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I am convinced that if we attack on the issues of inheritance and parental responsibility, then the Self-Reliance Ethic will collapse. That is, all the issues surrounding money, taxes, employment, and property will change. Everything based on some presumption of sloth, all the premises of Social Darwinism, everything tied to Original Sin, and everything known as Subjectification, will fall. Capitalism will fall. The exoneration of the Family System and of the State will fall. The enforcement of criminal law will be radically changed.
You can pass all the laws against Child Abuse that you want. But that will never penetrate the emotional dynamics of the parent child relationship. New pedagogy books will still be written, and people will still use the parental role in order to stay in denial. They will use children to stay in denial. They will still use the Therapy and the Recovery Movement to stay in denial.
If on the other hand you emancipate children by giving them social, civil, and economic standing, and if you hold parents responsible in all situations, then the entire society will change.
I am of a middle class neurotic background. So I too have a history in the conservative thinking of the Recovery Movement. I am doing my very best to learn to articulate a different view and to emancipate myself. I seek comrades, those who want to jump with both feet and get into the fight. I seek comrades, as I don't want to be alone.
Those who have such potential are those who are cognizant of the animosity between themselves and their parents, and with the entire edifice of the Family System, and who want to find ways to fight back.
I have faced persecutions in venues to numerous to mention.
I draw solace and support from the words of Prosecutor Alice Vachss,
"Some things are so sad, there is just no response ... except to fight."
I am someone who has been harmed so severely, lost so much, been so impacted, that I must conceal. I cannot give up more about myself than I already am. But I submit to you, that I actually am giving up more of myself, in terms of my intentions, than most people ever would. Most people have very little insight into their own intentions. I am someone who has no choice, except to fight. One learns to win the bigger battles, not by Live and Let Live, but by first learning to win the smaller ones.
If Recovery means all the things of therapy, like forgive and forget, finding inner peace, just going on with your life, relying on yourself, healing, and eventually coming to be capable of nothing except social conformity, then I am bound to oppose it. It continues all the that the Family System tries to impose. It tries to make one believe that one is responsible for ones own problems and that it is one's duty to solve them. It makes one believe that its all just stuff inside of one's own head. I am bound to oppose this with all my abilities.
But if instead recovery means fighting back, finding ways to defeat the Family System, finding allies and finding attack points, learning to use interdependent power strategies, learning to see how our society subjectifies, and then finally finding more allies and rebuilding one's own life while at the same time building a different type of world, then sure its fine. But I would still call it something other than recovery.
about Alice Miller's body of work and the subject of Psychotherapy
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