I have hesitated posting this because I make no secret to my friends or family about who I am, what I believe or where I hang out online. As a result however I really dislike posting specific information about those in my life because their stories are not really mine to tell. I respect others privacy in much the same way I respect my own.
However I have recently found myself at in a conundrum, and I am seeking advice from those who have been there before.
My girlfriend who is for the most part a rational and intelligent human being, follows some Pagan/Wiccan beliefs. While I would love for her to put such idea's aside, much of what she uses from these beliefs are mostly the meditative aspects of it, to help focus herself and help relieve some stress levels, what I see as placebo reactions. She doesn't turn away from modern medicine and accepts that science and most modern ideas are good and positive. She is more then likely an agnostic deist (she doesn't know but believes that there is something greater out there) when it comes right down to it. We have talked about this on several occasions and are both completely aware of each others stances on such things. For the most part it has never affected the relationship, it is a non-issue, and while it might bother me a little, it doesn't bother me a lot.
Recently however she moved in with someone who is even more deeply into these same beliefs and practices some of the more health risky aspects (rejecting modern cures for more ancient and questionable remedies). Recently I have started to see cracks in what she thinks about such beliefs, that is to say she isn't as big a believer as her roommate is and it shows. She talks to me a fair bit about her roommate, and while I am not afraid to tell her what I think, I have recently begun to wondered if maybe I should be pushing back a bit harder.
My issue is that I don't want her to be an atheist because just because I think its a good idea. I am not even asking that she radically adjusts her position or belief system, I don't want to take away what makes her the person she is.
I guess the advice I am looking for is what idea's or concepts first started to erode your beliefs in such things.
Would it have helped you to have someone to talk to who felt differently, or believed something different?
What if that same person pushed a little harder, and made more active challenges to what you thought? Would it have helped or would it have made you retreat further in those same beliefs?
I have considered introducing her to Pantheism, but I am not sure that she would see it for what it is.
Mostly just looking for some advice, from those who have been there before.