Metaphorically speaking, anyway. I just haven't had a lot of luck lately, I get shot down or friend zoned anytime I go on a date, and frankly, it's getting annoying. I mean, it's Mississippi, and I have to be here for the foreseeable future. So the number of people period times the number who aren't religious? Statistically I don't have a lot of options. I imagine if I were in a population center it really wouldn't matter, but it sort of does here.

For the most part, I've dated women younger than me, but it hasn't worked out yet. I'm told older women don't friend zone people so easily, but that's tricky in Mississippi. Seems like everyone my age and older around here has a kid and, I'm sorry, but I'm not looking for the one, just someone. I don't want to be substitute dad.

I'm told you're supposed to rely on friends to fix you up, but I don't have many friends. My closest friends won't. I dunno, everything's starting to really affect my self-efficacy. Which is the thing, I mean, I'm not a normal guy. I'm really weird, and that apparently doesn't work for most people.

I mean, what do you guys do? I'm really starting to get disheartened. I figured by the age of 25, I'd have accomplished something in this field, and I haven't. All I've got's a few first dates and a few friend zones, and frankly, the city council is starting to get on my ass about these zoning problems.

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Well, Meridian is the closest city--only 1 hour away, so I might be able to make that if they have a group.
Meridian... what's that close to?

Well, currently I'm in Sweet Water, AL--or closest to it. Middle of nowhere. The next closest town is Thomasville, AL--but Meridian is the closest "city".


Searching only shows one meeting in Mobile, AL, within 100 miles, and then the Jackson, MS meetup--neither one of those I can drive to. Mobile is a 3 hour drive away, as is Jackson. <le sigh> and then the one main group in Tuscaloosa I got kicked out of.

The Tuscaloosa group was the one with the rednecks who wanted you back in the kitchen where you belong?  I remember you ranting about one of the atheism groups in your area.

Yeah, the student club at UA--The West Alabama Free Thought group was nice and awesome but I never had the time to go hang out with them, even if most of their meetings took place in Tuscaloosa.


Just because they're students--and mostly younger guys--it doesn't excuse them from being assholes to females and newcomers.

LOL My Dad would have taken offense at that. He didn't want anyone in his kitchen when he was working on something major! And boy, you did not want to place dishes where they didn't belong. LOL! In the kitchen, indeed. I used to mimic an old insurance commercial to describe my mother's forgetfulness in cooking. "Mom cooks the old fashioned way. She buhhhhhhhns it."


I think my Dad would have just given those boys quite a look. And my parents are/were southern baptists. It's pretty bad when fundies are more along in equal rights than supposed free-thinkers. Hopefully, they'll wisen up and see that cooking is something that is shared and isn't a gender-specific role (not many things are--breast feeding comes to mind, though).

Well, Nerdlass,


Goddamit, it just ate my entire comment.


I can only summarize it as best I can: I hate groups that view me as an ugly baby incubator, and a lot of time guys in atheism groups are just as into patriarchy and don't want things to change, they just want religion gone so they can be top dude, so to speak.

Yeah, assholes like that get kicked out of atheist groups usually, or the group goes nowhere if they're at the core.




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