Well, that about says it.
So, I married a catholic. When we got married, she was under the
impression that, though I was agnostic (which was what I considered myself at the time), I still had some "belief" in
god. This was before I realized I was actually an atheist myself.
So, she currently is aware that I am a "full" atheist now, but she still completely accepts me, which is wonderful.
That's not to say it hasn't been the source of some tension, though usually it is my fault. Isn't that always the way?
So, a bit more about my wife would be appropriate I guess. Though she considers herself "catholic," she is what she calls a (very) liberal catholic. That is she believes in god, jesus, the trinity, and much of the catholic tenets, like virgin mary mythology, scapulars and such, but is completely accepting of things like Homosexuality, and she believes that morals and ethics do NOT come from god.
So, essentially, besides the belief in the "main" stuff, we pretty much agree on everything.
I have always had a general dislike for organized religion and such, but since realizing that I was an atheist I have been listening to a lot of Atheist Experience and Non-Prophets, and, as a result, I am constantly hearing more and more of the same atrocities of religion that I have disliked all my life.
Being that she is my wife, and my best friend, I want to talk to her, and these are some of the things I want to talk about.
Though she does not deny the terrible things that happen, and sometimes she is fine with talking about it, it is not always the case.
This is probably largely do to just getting overloaded with it. However, sometimes I get onto the topic of belief itself. I often ask her "why" she believes. These are usually the conversations that get a bit more emotional. Not just because she finds her belief to be something very personal and emotional, but also she seems to get very frustrated with not having an answer.
I am a HUGE advocate of teaching HOW to think, and not WHAT to think. This was very much how I was raised.
She agrees with me on this, and wants to raise our children with this thinking. But when it comes to applying this to her own thinking/beliefs, only with regards to her religion, she often shuts down.
Any who, though we still discuss religion, I have decided to try to never try to discuss why she believes anymore.
I cannot stand to put that kind of strain on us over something as trivial. Not that I find belief in such things to be trivial, but that, with regards to my wife (and many people who share similar beliefs) that there is no harm from her beliefs. She has absolutely no prejudices, or bigotry in her. Her brother is gay. She is the epitome of a good theist, IMHO.
That's not to say that I don't think she wastes part of her life. This is the only life we have, and we should cherish every moment we have. We should not waste any of our life "worshiping" fictional characters and belief structures. She also still takes many things on "faith." Believing things just because someone told her, like mother teresa, and such. I want to know that what I believe is true, and never have taken anything just because someone said so.
Any who, I just felt like sharing. I know there are several others who have posted similar threads on relations with theists, and this is mine.
I would still love any advice on living with a theist, and hope that I can impart any wisdom that I may learn from living with one.