You know I am trying to understand what relationship means to me since I don't feel like I really have one. Relationship is the term I choose to use because it seems to cross over many issues of encounters to others. Some how I think we nontheist are trying to redefine what relationship means to us and how do we survive in it. Relationship and sex are similar yet one is more of a contact sport, if I may. In a relationship we have to wonder what is our roles and how do we perform in that role. Probably the best way to encounter a relationship is slow but as soon as I say that your probably thinking "no, fast!", right? I don't know. I do know you cannot force a successful relationship. How do we become engaged in a relationship though without playing the field? How do we become whole after a relationship has ended? How can we really expect one person can forfill the multitude of needs we all have? How can we not feel betrayed when our partners seek union with others. How can we trust when we are known to be skeptics? Relationship is a result of time on the job and a combined knowledge of trusting episodes. I guess we are going to be very busy in search of life with others.
Well if I joined a atheist nunnery, it would have to be a bunch of lascivious libidinous lesbians with a bunch of slave males!!!!!!!!! There is absolutely no need to partner up with someone if you don't have an urge to procreate. Unfortunately, I've recently moved back to a small town and promiscuity is less convenient here. Where I grew up and lived in my younger adult years, one-night encounters were one-night (or two or three) love affairs. Completely beautiful and intense. Promiscuity can be a beautiful way of life if you're living in a society where it is not frowned upon by a bunch of religious moralists! Of course, when you're living among a bunch of moralists, promiscuity can quickly lead to disastrous social relations. Moralists can be so mean.
While waiting for the perfect man, I've also fruitlessly fallen for gay guys! Now that is pretty sad!
I've tried religious compromise, the relationship always ends the same way. Things get serious enough, and then core beliefs come into play and ruin it. Why can't I just re-brainwash myself and go play stupid games with my girl on sunday mornings and raise a bunch of brainwashed kids?
Sign me up for Atheistic Priesthood. My parents always thought I was going to be a preacher anyway LOL!
Yeah that whole "bible memorization" plan of theirs backfired . . . I never made it to seminary to get all the extra theology that Dillahunty got though. I will say that I find his preaching FAR more enjoyable, engaging and entertaining than any evangelist I've heard.
Actually, Matt never quite made it to seminary, either. He was just studying intensely in preparation for the seminary, when he realized that none of the apologetic arguments were valid and sound.
My father actually made it through a couple years of Catholic seminary. I don't know that he was an atheist, but I have my suspicions.
Word. The mental gymnastics required to justify a lot of that stuff in seminary and theology in general would seem to get rather tiresome. My own intellectual stamina wasn't up to it . . .
Anyway, I hope I get cool Atheist Preist robes! I'm totally freeballin' in them when I get them :D! Can I get strippers instead of altar boys?
Suppose I might as well join the convent.
I've dated for beliefs, common interest, I've dated for looks, I've settled for the 'sweet ones'... recently tried having a relationship with a someone that I now realize I will only ever see as a nice friend, but we're completely incompatible as far as that spark goes.
So, I am left single, sexually frustrated, and now with an awkward friendship.
I've tried just finding someone for sex, it's not exactly hard to do... but I need more of a connection I suppose, and it's difficult to find. I am not waiting on 'perfect', I'm waiting on someone who can see me perfectly, and accept me and I them.
Preferably atheist of course. Someone who might like to read with me, catch a movie, or if I ever find a decent one in this black hole of the bible belt... attend a decent comedy club? lol, I miss certain activities from Dallas, the dates here seem far less adventurous. Or just a walk while we talk and get to know one another.
I need a slightly geeky guy, with a good sense of humor, who can handle a bit of sarcasm from time to time, and put up with my INTJ qualities... I'm young, but it doesn't take the sting of being completely alone away either really.
So, while I may not be avidly searching, I'm still hopeful I'll come across someone.