Ok, so due to my inability to lower my standards, I have unwittingly dedicated myself to becoming an atheist nun....(kidding, but that's the way it's turning out). So I live in the buckle of the bible belt, I'm educated, attractive for my age, own my own business, and mindless sex is just so easy (and boring) for us....isn't it ladies??? (You guys know that's true) But finding someone you actually WANT to be with, now that is where things get good and complicated!! I've decided in my wisdom, that I will not settle. Since MOST atheists live far far away from me, it never really occurred to me to try and find a man that could keep up with me intellectually on this site, but what did occur to me, was that I would meet awesome people who are intelligent, well spoken, educated, (whether self taught or schooled), witty and socially aware. I have hit the mother load there!!! This site helps me hold on to the fact that there are growing numbers of people just like me out there and I am not alone!! Rational, kind, and well spoken non-believers! I LOVE yall people....!!! (no but really, I do! That's a facetious southern accent btw and yeah, I am a southern girl and lovin there are so many talking atheists on this site!!!)
Now that being said....it can be a lonely life. But I just can't, and won't settle. You feel me?

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Yeah, selfless-ish. Anyway, I'm not completely celibate, but not completely off the market, either.
ROFL!! Joseph.....as far as the monks and nuns in this discussion....you are the Hoe! But thanks for wanting to be Mr. Helper!! (you are cracking my ass up!) You are the only one admitting to having sex right now......hoe. Guess I'm just jealous you have someone you actually want to have sex with....heheheh
The order just keeps getting bigger! Welcome Tabi...I'm hoping all of us won't be in the nunnery or the abbey too long.....
Ah, I to am an atheist priest. and just like you Kelly, I am no long willing to lower my standards. The bigger problem seems to be the women I meet are not willing to lower their standards!
I on the other hand do lower my standards, this doesn't serve me well in the long term but it can often be a choice between short term or no term. There are limits, I'm not saying that I wrestle down women off the street who I'm not attracted to or who I'm not compatible with intentionally and demand they spend some quality time with me but I do let a lot of things slide. The first thing I'm prepared to let slide is the fact that they "got some Jesus in 'em". I've never dated an atheist woman and this isn't by choice. Perhaps they're rightfully crossing me off their list before I even get to get them drunk enough to give real thought to dating me, but then again I rarely run into atheist women and I never ask right off the bat. In fact I try not to ask, and I do try to avoid and downplay any Jeebus talk to the extent that my wits allow for.
Ok I can confess to the lowering of the standards as well but it certainly has not served me well either. I have been willing to overlook certain things due to mutual attraction, but in the end, something is always not right and a relationship will either never happen, or ends.
So, are you saying that someone would have to be drunk to give real thought to dating you??? lol...atheists aren't that bad :) I have met atheist men, however the few that I have met down here in bible land, there has just been no chemistry, and I end up making a cool new friend and that's about it. It's been a while since I have been in the company of a man that just rocked my world, but I am not prepared to give up just yet :) Besides, I have tried to compromise, and I am old enough and had enough experiences to know it just doesn't work.
I've been an atheist monk for years now. Back in 2003, someone I met online, in an atheist chatroom, invited me to spend a week with her -- I live in Florida, she was in Illinois. We did have fun that week but for a variety of reasons it didn't lead to anything lasting. Probably it didn't help that she had 3 young children, had a very jealous ex-husband, lost all her hair due to stress, weighed about 50 lbs more than me, etc.
One of my friends here recently divorced and has been searching for female companionship. Last Saturday night he got me to go out barhopping, and at one he ordered a drink, then got all grumpy because he thought the band sucked. Then he wound up getting into a conversation with an attractive woman (after she chastised him for ogling at another woman!). They spent the next 3 hours chatting each other up and getting increasingly drunk and they're set to go out on a date later this week (he's 58 and she's 39, btw). Trouble is, she's religious and seems to be libertarian or otherwise conservative, while he's irregligious and leans socialist. He wants to give it a try at least and I wish him luck, but I won't be surprised at all if it doesn't work out.
Myself, I have never been able to bring myself to try to pick up on someone in a bar. Of course, part of my problem is that usually the music is so load I can't hear what anyone else is saying. Hmm, maybe I need to get a hearing aid.

You just wait...your friend is on a one way track to TRAIN WRECK....he's just willing to overlook that stuff because she is young and that's kind of an ego booster for him..all the same.  It will be a train wreck....

If I were you, I would pop some popcorn, sit back and watch the show.....and then tell him he was warned....

I could be wrong.........but, yeah....I'm probably right....

Wow....that sounds a tad jaded don't you think???  Sorry....I'm just saying......

Nah, not jaded, just realistic.  If your friend is just looking for a short fling with a younger woman, Fred, then he may get what he's looking for.  That's not my sort of thing, but whatever.  If he's expecting a real relationship to come from it, then he's got an ugly surprise coming, 2 or 3 months down the road.

I feel ya. I have a solution to your problem...move to the north. The religious still outnumber us up here but it is slightly more accepted. The great thing about talking to atheists is that philosophical conversations don't have to end at "Is there a God?" They start with "There is no God" and that opens up the doors to all the other great philosophical conversations you can have from there.

My company is based down South so I head down there every now and then. Its nice weather but the Jesus billboards scare the crap out of me. Don't know how you do it. Good luck.

Thanks Anders!!!  I have been dealing with this crap my whole life, so I am pretty used to it by now. 

When you start with there is no god, your possibilities are limitless...that's what is so cool about it!!  I can think about whatever the hell I want to...guilt free :)  Where in the south is your company?  (Nashville has actually had a few free thinker signs put up...and the feedback has been surprisingly positive, but needless to say, I am feeling a little less alone every day!!!)  YAY




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