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Cancer

Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Comment by Qiana-Maieev on October 21, 2016 at 12:14am

Hopefully he can be kept in some sort of comfort.

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 21, 2016 at 12:12am

Cary went into the Emergency Room at 4:00 AM, he was suffocating, and had surgery to put in a breathing tube. He was still under anesthetic when I left him tonight. He is getting excellent care. I will return tomorrow morning and spend the day with him. 

I called Laura and she drove in from her home 50+ miles away. She sat with him with me. We shed a lot of tear and shared many memories. 

Comment by k.h. ky on October 14, 2016 at 2:15pm
Joan, I have also been with many dying family members. I believe as we age we can accept it as another part of life. Sad as it is. That doesn't make it any easier. Except we kind of know ahead of time what's going to happen. The previous experiences we've had with the dying give us a base of knowledge that, perhaps, makes us feel less confused with medical speak. I lost an eighteen year old son in a car wreck sixteen years ago. So I also know what it's like to lose a child. The only reason I mention it is to offer you my empathy as you go through the next few weeks.
Comment by Joan Denoo on October 14, 2016 at 2:29am

Yes, I know you are right, Cary's rages are induced by his meds or by his anger at such an early death. 

Daniel, thanks for that information, I will ask Laura to see what she can find out. She won't do anything until and unless Cary gives his OK. 

Spud, I have been through this several times, with my mother, father, and a couple of aunts. I know what is happening as their bodies close down. When Mom died, she was in the hospital with all kinds of tubes coming out of and into her body. She was hooked up to monitors that we could watch. Doctors and nurses explained what each meter meant and we saw the organs close down, one by one. 

Dad died in my bed in my bedroom and I could tell that his systems were shutting down. With my aunts, I just comforted my cousins as we watched them die. 

I can't say I hate being part of death; it is kind of like being part of birth. With birth, it is watching excruciation pain and the joyful moment when the crowning event takes place, and then the shoulders, and the rest is a great sigh of relief and joy at a healthy baby coming into the world. With death, it is the opposite, shutting down of systems, a coma like state, and then the eyes turn blank. Deep grief, soul wrenching crying, and then there is nothing but memories. 

My mother and father lived during such a transformative time, they grew up poor in a small farming village and knew nothing of the outside words. Their only connection in those early days was the radio. Then, cars, toilets inside, electricity, telephones, the Great Depression, WW II, the men gone for years at a time and the mothers working in war industries. Grandparents cared for the kids, Then Dads came home, and Moms, and a new normal became our reality. 

I am at a time in my life when I see a lot of births and deaths!

The deepest of joys and profoundest of grief seem to be a part of my new normal. 

It feels good to write.

Comment by Plinius on October 14, 2016 at 12:48am

Glad of the update, Joan, I was wondering how you two were. Keep reminding yourself that the rages are medicine induced and that Cary loves you as always.

Comment by k.h. ky on October 13, 2016 at 3:36pm
We're with you Joan. You can only do what you feel is right for your son and yourself.
My mom was on a daily stool softener. Something over the counter. My thoughts stay with you. Take a break when you need it. And we're all here for you.
Comment by Idaho Spud on October 13, 2016 at 3:31pm

Sounds like you're in a tough place now Joan.  I don't know how I would handle it.

When my wonderful dad was dying, I was glad I was far enough away that I didn't have to handle it on a daily basis.  Felt guilty about that, but that's the way it was.

Hope you can get through it OK Joan.

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on October 13, 2016 at 2:41pm

My heart goes out to you.  You are right about not needing those rages.  There is nothing wrong with making use of a fake happy place, if it helps you cope.

Steroids shrink tumors that pinch nerves and press on the brain, which is the role of hydrocortisone.  The steroids help with pain.  They also cause heightened anxiety and rages.  Maybe they can give an anxiety medication in the tube, if not already doing so.  Also, prunes or pureed prunes in the feeding solution, ir miralax, or a laxative.  Not all at once, could cause diarrhea.

Is hospice involved?

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 13, 2016 at 2:30pm

Thank you, Daniel, Quiana, Chris, Bertold, Spud, Grinning Cat, and Kathy! I can't find the words to express how helpful you are with your sentiments and ideas. I know I am not alone, and I don't mean in the religious sense. I mean having friends, even from so many different places. 

Comment by Qiana-Maieev on October 13, 2016 at 2:27pm

Couldn't agree more. Things are tough enough.

 

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