I TOTALLY feel your pain Laura!! I live in TN which I call the butt hole of the buy bull belt....plus I am in an extremely challenged age group....40's. You seem to have your head on straight, and I'm loving your optimism!!! Smart girl like you WILL find the one I'm certain of it. My best advise to you, is keep your eyes and your heart open. I know how hard it is to find someone you are attracted to, who gets you, AND who shares your non belief. Know you aren't completely alone. There are lots of us out there, just like you, who would choose being alone before we would put ourselves into a relationship that is damaging and ultimately a train wreck.
I have found that a lot of people on here have used a date website that seems to give good results when searching out like minded individual. It's OKCupid.com. You can specifically search out atheist or agnostic matches. I have actually been out on a few good dates! Maybe give it a try??? Hey, what have you got to lose? Good luck doll!!! I'm loving my fellow female atheists!!! You bitches rock!!
She owns her own business. Moving is difficult, when you have an established customer-base.
I get the impression that she's discovered online dating and has mostly found Christian idiots who 'don't mind' her atheism ... which is not the meeting of minds that you normally look for, in a serious relationship.