If you have cancer.

If you had cancer.

If you know someone with cancer.

If you want to talk about cancer.

We won't pray.  We won't blame gods.  We won't give credit to gods.  

We face the diagnosis and know, it is what it is.  

To the extent that we can, we will define our own course.

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Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 12:18pm
Mindy, let's hope the researchers continue their search for a complete cure. I can't imagine living that long with such a misery. You indeed have strong genes and courage!
Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 10:50am

Neuropathy of the Digestive System is new to me. It must have taken many experiments to find what works for you. That takes a lot of determination and persistence. Good for you! I hope there is a cure. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 10, 2013 at 9:56am
March 19, 2013, my primary physician called to tell me my most recent breast exam and follow up revealed cancer. On Sept 4, I will have completed my 16 weeks of chemo, and on Sept 5, I start radiation with what they call a “simulation” in which they take measurements and figure out how to dodge my pacemaker, lungs and heart in order to “hit” the left breast cancer spot. That left side has caused problems with the pacemaker and heart. So far, so good. I expect to be finished with radiation five-days a week for six weeks on Oct 11.
Dr. Fairbanks, the radiologist, explained that although the cancer was found early, we started treatment immediately with surgery > chemo > radiation, because one is a very aggressive form of cancer, the other is just an ordinary cancer.

That will be seven months of living, eating, breathing, thinking, paying attention to my cancer.

The bad part of all this is the nausea, diarrhea, unknown and unfamiliar procedures.

The good part is I have experienced no pain caused by needles, knives, and awkward positions on strange pieces of equipment. No pain whatsoever!

My teams began to form at once, the family rallied in ways beyond my reasonable expectations even joining in a “shave Joan’s head party”, my medical team works together in a seamless flow of coordinated appointments and procedures, my neighbor team rallied and offers assistance, good wishes, and shared stories, my friends team rose to the occasion sharing their expertise in nursing, social services, mental health processes, and of course, my Atheist Nexus virtual team generously give encouragement, share histories, and funny thoughts.

In the Chemo Room, I’ve observed loved ones holding emesis basins as patients wretched, people just starting treatment with eyes revealing fear and anxiety, others finish treatment and they get a big group cheer as we send them on their ways, and I observe people who are alone, look lonely and afraid. My daughter and granddaughters reach out to them in the most loving, compassionate ways to bring them beverages or snacks or blankets and encouragement.

Life offers many opportunities to confront challenges with courage, intelligence, and determination. I expect to overcome this cancer challenge. I still have the fighter characteristic that seems to be so necessary for making life healthy, happy, peaceful, even as the warrior in me remains.
Joan Denoo, 2013-08-10
Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 9, 2013 at 10:24pm
Patrica, your approach sounds similar to mine. I have taken the attitude of what do I need to do and how and when. My cancer is faily rare. Some of the optimism by the gastroenterologist and surgeon and oncologist were incorrect but I dont know what to make if that. Also they are not very good at managing nausea, which is kind of pathetic. But I think I figured that part out for now. And the diarrhea too. I hope.

I know a fair number of atheist doctors but have not asked the surgeon or oncologist. My primry care doctor is Jewish. He is a caring doctor and I drive 45 extra miles to see him.
Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 9, 2013 at 9:59am
p.s. srry for any typos. fat fingers. tiny keypad. :)
Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 9, 2013 at 9:58am
Hi Patricia, thank you! You have had a long journey. I wope you have many more years.
Im only a few months sine my partial gastrectomy.... we will see how it goes. It has been a learning process. Thats what life is.... learning!
Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 8, 2013 at 10:11pm

The logo is the zodiac "cancer" symbol via wikipedia commons.  It's a  play on words.  Plus I'm feeling a bit crabby at the moment.  :)

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 8, 2013 at 9:22pm

Mindy, of course!  You are welcome anywhere you are!

At this point I don't know where the group will head.  I had some thoughts and it seemed like this topic fit into a group structure.

Wherever we go - that's where we'll be!


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