Ahh... rhetorical question in that discussion title, I suppose.
A very nice middle school gym teacher, age 38, was in a head on collision on December 20 as she drove to work. An oncoming car skidded on ice and this lady is now in the hospital with intracranial brain pressure that is NOT resolving itself, still unconscious or being kept unconscous, with no improvement after over a week.
She comes from a small town in Kansas, but through her community, family, and friends has people seemingly all over the country praying for her at a furious rate. Post after post after post on a facebook site about the accident promise continuing PRAYER: "Praying", "Prayers being sent up", "Praying daily", "Still praying", "Prayers being sent your way". ENDLESS comments like this.
One must scroll through dozens and dozens of these to find ONE that simply says, "I'm sorry, I care, I hope things go well, I think of you many times a day." If maybe HALF the people who post about their concern for this woman mentioned praying, that would seem normal. But these stupid declarations of PRAYER are simply epidemic.
In a way, I sympathize with people who use the prayer nonsense as a way to try to comfort when there is no comfort to be had. I just don't understand WHY these statements don't sound as empty as they do to me. Surely "god" knows this woman is in horrible shape... does their imaginary god need to be constantly REMINDED that healing would be appreciated? HOW do people rationalize this ridiculous practice-- when (IF) they stop to think about it? The logical question is... does god COUNT prayer requests? The more the better?
What I've concluded is that offering prayers is just code for...for... for what?? Maybe talk of god is the "holiest" and "nicest" thing that people think they can cling to and offer in times of tragedy. But they are remaining ignorant children when they don't deal with the randomness and pain that can't be helped or cured by any amount of magical prayer talk.
It's hard to find caring words to say wihout resorting to the "praying" formulaic response. When I try to come up with something to say, it takes me a long time, but sometimes I do it. If I had medical connections or super doctors to recommend, THAT would be something helpful to do...
Frustrated by this subject and by people.
Mindy, if someone you love very dearly died and people kept saying things that don't ease your pain, you might consider stating exactly how you feel about their statement. I know, grieving time is not a time to get out your claws; however, the point of mourning is to feel comfort, not irritation.
Perhaps a simple,"I don't believe in prayer; I have no faith in god, My loved one is gone and I feel ... whatever you feel." The other person then has the responsibility to stop contributing to your distress; if the other person is more interested in his/her feelings than yours, you identify that person as toxic for you. Distance is about all one can hope for.
The important thing is not to be made a victim. You are in charge of how you grieve and with whom you share your grief.
"I'll bet she's laughing with us right now from above." Of all the religious BS I've heard, this is one of the most rediculous things. Religious people at cemeteries want to put the departed in heaven above when the body was lowered into the ground just moments before. It makes no sense.
Imagine that my wife and I are going out to dinner. I cannot find my wallet, but I know I put it on the night stand before. I keep on looking and looking, then my wife tells me my wallet will be found with the lawnmower in the shed.
Sounds perfectly logical to me.
Mindy, she is aware, and that is what is important. Not everyone believes there is an "above". She probably thought everyone shared her views until you made your thoughts known. Good job! You did it! Doesn't it feel just dandy?
B.K. I think there are
"places where a majority of people actually come to terms with something like this and dig deeply to express their pain and sorrow and feelings of helplessness without turning to this pervasive formula of meaningless superstition?"
I think institutions of learning, of science, of valuing doubt and questions, of those who travel with an open mind and curiosity, and those who hold a sense of skepticism that frees them from dogma offer place of reason.
For those 15% of scientists who believe in god and creation and salvation do not rely on the supernatural the way those who believe trumpets won a battle, or the parting of seas. I could be wrong on this. Francis Collins does not believe in the 6,000 year old Earth, for example.
I agree with his description of the laws of nature and disagree with his conclusions.
"So that certainly tells me something about the nature of living things. But it actually adds to my sense that this is an answer to a "how?" question and it leaves the "why?" question still hanging in the air."
~ Francis Collins"
"Why" questions seem to be perfectly understandable using the theory of evolution.
I notice whenever there is a catastrophe they always call for prayers - Like that will make some sort of magic happen. They should ask why god would do that in the first place.
As someone who has a disabled husband who went through catastrophic medical problems and continues to need much care, I am totally sick of the "praying" thing. I belong to a few caregiver forums and sometimes it really upsets me that no matter what I post, I get prayed at. Often I am looking for information or support, but instead I get religous mumbo jumbo. When I try to let them know that we are not religous, and ask for religion to be kept out of it, I get nasty comments. It's as if it is a given that I or my husband want/need prayers. I just don't get it, and have let people know that the insistence of bringing their gods into the discussions makes me not want to post very often.
What is "xtian"?
Yes. christian. Like Xmas. Idk really. But I assume t etemology has something to do w Christ being represented w a cross
It's Chi Rho superimposed...
aka Christogram...supposed to be the "vision" Constantine saw in a dream. There were no crosses in early xian art...their mythical friend was usually represented by the two intersecting horizontal arcs that made a "fish." That symbol was taken from the older goddess religion, with the arcs in a vertical position to represent a vulva .
sk8eycat, as usual, you find real treasures. Reading these historical accounts makes the claims of religious even sillier than before. We can begin to grin, then chuckle, break out into outrageous laughter until our sides hurt. Thanks, dear friend.
"Few Jesus worshippers are aware of this. Even fewer know that when they flaunt the "Ichthus" or Ichthys on a tee-shirt, car bumper or even the door of a state legislative office as a representation which originated in Christianity, they are in fact, displaying a more ancient symbol indicative of female anatomy and reproductive potency -- the very sign of the Great Mother."