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Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 12, 2013 at 12:44pm

Chrissie, thanks for sharing your story.  It is, indeed, interesting.  Our ancient historical origins that pervade Middle-Eastern societies must have been a fascinating background in which to live.  

I'm happy to hear you presently say, "Life is good."  I know gender transitions are not easy.  You're very lucky to have had an understanding wife all those years.  

Coincidentally, last night on our local PBS television news/arts program, Chicago Tonight, they aired a wonderful segment on a new Children's gender clinic here in Chicago.  It's part of the Lurie Children's Hospital (the recent new name of the former Children's Memorial Hospital.)

Here's the link for all to see:  

Chicago Tonight: Children's Gender Clinic Video       

I'm glad to see young children getting the proper support that they need.

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on April 12, 2013 at 8:25am

As I think most kow I am a MTF transsexual and spent my first 76 years as a male.  I went to Oman in 72 shortly after Qaboos overthrew his father and opened up a country that had been closed to outsiders for centurys.  I got to see how the old men who wrote the Bible really were because that was the state of the country when I arrived.  There was a total of 37 K of roads in the whole country and I travelled to villages who had never seen a white man or a car (Land Rover)

I had been recruited for the tiny Sultan of Omans Air Force working through Airwork Services Ltd. of Bournmouth UK and wound up as CEO.  During the 5 years I was with the Air Force it grew from 3 Vickers Viscounts and a handfull of Jet Provost trainers converted to fighters.  The country was at war with Chineese and Russian trained forces operating in Yemen.  At the time I moved on we had grown to 3 BAC 1=11 transports and the air force had aircraft in the 100s including the British/French Jaguar fighters and the largest fleet of Skyvans in the world 16,  When I arrived most Officers in the three armed forces were European or Aussies and all told about 40 in total.  A number were seconded from the British Armed Forces but I was contract.  After the war was over I left and did a short trip to Nigeria but it did not last. The Nigerian Army Sucks, what can I say. 

I went back to Oman and took over a large Engineering Co. owned by HH Sayid Thuwainy Bin Shihab. the Sultans uncle, #2 and Gov. of the Capital Muscat.  My Wife and I left Oman in 87 and sold our home in UK and came to US to be near our daughter.

I lost My Wife in 03 to Cancer after 45 years. Then after loosing the only person who knew of my strong doll collecting female interior I was lost.  In early 08 I gave in and started my transition and thanks to Marci Bowers I completed it in Sept. 09. 

Life is good, I have given up all the "Boy Toys" the Bentley, the 46 Ercoupe and hanger and am now a very contented 79 YO Lesbian Female with a large doll collection and driving a Jetta.

So that's me, most say "how exciting" but it was a way of getting by in a life that never fit.  I have to admit that I was very lucky to be able to hide the true self and make a decent living income which most like me are unable to do.  I would have never been able to do it without my Linda.  At home we were just a pair of girlfriends and it worked. Now it's just me and my little dog.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 12, 2013 at 1:38am

Chrissie, if you don't mind me asking, can you tell us a little about your time in Oman?  What brought you there and what type of work did you do?  I see you have a background as an aeronautical engineer.  You sound like a very interesting lady.  :) 

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on April 11, 2013 at 5:51pm

I have never seen it spelled out as clearly as that but it has been quite obvious in a number of homophobes that I have run into.  I lived and worked for 13 years in Oman and for some of that time I was employed by the Sultan's Uncle who was No2 in the family.  In Oman homosexuality is a prisonable offense yet Sultan Qaboose, The ruler is very Gay.  The uncle said to me several times "He never make Heir, You don't make babys with boy friends".  When you look at so many arguments against gay marriage they make no sense.  What is the percentage of people who get married and considering all ages how many of them could produce children even if they wanted to.  Of course we all know that it will destroy every hetro marriage in an instant.  I don't quite understand how that works because about half of them destroy them on their own without gay help. We have all heard that the Law is an Ass and our lawmakers prove it every day.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 11, 2013 at 2:07pm

Chrissie, here's a link to a Psychology Today article that speaks to the issue of homophobes and anti-gay sentiment: 

Are Homophobic People Really Gay and Not Accepting It?

A series of studies recently published in the prestigious Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found higher levels of homophobia in individuals with unacknowledged attractions to the same sex, particularly when they grew up with authoritarian parents who also held homophobic attitudes. In the university press release, Netta Weinstein, the study's lead author said, "Individuals who identify as straight but in psychological tests show a strong attraction to the same sex may be threatened by gays and lesbians because homosexuals remind them of similar tendencies within themselves." In the same release, study co-author Richard Ryan added, "In many cases these are people who are at war with themselves and they are turning this internal conflict outward."

It's often been alluded that the catholic priesthood has a disproportionate bastion of closeted gay men.  In my opinion, according to this article, that would seem to make logical sense.  Individuals who are struggling with and unable to come to terms with their own true sexual identity will find solace in a profession where the vow of celibacy within the authoritarian hierarchy of the church becomes a way to deflect conflicted personal feelings away from one's self and onto others.  It's basically a big psychological con came and ruse to cover up their own true nature.  Unfortunately this results in extreme public anti-gay behavior. 

Comment by Daniel W on April 11, 2013 at 9:31am

Missouri hospital throws out the partner of gay patient, has him arrested and refuses to allow him into the hospital.


Since news reports are not in depth, more may come out on this story.  At the outset, it looks pretty heinous.

It hits home for me as a recent hospital patient and ongoing medical patient due to cancer.  At the hospital where I had my surgery, staff accepted my partner completely, allowed him to stay in my room with me as I recovered.  Surgeon and nurses included him in the entire process.  It made a world of difference.  Because we are married, he was able to get time off work to provide care during my recovery.

It really matters.

When I had the initial pain episode that led to this diagnosis, the ambulance insisted on taking me to the nearest hospital, which happened to be a Catholic hospital.  They allowed my partner to be with me in the ER, but I don't know how long that would have lasted.  The ER doctor was pretty obnoxious, but I think that was just his personality.  Since my health plan "repatriates" patients to their own hospitals, I was glad they transported me to the hospital where I stayed.

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on April 11, 2013 at 8:26am

I would never support violence of any kind but in this world I wonder how come the biggest instigator in the universe is that hate group known as The Catholic Church has not inspired a Cathophobic response. It's proof that gay people who are hiding deep in the closet are the most offensive homophobes.  They have initiated hatred, violence and murder for many centuries and they are still at it. Most of the crap going on in France over gay marriage is at the bidding of the Catholic Church.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 8, 2013 at 1:50pm

Gay rights activists, topless protesters greet Putin

Reuters news article

Russian President Vladimir Putin laughed off a protest against him by topless women in Germany on Monday, joking that he liked what he had seen, and was later greeted by gay rights protesters in Amsterdam.

Three members of the women's rights group Femen, which has staged protests against Russia's detention of the feminist punk band Pussy Riot around Europe, disrupted his visit to a trade fair in the German city of Hanover focusing on Russian business.

They stripped to the waist and shouted slogans calling the Russian leader a "dictator" before being covered up and bundled away by security men.

"Regarding this performance, I liked it," grinned Putin at a joint news conference with German Chancellor Angela Merkel, adding that it had helped to promote the trade fair.

"I did not catch what they were shouting, I did not even see if they were blondes, brunettes or chestnut-haired ..."  

What a sexist pig. 

Comment by Jim Greenamyer on April 4, 2013 at 11:29pm

@Dallas the Phallus:  Thanks for the hysterical laughter before bed.:-)

Comment by Daniel W on April 2, 2013 at 10:59am

Grinning cat, thanks for the link.  I read the article.  Kind of odd, tone deaf in many ways.  But also, showing some introspection.  Forced introspection but even that's an improvement.

If the republicans can give up their addiction to the religious right - fostered by Macchiavellians back to, what, Nixon?  Reagan? and concentrate on a philosophy that encompasses economic responsibility, and conservation of resources (conservatism?) as opposed to strip mining them, and back to "main street" business as opposed to mega massive ubercorporations, and "mind-your-own-business" social philosophy instead of govt intrusion into private lives, then they might have a better chance.

Actually, Repubs are not doing as bad as I would like.  They are in the Majority in congress.  The could overtake the senate in the next election, with attractive-enough candidates.  


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