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We won't pray.  We won't blame gods.  We won't give credit to gods.  

We face the diagnosis and know, it is what it is.  

To the extent that we can, we will define our own course.

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Cancer changes lives.

We have to deal with medical profession.

We have to deal with medications.

We have to deal with new discomfort and pain.

We have to create dignity, where there is indignity.

We have to deal with family members, friends, coworkers, and strangers, in a changed way.

We resolve to go forward with strength, resilience, purpose, pride, and integrity.

We define ourselves. Cancer does not define us.

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Comment by Michael Penn on June 14, 2015 at 9:38pm

Joan, it isn't difficult to quit drinking when one realizes that their body no longer processes alcohol. Two drinks and I do not feel well and my body never gets the "buzz" or alcohol "high" any longer. Therefore, there is no reason to drink. I could force myself to drink but doing so would be a death sentence. I'll pass.

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 14, 2015 at 7:34pm

"Give it to god!" 

What an inadequate response! I see no evidence of god and if there is one he/she/it works very hard to conceal him/her/it -self. For those who give "it" to god and feel better, I am glad. It appears like giving thanks to someone who one thinks gives a gift but didn't. Except what if there is no god who gives gifts, answers prayers, protects one from evil, gives guidance when in doubt, then itExcept, what if there is no god who doesn't give gifts, answer prayers, protect one from evil, give guidance when under stress? 

Except what if there is no god who gives gifts, answers prayers, protects one from evil, gives guidance when in doubt, then it is an empty gesture. 

A gesture with meaning is facing reality as it is, exploring for answers that matter, developing a plan to face reality with courage and get on with life. 

Oh well, what else is new?

How are you doing, Patricia? Get over your ordeal with your humor still intact? 

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 14, 2015 at 7:18pm

Mike, alcohol takes such a heavy toll on people and you appear to be one directly affected. I can't imagine how difficult it is to quite when I know how hard it is for me to lose weight. Addictions of any kind offer real challenges. I am glad you were able to beat the Demon Rum, or whatever your preferences. 

Well, Mike, we have to find our pleasures in other ways. Making each day count for something helps, but that isn't all there is to it. I guess if we cheer each other on and find ways to be happy, that is all we can ask. 

I like Daniel's philosophy,  what is, is. 

I wish you well, my friend, and do take good care of yourself. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 14, 2015 at 7:04pm

I'm counting with you, Daniel. 

Do you have neuropathy? The flank isn't where I would expect neuropathy to hit, but then, I don't know much more than my own experiences. 

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on June 14, 2015 at 6:35pm
Mike, I sincerely hope your liver heals for you and you get a renewed leade on life.

Joan, it's strange. I was more embarassed than anything else. The pain was so bad I had to leave a patient in a room, and the staff had to cancel others. And I felt bad that I put Ning into a panic. I think I'm kind of numb about myself - resigned to whichever way it goes. I didn't like the experience, but was more concerned about Ning.

What caused the episode? I still don't know. There are lots of bizarre muscle cramps in my legs, feet, hands, arms. Even in the jaw and neck. I attribute those to the adjuvant therapy. Im speculating, but maybe this was a muscle cramp in the supportive muscles of my flank. The cramps are exquisitely painful, but they pass. I look at it as, they mean I'm absorbing the medication, and it's in my system, so that's good. Maybe this was just another muscle cramp. If it happens again, I wont worry about it,

Joan, I will always be grateful that we were able to share our cancer journeys.

My workload is too heavy, but only 8.5 months to go.
Comment by Joan Denoo on June 14, 2015 at 5:54pm

Barbara, thank you for your expression of appreciation of the endurance of cancer survivors in this group. We are a hearty lot! 

There is something about the word "cancer" that is rightly spelled "vulnerable". I felt I was invulnerable to the challenges of life only to learn otherwise. The cancer required endurance; the fall, the broken arm and ribs and blocked bowel, although over very quickly, has surely made a coward of me. I like my cane by my side, even when I don't need it. 

I must add that life has more sparkle now! Each morning is a real pleasure; each night a happy drift into sleep and rest. I even enjoy people more; kind of like treasures that pop into and out of my days always bringing smiles and joy. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 14, 2015 at 5:40pm

Daniel, my heart flipped when I read of your pain ... the memory remains fresh in my mind of your previous episode. How relieved you must have felt upon examination and finding nothing! That late winter day in 2013, when you were first diagnosed, and then I a week later, started us on a road we didn't plan. The good news is, we met each day and each challenge, cheering each other along the way. 

I celebrate your negative report!

Now, what caused the pain? Are you fully recovered from it? What can you do to prevent it from happening again? Is your workload too heavy? 

Maybe it was just your body telling you to slow down and enjoy your new kitchen!

Take good care, my dear friend

Comment by Michael Penn on June 14, 2015 at 9:50am

Barbara, I see what you are saying but if an alcoholic drinks most of his life we can assume alcohol is the cause. Treatment is pretty much the same. It just depends on whether you have 25% good liver or not. If so you can heal in 3 years. If not, you might live another 2 years or less. The bottom line is no more alcohol but I agree it's hard to drink if your liver is not processing it. That's why I quit drinking. I get nothing from it anymore, not even a buzz.

Comment by Barbara Livingston on June 14, 2015 at 9:39am

Daniel, glad it turned out to be nothing, or at least not visible. Sorry you had to endure the scare and physical pain. 

Michael, maybe finding the cause will help them decide on treatment?

Comment by Michael Penn on June 14, 2015 at 9:20am

That would be a scare, Daniel, but at least it was nothing to worry about in the end. In my case the CT scan shows me all that I feared was true, but the reader does not think so. I'm not a reader but all of my peritoneal space was occupied. Now I see a liver specialist August 19th and the big deal seems to be is my condition alcohol related or not. WTF? I've been a heavy drinker most of my life. What do they think it is? They really are in a hurry aren't they? I'm not going to play games over whether my grandpa inherited a bad gene from his uncle Charlie. That won't work with me.


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