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Just thought I'd introduce myself on here since I just joined the community today. So, hello, my name is Caity and I am an atheist. I more recently discovered my belief (or disbelief, whichever we say), a couple months ago. I had always not really cared about religion. My parents never forced it upon me and it was never really discussed in my home. As I got older, I became curious. I did my share of research and eventually began telling people I was agnostic whenever the asked. However, I never really felt content with that answer. It didn't feel... finished. So I tried some more, trying to convert myself to Christianity or something! I just wanted to feel like I fit in with the rest of my friends. I tried everything from praying to writing about it, and at one point I even tried to read the Bible. Did it work? For a little while, but it wasn't me. After more research, and I LOT more time with my thoughts, I finally came up with a conclusion. I. Am. An. Atheist. Of course this kind of scared me at first. I'm sixteen years old and I just discovered I don't believe in supernatural beings, what now?

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Permalink Reply by Bimmerella on August 21, 2011 at 10:42am

Your situation is soooo familiar to me! I was brought up catholic, but I never was able to buy what they were trying to sell. It just didn't make sense to me at all. I kept quiet, and I was a deeply introspective child. I didn't want to disappoint my parents or friends and family. But you just can't make yourself believe something that your logic is screaming at you is wrong. I, to this day, cannot fully disclose to some of my childhood friends my views on religion and god. It's just kind of a don't ask and don't tell type thing, but still their beliefs sometimes make it uncomfortable for me to be around them a lot. I do know this, the moment I came to the realization I was atheist, or rather the moment I admitted it to myself, I felt free. It's like finally allowing yourself to be free. You are young, and you have the rest of your life to use that freedom to ask any and all questions that you need answered without fear or internal struggle. You will meet people who are like minded, and exchange ideas, and find out that you are going to be just fine!

Now you get to get on with the rest of your life, limited only by yourself. You can ask the big questions, and seek out, guilt free, your own answers. They will be so much more satisfying, because they are YOURS. You are now outside of the sheep pen, and free to roam wherever your heart and curiosity takes you. Simply be who you are. If people can't accept you, for who you are, then they probably aren't good for your life. Not going to say it's always easy to think the way we do, but being truthful to yourself, seldom steers you wrong! Congratulations on your great revelation. I'm not applauding that you don't believe in god, I'm applauding that you had the courage to ask questions and come to YOUR OWN CONCLUSION. These are the kinds of people I admire! :)

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Permalink Reply by Steph S. on August 21, 2011 at 10:46am

Hello CaityBeth -- welcome to the Nexus. This site has a lot of information and resources for you. You can always chat with us on here about your concerns.

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Permalink Reply by Cheryl on August 23, 2011 at 12:02am

Welcome Caity. I was 15 when I consciously decided I was an atheist. I didn't come out to my mom, though, until recently. Reading books on atheism by atheist authors will help solidify your position and make you more comfortable with your decision. The library has a lot of titles under the key word atheist. Richard Dawkins "The God Delusion" and "Godless" by Dan Barker are two that I have enjoyed. I'm glad that you've found our community. It will help having people to talk to.