I couldn't. I've never had a relationship with a woman who was very religious. I think it would be a constant source of disagreement. OTOH, Darwin was married to a religious woman for most of his life, so it does happen. What has been your experience?

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OTOH, Darwin was married to a religious woman for most of his life, so it does happen.

BTW, what's "OTOH"?
OTOH=On The Other Hand
Thanks, Frank! :-)

Back to the main topic of this wall:

Even if I'd generally say no to such a relationship, as I said above, if something to my surprise did start clicking initially, I'd possibly bend over backwards at first to see how far such a relationship could go. I don't have much long term dating experience to begin with, so I'd want to milk the experience as much as possible for what I could learn from it. I don't always know if I'll be strong enough to say no to a religious person. But I'd be honest about where I stood, and if the other person took it the wrong way, then my guess is that it'd then be very easy to walk away.

Recently, about 2 months ago or so, a local ordained gay priest wanted to set up a date with me, but I felt absolutely no physical attraction for him at all, so it was very easy to immediately decide to say no to this person. I met him only because I had attended a picnic of the local chapter of PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), which in my county meets inside a church and seems to be led by religious folks, even though PFLAG itself is as far as I know supposed to be a secular group. In my county PFLAG is one of the few ways to meet gays outside of bars.
I thought this article might be of interest to the folks here who have responded to the question on this Wall.

"I'm an atheist surrounded by Catholics: I try to go along but it's hard concealing my beliefs"
I couldn't. I have had many relationships with guys who are believers, and recently got out of my only past relationship with a fellow atheist. Things just work out SO much better when your core beliefs match, religiously and also politically.
I couldn't. I've had friendships with religious people but I could never date one but then again, it rarely comes up in conversation with me. But I don't think I could.
Simply put: No, no I could not.
I know some people who've had to go through the quagmire of apostasy. First him then her, it almost tore them apart, but they pulled through.

With some luck it might last, but they still have to put up with the fact that most of their social circle still believes in a load of bronze age bullshit; and their former Pastor is a manipulative retard who has tried to drive a wedge between them on numerous occasions.

Saving yourself from that shit-storm may seem callous but it IS justified. :)
I would point out that Darwin only became irreligiously agnostic later in life, I suppose early in the relationship it was not a source of bother; but it became a source of disquiet between them later on in life, as Darwin buried evermore of his beloved children.

I can not personally imagine a relationship with a deeply religious person working for me, but then I can not envisage any relationship working for me. :'(
This may be a cop out, but it would depend on the religion. Although there are fundie sects in all faiths, I think I could deal with Buddhist and Taoists without much trouble. I would have great difficulty managing a relationship with a zealous Christian or Muslim.
Yeah, somewhere in the back of this thread I think I mentioned that a Buddhist, Pagan, even a Hindu ... any of the everyone-is-welcome, low-on-the-woo-woo versions of these types of religion, I think I'd get along with. In fact in friendship I do get along with folks like this.
Yea, me too. I really came to atheism through Buddhism.


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