You'll have to bear with me here, while I set this up.

A few weeks ago, my cousin (not Doug from Atheist Nexus, another cousin), emailed to ask if she and her son could stay at our house overnight, as they had to attend a wedding nearby.

"Sure!" I said, despite the fact that we don't know them all that well and it would mean me having to give up my bed and make a two hour round trip to my nephew's house to pick up an inflatable bed for me to sleep in.

Last week, I get another email saying, "Oh, we've decided to come for two nights."

"Sure!" I said, and went out to buy enough food and wine and nibblies to feed them for the extra time.

After they arrived, I offered to pick them up from the reception if they'd drunk too much to drive home.

11.40pm last night the phone rings, "Can you pick us up?"

"Sure!" so out I go out and make a 50 minute round trip in the rain to pick them up in the middle of the night.

So, this morning, we're watching a panel discussion on television on the subject of religion and politics. During the weekend it had been made very clear to my cousin that my Mum and I are both atheists. Nevertheless, every time something was said about Christianity she spoke out in agreement, saying, "Yes! That's right! Absolutely!"

I bit my tongue until someone on the television raised the question of morality and ethics.
"Absolutely!" said my cousin, "Love, and caring and morality and ethics and compassion - they all come from God. They're all Christian attributes. If people don't believe in God, there wouldn't be any morality."

At this point my eyes bugged out of my head. Who the FUCK had given up their bed, toiled all day in the heat to make up nice clean rooms, fresh beds and bathroom for them, cooked their meals, bought wine, and chauffeured them around at midnight? Oh, yes! That's right! The non-caring compassionless immoral ATHEIST!

Still, I maintained my temper until she started on about homosexuality.
"God made men and women," she said, "And sex is only supposed to be for procreation."
"So," I said, "You never took the pill?"
She looked at me, puzzled.
"You only ever had sex so you could get pregnant?" I said.
She still looked at me blankly, but then said, "Well the Bible says that homosexuality is wrong."
"Yes," I said, "and the same Bible says that you should stone your disobedient children. Did you abide by that too?"
Another blank look, then, "Oh, well, it depends what part of the Bible it's from."

Then I lost it. I remember being in her face and saying something along the lines of, "Nasty, nasty, narrow-minded, mean-spirited, misinformed garbage!" before I said, "That's it! I'm outta here!" and stormed off to calm down. I was so angry I was white and shaking and my heart was pounding out of my chest.

I did calm down, somewhat, and returned to the lounge room. She came over and apologised for upsetting me. I told her that, as an atheist, I found it unbelievably offensive that she would suggest I had no love, compassion or morality because I did not believe in God.

She said, "Oh, I'm sorry if you took my comments that way!"

I said I was prepared to leave it at that, and things settled down. But I'm still bloody fuming. If it hadn't been for Mum, I think I would have thrown her out. How RUDE! Grrrrrrrrrrrr!

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You had every right to be upset. But, you know that.
Woah, i feel your anger. Xtians really believe that we haven't seen the light, and if we hear them agreeing with someone on tv, it will change our minds. I guess that could be called the volume tactic; say it loud, and you have to agree. I don't think most xtians realize the lengths we go through to combat this, and the time and attention we give to what the bible says. I think that's why she looked at you with a blank face. I think you handled it well. It was your house, and I know you held out longer than i could have. It's kind of like a double standard. Xtians feel obligated to preach to us, but we better not express our views. They don't even realize they are being outrageous. It seems i've been there before, meaning, i've been fuming mad when the other person didn't realize that he/she was doing anything offensive.
Sounds like she was just regurgitating soundbites she'd picked up with no thought at all. I'd have loved to have seen the blank looks you got from her when you called her on it. I'm imagining something like "rabbit in the headlights" meets "lights are on but nobody's home".

What you essentially did was get angry at a walking tape recorder. Don't worry too much about it. Just pat yourself on the back for your selfless generousity, even if there was no gratitude.
Just reading it pisses me off! I could tell you what I might have done, but your awareness of the situation is far better than mine.
I could tell you what Diogenes would have done... oh wait... maybe I better not.
I am sorry to say but as soon as she opened that can of worms in my house she would have been out on her duff, (insert nastier words if you like, I don't mind) I don't disrespect others beliefs and I won't put up with them disrespecting mine or my household.
Dam you have some awful relatives ! I know I am one of them!!

I am disappointed I have been replaced as the worst relative you have, I shall redouble my efforts and try harder.

I will come up and annoy you as soon as possible.

Hate you

your cousin Doug AKA Evil Doug
PS if you are ever dumb enough to invite them back PLEASE let me know and I shall come up and visit.

I think I can adequately demonstrate just how unkind, uncaring and without any form of human compassion us atheists can be when required.
It's OK darling, I'll always hate you more than any of my other relatives. ;-)
Termination Letter, WOW. Ending negative relationships sounds healthy to me.
I've done much the same thing with my EldestBrother, Blackie - though not for religious reasons.
My family wrote off my Aunt for despicable behavior.


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