This is a very rational concept, but it should appeal especially to people, who are rational enough to be atheists.
But what about those who don't want a committed, monogamous, long-term relationship? Not everyone does. We have plenty around here who don't.
You're making the same mistake that groups like Libertarians make: assuming that everyone has the same starting values as you. If you're using invalid premises, then it doesn't matter how rational you're being in your logical structure. The GIGO law rules over the most sound argument.
Yet you make several statements that I completely disagree with and feel the need to comment on.
For example, in this last post here, you make the implication that more than half of what I say on this site is relevant to the subject at hand. This is patently false.
I try to formulate it in the terms of logic.
This thread is relevant in the case of a person, who (is looking for a long-term commitment) AND (is a rational person).
relevant = important to consider
Thanx Maruli, this is a very interesting analysis, and I completely agree.
It is exactly the kind of relationship I am searching for
BUT it kind of inevitably involves an ASEXUAL relation... Which makes sense if we leave inside all instincts, since sex belongs to that process of attraction/infatuation/survival of the genes...
There are some guys I could picture myself sharing a "long-term affectionate companionship" with, but since there is no physical attraction, no sex is possible. Go tell a guy you want a monogamous relationship without sex...
"BUT it kind of inevitably involves an ASEXUAL relation... "This is not, what I mean at all. Affectionately bonded companionship is the combination of emotional, intellectual and physical intimacy. All three are equally important.
well, japan still has arranged marriages. due to the decline in total marriages arranged marriages have been decreasing. when i was in business i became good friends with a few men who had mistresses, who they told me they loved. they regarded their wives as child factories. many of the children of the mistresses were adopted by the husbands and wives, so in many cases the wives know about the mistress.
in the last 20 years, growing numbers of 50+ wives are divorcing thier husbamds. the kids are out of the house and it seems the wife sees no reason to remain.
sorry but it seems to me that without love, such a relationship is doomed to failure as a means to bring happiness to either the husband or the wife
soory im not single
even ifyour idea worked wed still be looking for people of similar social status to marry. in japan only the first meeting is arranged by others, often they do not meet again, but sometimes they do and then some marry.
close rea]latives of my wifs have done this, and i cant say that they are happier then then those who married because of infatuation. in addition sometimes infatuation or love can produce relationships which are astoundingly beautiful. these relationshipe seem to never happen with arranged marriages.