I'm new to this site, so I apologize ahead of time if this topic is repetitive.
About a month ago, a close family member of mine passed away after a four year battle with cancer. She was diagnosed at age 37, and despite all the prayers for her, she finally gave up the fight.
Having been raised Catholic, I rejected the religion entirely by the age of 15, and from that point on, I remained on the fence about the existence of a god - until about a month ago when my cousin died. The hardest part for me was during the last visit that I had with her, when I finally had the chance to talk to her one on one. She told me point blank, "I don't want to go yet. I'm not ready to die yet." Despite her incredible will to live, it wasn't enough.
Losing her made me reevaluate everything I thought I believed in in terms of a god or the afterlife, and I've since come to the conclusion that it's all a bunch of fairy tale, hocus pocus nonsense, and it is precisely the reason I finally jumped off the fence I'd been sitting on about god, and finally embraced atheism. Not only was this decision because of my cousin's death, but because atheism just makes more sense.
The religious people out there try to convince me of this divine master plan that "God" has in store for her, that he needed her in heaven and blah, blah, blah. All I can do is stare at them, absolutely baffled as to how anyone could be so deluded. How long are people going to keep making excuses for this so-called god, trying so desperately to make sense of the senseless?
I still haven't come out of the atheist closet to my family, and I don't know if that would be the best idea at this time. However, I believe that I will at some point in the future,
Part of my question also is whether or not any of you have switched to atheism after the death of a loved one? Something tells me I'm not alone here, so I'd love to hear what anyone else has to say. Thank you.
i'd been involved in a conservative christian church for around 10 years. Struggled - for most of that time - to do what was required of members, and to believe the teachings.
In the end I quit fighting it - mainly because I found that it didn't work. Jesus, if he existed at all, didn't care, and it's just not possible to have any sort of relationship with that. I'd also quit questioning doctrines/teachings/practices, and realised that much of what i'd been taught was lies, hatred and ignorance. I also got tired of being told that god loved me - how could he possibly love me when he'd allowed so many terrible things to happen to me during my life? He had too many excuses for allowing bad stuff anyway.
So I left, and never looked back.
There were lots of turning points for me, I was raised in a very religious family, but I never could fully get into it even though I tried (felt it was my obligation).
I started, at some point, to step outside my viewpoint and imagine how I would view my religious beliefs if they were some other religion instead... and they began to look downright silly and indefensible. Once that starts to happen the whole facade starts to crumble.
The first doubt came in anthropology 101. The professor said something similar to "If you believe in adam and eve, there's the door" (pointing to door). At 27, I tried my experiment. I used to pray before bed, and for some reason, one night, I just laughed and said to myself, "this is ridiculous. Let's see what happens when I don't pray" That's when everything became clear for me. I don't need to ask for help, and wonder why, I need to create the outcome that I want.
What happens when you don't pray is relatively the same thing that happens when you do pray.
glad you dropped by
Dave, I used to be a lay preacher. Later I come to realize that prayers are not answered. If you think they are it is a coincidence. I'm not on a fence. There is no logical evidence for a god. He does nothing because he is imaginary.
My critical thinking came by watching Jerry DeWitt videos on You Tube. I started waking up then. I have never met Jerry, but the way I see it we are both still preachers of a sort. He got further along in the ministry than I did also.
Jerry Dewitt seems to have a thriving congregation in Lake Charles, La. Did you see the threatening letter that a member received? > http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/2014/10/10/atheist-fam...
Thanks for that link, damian. That's some scarey stuff and sounds like somebody can't understand that non-theist has nothing to do with Satan. I missed this one because I've not kept up with Hemant Mehta recently. I hope they get this worked out. Violence is not called for ever.
Fuck, why do you people always give such long replies to shit?