I was reading some of the other discussion topics but I was surprised I didn't see this already addressed. So my question is, what are your deal breakers? 

I have more than a few but some things are negotiable. However there are some absolute deal breakers. 

3. More than one small child. I'm not even sure I can handle one but I know more than one is too much obligation.

2. Neediness (is that a word?). This is usually tied into insecurity on their part. I shouldn't feel obligated to tell him he's a pretty princess everyday.

And number one on the charts is...

Bad Breath! How some people don't find their to the dentist regularly or (gasp) never floss, I'll never understand. 

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I'd have to go with ignorance. I'm a person who likes to communicate. I don't see how I could date someone who wasn't interested in learning and experiencing new things.

I also like to travel. I've been in the Navy for most of my adult life(9 years) and know that the biggest reason for doing so is my desire to see new places. I dated a girl in San Diego that told me she has never left California...really? Never? Not even a weekend in Vegas? You'll drive 9 hours to Lake Tahoe or San Fransisco but a 5 hours trip to Las Vegas is too much of a burden?

People who hate to travel I can only assume(barring financial reasons of course) are Xenophobic or simply too accustomed to their bubble of comfort to try new experiences.

So being with someone who doesn't learn anything new and doesn't travel...what would we talk about? I could only handle so many conversations about "what happened at work".

If I had to pick a third I say that she'd have to consider herself a feminist. I not expecting her to go to rallies or stop wearing a bra, but I want her to believe that she can aspire to anything she wants. She must believe the only thing keeping her from getting what she wants is a lack of effort on her part.

It also wouldn't hurt if she liked to read since that is a huge part of my life. I must have a book with me at all times. This is not a joke. Yes I've brought one to the beach, yes I've read at a bar...etc etc etc
Deal breakers huh? I'll be honest here and say that if there's really good chemistry at the start then I'm more prone to do more dealing than breaking. The opposite is true if there is no chemistry or worse; bad chemistry. It won't actually matter if a woman has every conceivable quality that I may desire, if we're just not clicking it's not going to happen and I've never been one to try to force it along; that seems so sad and pointless for me at least.

A lot of people over the years have told me to "just give it a chance" and that these women that I don't really get along with will "grow on me" but that's never happened and typically without chemistry I lose all motivation to try; it's like beating a dead horse (let the poor little horsey rest in peace).

I guess there are definately things that I won't deal with, i.e. drug addiction, insanity, bad hygiene, etc. but I typically don't run into women with those issues so I don't know if they're worth mentioning. A big part of knowing what you're capable of "dealing" with is being honest with yourself even if it means some lost opportunites for dating.
Everything you say here is true! I feel exactly the same way. Guess that's why I'm single....lol.
I don't mind being single sometimes though, just being a facebook, and watching how people exploit their own lives on the net is crazy to me. I honestly think i'd hook it up better with international females or ones from California, everyone of them that i have met, we always clicked, and the reason i couldn't be with that person was because they was just studying abroad. For some reason, i just don't get a long with New York women :(.
Well, I think most of mine fit into chemistry, anyway. Someone who smokes will smell nasty and kill my interest, that way. Someone brainless or really religious will annoy me over time (probably about 5 or 10 minutes) and kill my interest. I could work around smoking temporarily, though, if she's trying to quit, for the sake of future potential ... very temporarily.
Oh my cod Carol! You have to deal with spit too?? Ugh, just ugh!

I have a sensitive nose, my sense of smell became heightened during my pregnancy and stayed that way. Pretty much any stench is off-putting to me. The breath is the first thing I notice if a man is trying to get close to me. He's leaning in closer to talk to me and I'll get sick if he has a toilet for a mouth. And then he wants me to put MY mouth on his?? No MA'AM!!

Men are can be foul creatures, the evidence is their bathrooms. Before anyone says anything, yes women can be dirty too. I'm ashamed for them but I'm usually not trying to date a woman.
(passes out)


Carol, you have my sympathies!!

Ewww and you know these same men have women/wives. Amazing.

I'm going to go throw up now, excuse me...
I dunno, is he old enough for men-on-pause to be an issue with his wife, or is it just that he's too disgusting to want to be close to?
Men like this will never be able to buy a clue.

Men want a pretty feminine woman, they love it when we look good, are fit, smell good and yet they don't seem to understand that we want the same things from them. Minus the femininity of course but yet, I'm had to deal with some emotional ones who reminded me of girls(or at least what girls are supposed to be). They get all hurt when I tell them to step up their hygiene. I even took one to the store to have him buy a tongue scraper and mouthwash. He cried about my implication but complied and got a really nice date from me after he took care of himself.
Minus the femininity of course

Actually, I use Oil of Olay bath soaps, Herbal Essences shampoo, and unscented Secret deodorant. Moisturizers are nice.

And I'm obsessive-compulsive, so hygiene isn't an issue people are likely to have with me.

Why a tongue scraper, though? I've never found one that did a better job than I do simply brushing my tongue thoroughly, after I brush my teeth.
Interesting but my idea of femininity is more along the lines of long hair, shapely legs, things that make a woman a woman. Unless you also make effort to embody those traits too, I don't think we're talking about the same things. Of course, if you do, well that's another matter altogether and even more interesting.

A brush usually works in a back and forth motion, leaving bacteria on the tongue. A tongue scraper pulls all the gunk right off in one clean direction.
I had long hair from my mid-teens to my mid-20's. :-P No effort to be feminine there, though.

I get the same effect with a toothbrush ... better, actually, since I can get around the sides more easily, with the bristles. Most people must not be thorough enough or something. Rinsing thoroughly with water helps that, too, and then I hit it again with the mouthwash, so any bacteria that don't get washed away are more unlucky than those who do.




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