Bisexual Atheists


Bisexual Atheists

For bisexuals, gender fluid, pansexual, omnisexual, swingers, etc... individuals in general and/or people who are just somewhere in the middle, confused, or whatever. Straight or gay people also welcome but the group is mainly for bisexuals.

Members: 115
Latest Activity: Mar 6

Discussion Forum

Bisexual? Pansexual? Omnisexual?

Started by Laura. Last reply by Grinning Cat Jan 9. 13 Replies

Cartoons and art for Bi Visibility Day

Started by Grinning Cat Sep 26, 2015. 0 Replies

Bis marrying opposite-sex spouses a "compelling state interest"!?

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Bertold Brautigan Apr 20, 2015. 2 Replies

In search of OUT queer ATHEIST

Started by Charone Pagett. Last reply by Janice Rael Oct 15, 2014. 4 Replies

Natural Selection for bisexuality in women

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Janice Rael Oct 15, 2014. 1 Reply

John Corvino gets it

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 27, 2014. 2 Replies

Bisexuality on TV

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Oct 27, 2013. 0 Replies

Bisexuals and the Slut Myth

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 9, 2013. 1 Reply

Lost Girl TV Series

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Steph S. Jul 18, 2012. 1 Reply

Helen Magnus character

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Loren Miller Oct 29, 2011. 1 Reply

The last person out of the closet? The bisexual male

Started by Little Name Atheist. Last reply by Freddie Aug 23, 2011. 10 Replies

Atheist booth at an LGBT pride day?

Started by Heather. Last reply by Grinning Cat Jun 25, 2011. 1 Reply

My Thoughts

Started by Ember Book. Last reply by Fae (fay) Koay (koi) Aug 2, 2010. 5 Replies

Share a Fantasy

Started by Arizona Gunrunner. Last reply by coffeekraken Jul 6, 2010. 23 Replies


Started by Little Name Atheist. Last reply by David Dembinski Apr 12, 2010. 19 Replies

About me

Started by DawnME. Last reply by Arizona Gunrunner Nov 6, 2009. 4 Replies

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Comment by Kylyssa Shay on August 29, 2011 at 10:24am
Then there are the people who are bisexual and then become conservative and suddenly that girl you had a torrid, sexy, passionate four-year relationship with tells you it was only a phase.
Comment by Prog Rock Girl on August 28, 2011 at 5:00pm

I think the shaming of gays can also end up in someone rebelling against heterosexuality, and then they downplay their thoughts of the opposite sex. I've even read gay opinions that psychoanalyzed opposite-sex attraction as not being completely free of internalized homophobia, or something like that, and although most don't actually call you a traitor, some definitely make you feel that way.


Kylyssa, you have reminded me of the rejections I get from both sides: 1. bicurious experimenters who play games and 2. lesbians who play games b/c they assume I am a bicurious experimenter.


And ladies like the ones you met are the reason we get told "you're just bi 'cause it's trendy." It wasn't trendy when I was 9 years old.

Comment by Kylyssa Shay on August 28, 2011 at 8:08am

Bisexuality is definitely not a phase for me.  I've been bisexual since I first had stirrings of sexual attraction. 


But I understand at least some of where the perception that bisexuality is just a phase comes from. 


There has been so much pressure on gay people to remain closeted and so much pressure on gay people to just be heterosexual that many, many gay people remain closeted or try with all their might to be heterosexual.  Of course those who try to be heterosexual with all their might often fail.  I was married to a gay man who took the label of bisexual (and that only in extreme private and only to me; he presented a heterosexual front to the world) and then later realized he was gay.  If he hadn't been so indoctrinated that being gay was evil (Lutheran upbringing, Missouri Synod type) he could have grown up a well-adjusted gay man and he probably would never have used the bisexual label on himself or pretended to be heterosexual to the world.  (On a side note, we didn't divorce because he is gay but because he is controlling, jealous and wanted only "extracurricular" activity on his side though he claimed I could have a girlfriend if I wanted despite flying into rages when I mentioned flirting with women.  At the end, friends weren't even allowed.)  Many such marriages end badly and such "bisexuals" can end up viewed with rancor by heterosexuals, gays, and bisexuals alike because of the deception, whether intentional or not.


Another thing I've encountered with a few self-identified "bisexual" women is that they seem to be identifying as bisexual to be more sexy and interesting to men.  Just take a trip across OKCupid and check out the bisexual women in your area.  You'll see that the majority of them are only looking for men.  In person, I had two incidents with "bisexual" women who turned out not only to apparently be heterosexual but nasty as well.  One kissed me out in public after we'd had a few drinks together and then when I asked her out for coffee she asked me something to the effect of, "What do you think I am, a lesbian?" and never talked to me again but told our mutual friends I'm a perverted queer.  The other played a longer game, flirting and acting interested only to later explain that she's bisexual but only interested in men.  She said she flirted with me to try to interest the male friend I was hanging out with.  So, if I were a lesbian, I think those two in-person encounters and multiple online encounters of a similar nature might make me cynical about the existence of bisexuals.


However, we exist and, I'd wager, in larger numbers than anyone suspects.

Comment by Prog Rock Girl on August 27, 2011 at 12:01pm

Another reason for most bi people ending up in opposite-sex relationships is the willingness of gays to be in relationships with bisexuals. Lesbians have done nothing but play games with me--ironically, because they assume that as a bisexual I will play games with them.


The acceptance of the gay community is also a reason that people who are predominantly gay are reluctant to identify as bi, as if they're sellouts b/c they're occasionally attracted to the opposite sex. (Gay magazines have had articles about dealing with opposite sex attraction!) One of my bi acquaintances says that when she came out as bi, many of her gay colleagues confided in her that they were bi too. So instead of bi being a "transitional" thing, maybe people identify as bi until they're pressured to take sides.

Comment by Prog Rock Girl on August 2, 2011 at 7:22pm
Ooh, nice!
Comment by Cynical Drake on June 24, 2011 at 9:39pm

Same-sex marriages are legal in New York!

Comment by Godless Glen on June 10, 2011 at 5:40pm
yeah, and there are perks that come with that lol.
Comment by Godless Glen on June 10, 2011 at 4:09pm
Mike, one of the best books about sexuality AND bisexuality is "Sex at Dawn". I've not had a chance to finish the book but what I have read I really enjoyed.

I agree with you about the bi porn. It is frustrating trying to find good titles but someone needs to create some good ones with normal/good looking people. If you ever do find any please let me know and I will do the same if I run across any.
Comment by Prog Rock Girl on July 29, 2010 at 6:20pm
Happy, just wanted to share...I finally told my Indian girlcrush that I was bi. I had known her a year and wanted to tell her but it never really came up in conversation and I was afraid she might not want to talk to me anymore. She was asking me about my past relationships and I only was talking about the guys and I really thought I should tell her and then she said I looked like I was thinking something, so finally I told her. She still wants to be my friend...and she has never met a gay or bisexual person before! (at least, that she knows of)
Comment by Prog Rock Girl on July 19, 2010 at 12:50pm
Yes it was Mike!

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