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We won't pray.  We won't blame gods.  We won't give credit to gods.  

We face the diagnosis and know, it is what it is.  

To the extent that we can, we will define our own course.

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Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Metastasis Visualized

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Daniel Wachenheim Jun 27. 3 Replies

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Sean Parker to Donate $250,000,000 to Fight Cancer

Started by John Jubinsky. Last reply by Michael Penn Apr 13. 1 Reply

Billionaire Sean Parker who was the first president of Facebook and a co-founder of Napster will donate $250,000,000 to fund immunotherapy research to fight cancer. This type of therapy fights cancer…Continue

New Hope for Hard-to-Treat Cancers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on July 7, 2014 at 1:13am

So many of us report the toilet problem, it must be a syndrome. Out of our common experiences we should write a guidebook for newly diagnosed cancer patients. 

My neighbor has cancer as well, diagnosed before mine. She, too, is having problems with her toenails and fingernails. They curl down into the skin, cutting the tissue and hurting. We compare fingernails when we are together. We haven't gone to the trouble of comparing toenails, yet. I'm a little too embarrassed! They are so ugly!. 

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on July 6, 2014 at 3:07pm
One thing cancer has taught me is to be less perfectionist. A few typos dont matter when the next scan could show recurrence. Cancer tells me, if I could be dead in 6 months from this disease, my spelling is trivial. So is the laundry pile by the washing machine, and the weeds in the driveway cracks.

I cant copy and paste on ipad. The text is small and my eyes are bad. My fingers are fat and I have chronic diarrhea from intestional effects.
Im fatigued and working 70 hour weeks and still always behind.

Thats why I cant keep watching the damn cat when she is typing on the keypad. Like Patricia's cat, she's very sneaky.
Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on July 6, 2014 at 10:16am

I try to edit my posts but often miss typos.  Also, my cat keeps figuring out my password and logging on when I am not home.

Comment by Michael Penn on July 6, 2014 at 9:42am

We all have them. Mostly I get mine when there is no "edit" listed after I do a post.

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on July 6, 2014 at 9:04am

Michael, sorry for the many typos.  I have fat fingers not suited for the keypad on my tablet.  There are fewer typos when I use a keyboard.  For some reason, "s" and "a" get transposed a lot.

Comment by Michael Penn on July 6, 2014 at 8:39am

You are right, Daniel, but your cat is on the keyboard of your laptop again.

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on July 5, 2014 at 11:50pm
Joan, thsnks for bringing. up the caregiver side of the equation.

The responsibilities, and the pressures, truly can take a toll. The caregiver, what ever their role, is only humsn. And like all humans, flawed and vulnerable.

But. They have in their hands, the fates snd wrll being of others. It is their responsibility, their duty, to do the best they can. Equally, it is their duty to be caring to those around them, outside of the care setting.

I always try to remember, the people involved in my care are only human, and they are as varied as hunsns anywhere else. I try to thsnk them, to make it rewarding to them. Not all are nice people. Not all are able. But many are both.
Comment by Joan Denoo on July 5, 2014 at 12:13am

This is off subject of being the one with cancer, but I want to share it with you. My former husband, a dentist, had the task to reconstruct a jaw in which a woman had lost her lower jaw to cancer. The whole jaw was taken out and skin had to be grafted and ready for the reconstruction of the jaw, which was my husband's task. The team of dentists and surgeons had to develop a strategy that was based on war injuries to the face, a very complex task because of the tongue and creation of a new jaw. During one phase they made a latex flap that went from her upper lip and draped over her lower part of her face so that people couldn't see her back bone going into her skull. It was a terrible sight and I saw the photos they used during the planning phase. 

The lower manufactured jaw, with false lower teeth were surgically installed, and then the skin grafts were drawn up over the device to reconstruct the chin. They had to make different grafts to represent the lower lip. 

The whole procedure took a heavy toll on my husband and the others who were involved with the responsibility. It felt to me as though they were trying to make a natural looking face, could not, and their frustration created great problems for the families of the surgical team. To be more blunt, they were trying to play god, couldn't, and frustration turned into physical abuse in our home. 

Comment by Michael Penn on July 4, 2014 at 9:34am

Dr. Meaden. I just wanted to let you know that when I wrote that they told me the Basil cell did not spread, they meant it doesn't spread to other parts of the body. In the area that it is detected in, it can grow and spread a lot if not treated. Thank you for agreeing with me on my opinion of excision being the best form of treatment. I've only had this one incidence of it so far, and that was over 10 years ago.

I do my own excizing if I can, and some say that is foolish. I take care of warts and moles if possible, smothering warts with castor oil, etc. About 2 years ago I had a hard growth on my back that became black and hard like a marble. No pain, but not normal. I went to the doctor for that one and they burned it off in 15 minutes. Charged my insurance over $800 and we still don't know what that one was? My guess is that it was highway robbery!

Comment by James M. Martin on July 4, 2014 at 9:26am

Or squamous.  I think "rodent ulcer" is cute.


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