had this argument many times, but it is incomprehensible to me how Jesus - arguably the most important person in the history of mankind (if you buy into that malarkey) - was not even written about until decades after his supposed death and ascention into heaven. In the meantime, much was being written about other figures of far less importance, and any references to this Jesus figures in such historical writings are virtually nonexistent. He is supposedly multiplying fish, turning water into wine, walking on water, curing the sick, defying death, etc. - and nobody is writing about it? I get it that most were unable to read and write, but there were others who were, but chose to write about the mundane experiences of lessors. On the other hand, there is much historical evidence that Muhammed was an actual person, which seems to add a layer of credibility to Islam that Christianity does not have. Not that I care about either, since all religions ultimately lack credibility on a massive scale in my book, but it is strange how the concept of Jesus not even being a real person in history is rarely argued.
In God is not Great, Christopher Hitchens retells a story about the one time in his life that he actually felt physically threatened over religious discussion. Paraphrasing, it was at some political event in the US, and he mentioned this strange dichotomy to a zealous Christian in polite conversation, and the guy reeled back at stopped just short of kicking Hitch in the shins, berating him for his ignorance of the fact that Jesus means more things to more people in this country than anything else in the history of mankind.