I've noticed that a large number of you were religious at some point at your life, but at some point saw the light (or lack of it) and decided that no just and loving God presides over this wicked world (excuse my gloominess lol). I declared myself an Atheist around April 2010, but have not yet come out to my family and most of my friends. This is not out of fear but the embarassing fact that I still live at home and am slightly dependent on my parents. However, that will no longer be the case come this December and as a result I plan to make my confession around this time. I would like you all to share your stories of coming out to your family about abandoning your belief in fairies, umm... I mean God and turning to reason. Have you been rejected by former friends and/or family members just because you don't share their beliefs?
Thanks for taking the time to read, I'm looking forward to your replies. :)
Albert L. Terry, III
Good point Thomas! They'll find out sooner or later, it is on my facebook. I also feel it'll be better for them to think that I'm Christian so when they find out they'll realize that I do still have morals, that I'm still the same person I was... just not a superstitious loon anymore.
Being the smartass that I am, I love making people doubt themselves. I've been dying for the chance to have a debate with one of those walking mental illness ads that just stop you like have nothing to do and try to save you.
Thanks for the advice,
Albert L. Terry, III
Good luck to you too if you decide to come out to your family, but please don't think of this as a phase. You have left religion behind, just as you did Santa Claus as a child, and have turned to reason. You realize that science is the key to understanding life, not some book written by men millenia ago (and chopped and altered over the years to remove the inconsistencies). You have chosen that you don't fear the unknown and that "God did it" is not a logical answer to the world's questions. This is not a phase, this is growing. This is putting faith behind you and opening yourself to knowledge. Even though you may question or even feel intimidated, you are a very strong person for taking that step forward and saying "I don't believe in God!" I don't know you of course but I can truly say I'm proud of you! :) Ok I'm done preaching now lol
Albert L. Terry, III
"Presenting evidence of how ridiculous belief is to the hard core theist is a waste of time. They just believe it's the devil trying to break their faith."
I couldn't agree more!!!
Hey Albert! I formally came out to my very good friends, however, all but one were not surprised as I was never very religious to begin with (I dismissed Christianity at age 8, and am now 25). The one friend who was surprised couldn't understand how I (or anyone else) could be an atheist. We had a light-hearted debate covering the basic points- lack of proof, inconsistencies within the bible, and the concept of prayer/ "talking to God," but at the end we simply agreed to disagree without harboring any negative feelings towards one another.
Although I have not formally come out to my family, I have shared many harsh opinions about religion with them in person and on Facebook. My parents are very religious and faith is the foundation of their logic and guidance. Thus, I usually ignore their praises to the Lord for putting food on the table or bite my tongue when they “keep the faith” during difficult times. However, this past Sunday was my breaking point. My mother and I were watching the news when the issue of same-sex marriage getting legalized in NY arose (it’s currently a hot topic here). We debated the issue for a while in terms of separation between church and state, then she referenced Adam and Eve. I sharply told her that humankind did not begin from an Adam nor an Eve (I absolutely DETEST that story). Immediately, the conversation was over. Though and my points were discarded, she did not reject me at all; we’ve been able to completely move on. I may have been rejected by a few people on Facebook since I never hear a word from them, but I couldn’t care less, it’s just Facebook. Good luck to you!
Thanks Carolyn, it turns out I don't need that good luck though. It would appear that the word has leaked out to my father at least; we had a talk about his own doubts and whatnot, but he never asked me specifically about my Atheism. But I assume he knows and he's perfectly fine with it! Thus far, none of my friends have reacted negatively either so it's going really well for me. I'm shocked to say the least, I live in Alabama where churches are about a mile apart on average.
But as far as you and your mother's debate about gay marriage, you should suggest that she take, as a Christian, should take Jesus' position on homosexuality... by not saying a word about it. No disrespect meant, of course.
Churches are a mile apart? You most live in a rural area. In the Black comminutes near me in New Jersey there are churches damn near on every block. More than one church on some blocks. Many are little store front churches but many others are large churches. Some are over a hundred years old. They are not as prevalent in the white communities but they don't half step either.