A new organisation is stirring up controversy in Malaysia.
[The Obedient Wives Club] launched on Saturday, says it can cure social ills such as prostitution and divorce by teaching women to be submissive and keep their men happy in the bedroom. "Islam compels us to be obedient to our husband. Whatever he says, I must follow. It is a sin if I don't obey and make him happy," said Ummu.
Just wondering, but is female submission the only thing that makes men happy and keeps societies afloat? You hear this argument again and again all over the world, and the saddest thing is when you hear it coming from women.
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The Obedient Wives' Club also advocates the wives acting like "whores" in bed. So let's get this straight: be completely pure and antisexual until the minute you get married, suddenly be an accommodating sex freak (because years of negative reinforcement don't make a difference), but again appear pure and antisexual to the outside world. You are expected to flawlessly fill completely contradictory roles. And of course, anything men do is their wife's fault. If women look at another man, though, that's their own fault.
As much as I am not a fan of "look, the West is no better!" there have been a few psuedofeminist books like The Rules and The Surrendered Wife that had pretty much the same mindset: let the man take 100% control over money and sex, and be easy to live with (in other words, obedient, never arguing) to have a happy marriage. Of course it's easier when one person is dominant over the other, but that doesn't mean it's better. People just can't take the challenge of a relationship of equals I guess.
"She's everything a woman should be, a whore in the kitchen and an angel in the bedroom."
"I'm sure you have that reversed."
"Not last night, I didn't."
"And of course, anything men do is their wife's fault." -Prog Rock Girl.
Where does this assertion come from?
I frequently see examples of women blaming men (the "patriarchy") instead of taking responsibility for their own choices. And its typical these days to see men blamed when their wives or girlfriends commit horrible crimes (such as the woman who recently drowned her children in her mini-van). But I don't see any tendency in society for women to be blamed for men's actions. Could you cite some examples?
Perhaps you could explain to me how "And of course, anything men do is their wife's fault." was meant in some way other than to suggest that men blame women for their own actions? You seem to think your reading comprehension is superior to mine, so enlighten me.
And by the way, my reading comprehension test scores on my SAT, ACT, and GMAT were in the top 5%. Your insult is rather silly.
Obviously sarcasm and irony are lost on you, therefor it would perhaps be best not to jump to conclusions and then follow up by demanding an explanation. Maybe, just maybe you are missing something that other people do get.
Obviously you are unable to answer my question.
Now, you need to step back a pace and consider why....
Uhm...how much was there to read?
Indeed, had the post been longer and indicated that she was referring only to Muslim men, maybe it would not have been so offensive. But she didn't, because she wasn't.
So, YOU read it again. But read it critically. And try reversing the genders involved.