So, I've met a really great guy who seems to be everything I want......
....but he's Baptist. So far, we've been respectful of each others' beliefs (or lack of them) and we're both fans of life and passion in anything as long as you're true to yourself but.....butbutbut.....he's Baptist! We're still getting to know each other, so we are still being polite (yes, admit it, we all pretend to be someone more personable than who we really are or no mating would ever happen and anyone who denies this is a dingleberry), but I kinda wonder WHEN it's going to hit the fan.
Should I bother? I don't want to be one of those ppl that excludes all religious people from her life but....I don't like religion. I HATE religion! Conversely, we all whine when religious people exclude us from their lives, how can we exclude religious people from our lives?
Do you think it will hit the fan?
If it does, do you think it will be impossible to wipe off the walls after it does?
Am I being too paranoid and sabotaging the relationship?
Should I just nail him a whole lot so we don't have to talk about religion?
If someone you trust whose thoughts you value highly tells, "Hey, you want some candy? Well, you can choose Candy A or Candy B. Candy A is awesome and amazing and delicious. Candy B tastes terrible and gives you the runs," you're probably going to choose Candy A. Sure, it's still a "choice" but it's a heavily influenced choice. I would want them to make up their own minds. There are still plenty of well educated scientists out there that cling to religion for....fuck knows what reason....but it doesn't mean they're incapable of critick thinking,they just compartmentalize their faith. Seems dumb to me, but I'm not the anti-god thought police.
Regardless, I'm just barely getting to know this guy and I don't think I even would want kids, but I'm not going to sit here and be talked down to over my hypothetical parenting.
You don't have to exclude all religious people from your life BUT. An intimate relationship with a baptist! Doomed before it starts, unless you are just using him for sex;) Remember all the sexist stuff in the bible? Baptists believe it all, "the man is the head" shit will get to you and might get violent.
While at least 99% of religions are incredibly patriarchal and sexist, correlation is not causation. There are plenty of godless men out there who devalue women and treat us like second class citizens. Religion does not create sexism, it just helps it thrive.
I'm familiar with the Baptist mindset, but I'm not sure how religious his family is. Some ppl claim religion the way they claim culture. How many PROUD ITALIANS do you know that have never visited Italy and know exactly jack about actual Italian culture and history? Not picking in Italians in particular, that's just the first nationality I thought of. It could be Irish, Russian, Chinese, etc.
I like your idea of nailing him a whole lot. There is something very satisfying (to me) about getting religious people to do crazy things in bed.
Also, I think you should relax and see what happens. But don't fall head over heels for him if you can help it, because I don't see how it could work out long term.