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Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

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We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Comment by Joan Denoo on January 10, 2014 at 10:56pm

Daniel, you are on my thoughts. I hope things improve. Each day holds so many opportunities to care and participate in life. The turning of the seasons offers a nice chance to hunker down, without extra chores beckoning one out of a comfy chair. Getting ready for another season of engaging with the elements of life enriches in very many ways. Warmer days, more daylight, the greening of the Earth all invite us to take on another season. 

I feel very encouraged that there are growing numbers of people who embrace the reality of being free of promises and threats of dogma of all kinds. We are becoming a nation of non-believers, with all that implies. The numbers joining A/N encourages me that we don't have to be silent about our thoughts. More people accept differences of gender orientation. 

There continue to be rapids to maneuver, and individually we become stronger. It feels so good to be able to be open and honest about who we are and not motivated by fear of damnation and hope of heaven, neither of which were ever real.

Take good care dear friend. Congratulations on the fine start of your new site, Food. It is taking off with very good participation.


Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on January 10, 2014 at 10:12pm


"I am absolutely certain there is a plan for his life. He interprets it as a plan created by god for him. I say to him, the plan already exists inside of him, he is the author, the creator, the definer of his plan."

I really like that.  Often we don't know it, and often life intervenes with disruptions of whatever conscious or unconscious plan we have write.  But we are the authors of our plans.  Now, I need to have a talk with my editor.  :-)

They didn't PET scan me.  Just CT scan.  Next one is a week from  Saturday.  That's the 6-month point.  I've been sicker than usual lately, but no weight loss.  I suspect the "sicker" is work and exposures, and the "no weight loss" is a good thing.  Then again, I didn't lose weight while growing a 2 pound tumor in my belly.  I've been faithful taking the adjuvant therapy.  We'll see.  :-)

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 10, 2014 at 8:34pm

Oh yes, that wonderful PET scan. It is what tells the professionals if any cancer cells remain after the treatments. If the PET is clean, then the assumption/hope/passionately desired verdict of "free of cancer cells" may be true ... or there may be some hidden little devils that the scan didn't see. Or new ones just waiting to spring into being. 

My closest friend, Ed, the fellow who sends me all those funny pictures, and cartoons, had testicular cancer, went through all the protocols. Just this week he let me know that the cancer has spread to his bones. He is now in radiation trying to keep the pain down. Prognosis is not good. 

I hope the young man is free of cancer and can resume his life in a normal fashion to old age. Perhaps he will have to face the fact one day that he is not clear, that he has more rounds of whatever protocol they prescribe, and he can rest on the good work of his god or faith or belief.

Meanwhile, the doctors, nurses, technicians, all those people who sit with those who throw up in emesis basins, or who cry out in pain, faithfully care for and provide what comfort is available. 

Their god sits serenely by, not giving a hand at cleaning up the messes, or holding hands, or giving comfort to family who suffers a different kind of pain than the patient.

I am absolutely certain there is a plan for his life. He interprets it as a plan created by god for him. I say to him, the plan already exists inside of him, he is the author, the creator, the definer of his plan. His life is in his own hands and he needs no crutch to hand him a plan on a silver platter.  No god can provide the kind of comfort, certainty, confidence and competence that comes out of his own wisdom.

Well, I hope he doesn't have too hard of a time figuring that all out. Delusions are a dreadful thing to overcome. I wish him well.  

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 29, 2013 at 4:08pm

Daniel, so sorry about your horrible experience aspirating cancer medication.  I would give-up secrets as well.

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on December 29, 2013 at 3:23pm


I'm an internist.  it's a long story.  I don't go into it online, because it gets in the way of some interactions.

Comment by Plinius on December 29, 2013 at 2:23pm

I'm glad you feel a bit better, Daniel! What work do you do, or what makes it meaningful to you?

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on December 29, 2013 at 1:40pm


Still not in that great shape today.  But not as bad.  Today mostly online doing homework.

Fortunately this week will have a day off for New Years.  Glad for that!

Joan, work gives my life meaning.  Also without work I can't afford treatment without giving up being able to provide for my partner, especially if my life ends soon.  Statistics say that probably won't be the case but its something i think about.  Next scan in is mid Jan.  Most of my human interaction is also via work and I would miss that too.  It's very difficult.  I wish there was a way to cut back.  But I continue.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 29, 2013 at 2:46am

Daniel, I am so sorry to learn of your recent experience. Dreadful experience for you. Surely a frightening one for Ning. I continue to marvel that you have been able to work at all. 

These may help relaxation, hopefully so:

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on December 28, 2013 at 8:22pm

Today is not so bad. Just exhausted. I think I'll head for a hot shower now.

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on December 28, 2013 at 8:15pm

Difficult for you, I'm sure.  Sorry to hear that.

They could use aspirated Gleevec instead of water boarding prisoners.  I was ready to give up all the information I had.



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