In an "Interfaith" Relationship


In an "Interfaith" Relationship

For those who are in a serious relationship with a theist, or have been...

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This is a group to discuss the difficulties and rewards of dating theist. I personally am involved in one, so I know that there are a lot of both in such relationships!!!

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How to keep an interfaith relationship strong?

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Religious Services

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Do you discuss religion?

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What religion is your partner?

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Comment by RJ on August 20, 2015 at 9:11am
I'm new here an figured I would comment just to have some activity in the group.

I have been with a woman, who is a believer, for almost two years. She is in the choir in her church and is fairy active in it. She knows I'm a non-believer but supposedly that's not a problem. She is interested in marriage, however I am not. I have no problem with commitment or anything but marriage isn't something that feels logical to me. She wants to get married, but she knows how I feel and my feelings on it could be a problem for her. I've expressed my concern to her that maybe she would one day have an issue with my non faith in her god or with my feelings on marriage. She tries to assure me that it won't or shouldn't have an affect on our relationship but I'm not so sure.

I consider the possibility if she will grow tired of not being married and feeling like she is "living in sin" or will hear a sermon that changes her mind about being with a non-believer. As for now it either hasn't been brought to the front or isn't an issue. We get along well and deeply care for one another. Of course there are times when something about jebus is mentioned and I usually silently shake my head. Sometimes I'm shaking my head within my head to avoid discussion on the topic.

I do see so many christians that won't challenge or question their god or faith, mainly be caused that's how they were raised. It's how I was raised but it occurred to me that my family, however well meaning they may be, could be wrong about something. I know we don't like to think our parents or grandparents were wrong but it seems to be a major wall for theists to get across, and I know many aren't trying to cross it anyway. I feel that if some believers could get past the "that's how I was raised" thing, that some may be willing to hear the facts or at least be open to other possibilities. I feel it's similar to a food. You may have been raised on soul food or something but now many people know that eating fried everything with macaroni n chz almost every day of the week isn't a healthy choice. Of course we know eating this kind of food is ok in moderation, but if we change from family tradition to something healthier based on science then maybe we could apply similar logic to a belief system. I know this last paragraph isn't necessarily part of the interfaith relationship thing but was just some thoughts I decided to share. Thanks
Comment by Paula T. on May 29, 2012 at 9:34pm
Welcome, Paula!

How are things working? I've been dating a Roman Catholic (in case you didn't read older posts) for nearly 6 years and still considered myself a believer when we met, although very skeptical. He believes in Creation and miracles and that the world is only 6,000 years old. We just don't talk about religion, but inside, some of it drives me crazy. If I praised Bigfoot or pink unicorns, I would be put away. As a former believer, it seems crazy to me to believe in something that watches over us and is kind and loving! I think religion is a delusion and wishful thinking is a waste of time and resources.
Comment by Paula T. on March 20, 2012 at 7:27pm
Hi Steph, thanks for checking up! So far, so good for me...last week was the 11th anniversary of my boyfriend's wife's passing away. I was surprised that he didn't go to church OR to the cemetery on Sunday! I know he will take his daughters before long, but I also know it isn't a big deal for him to visit.

Now that it is Lent, I hear "I can't have meat on Fridays!!!!" from that is the most important rule to follow *eye roll* lol He is definitely a catholic of convenience!

How is everything with you?? :)
Comment by Paula T. on February 12, 2012 at 5:30pm

Beautiful picture, Steph!  Except for bowling one game under average, yesterday was a very nice day :)  

I hope all is well with you and the other members of this group :)

Comment by Paula T. on October 31, 2011 at 8:55pm

Doing well, Steph :)  Getting comfy as a reference librarian where I previously worked as a student and loving it!  

Halloween was quiet around here...we get so few kids that I don't pass out candy and wasn't able to make it to pass out candy at my boyfriend's :(  How was your Halloween??

To answer your last question, I don't remember seeing anything said about theists here that has bothered me, but I know you are much more active than I.  Have you seen statements that have bothered you?


Comment by Paula T. on September 19, 2011 at 7:24pm

It's good to know I'm not alone, as well!  I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 years and was skeptical  of my religious beliefs for years....even while working in a Byzantine Catholic school.  Thankfully, my sons helped me "see the light."  I must admit that if this relationship ends at some point, I highly doubt that I would date another believer.  But I am grateful that he respects my feelings.


So glad we have that in common, as well :) 

Comment by Paula T. on September 18, 2011 at 5:22pm

Welcome, Steph S.!  I forgot I even joined this group *blush*  I am dating a Roman Catholic gentleman and I still considered myself a Roman Catholic when we met.  I've since given up mythology (obviously), but he hasn't.  Thankfully, he respects my beliefs and we don't discuss religion.  I secretly hope that he eventually begins to think more rationally, but he is stubborn.  Also, he's very close to his mom, so there you go....

Still, I'm grateful he is accepting of my feelings.

Comment by Steph S. on September 17, 2011 at 11:07pm
Greetings everyone! Just joined the group. :)
Comment by Byron on September 5, 2009 at 12:31pm
Sorry to hear that, DeafAtheist. I know the pain of when your relationship falls apart. :( Not only did i lose her, but also my kids, and it seems like my whole world.
Comment by Byron on September 5, 2009 at 12:29pm
I decided I will stay, and check in on the group from time to time. I do feel like I have experiences that will benefit the group via discussions. But I am leaving the group in the capable hands of Mark Johnston. Maybe new leadership is what this group needs to really come alive! :)

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