This whole situation may be less a matter of LACK of empathy than SELECTIVE empathy. Certainly, I would expect that quality to exist between church members, the "US" group, and this is frequently evinced with outreach efforts by a congregation toward needy individuals of their membership. The problem, of course, is THEM: those either outside their ranks or with a stance or belief system contrary to their own ... like us.
When such an attitude appears, I would point out to them that their own holy book talks about inclusivity:
For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in.
-- Matthew 25:35-36
I would also remind them that there are organizations such as the Foundation Beyond Belief, which do such outreach REGARDLESS of who needs it and without the sub rosa need or intention to proselytize. There is also the fact that secular charities as a rule are a lot more efficient in terms of what they accomplish with the monies designated for such project than those operating with the direct imprimatur of the church.
"Shaming," you say? Perhaps ... but it's their book which talks about treating with "the least of these, my brethren" as equivalent to treating with their putative savior, and I wonder how often that gets forgotten by them.
Well put, Loren.
I liked what you had to say and I agree with Loren on selective empathy. I do hope some day, very soon, universal health care will not be a individual right but the right thing to do for peoplekind.