LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends


LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends

Nontheist lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex people & friends.

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Gaydar doesn't exist and it's bad?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Daniel W Sep 13. 2 Replies

Homophobia as pathology

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11. 0 Replies

The Trans Issue

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Denise Deiloh Sep 3. 4 Replies

Does Obama's gay advocacy exclude trans

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jun 27. 5 Replies

Betty Bowers on PRIDE

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Daniel W Jun 5. 1 Reply

Gay christians.

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Gerald Payne May 13. 2 Replies

Boycotting Indiana

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 12. 12 Replies

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Comment by Daniel W on February 15, 2013 at 11:20pm

Just something I can't get out of my mind.  I can't say I'm not out at work - I've talked about my partner to most of the coworkers who are closest to me, and my senior manager, and HR knows for sure.  I have speculated that it's at least a factor, if not THE factor, for why I was harassed into leaving a prior office location, where my performance by all measures was among the best but the harassment was intolerable.  So most of the time I keep to myself, and never speak explicitly, at all, about being gay.  It's not hidden at all, but I just keep quiet. 

Yesterday the office staff were discussing their husbands' lack of giving them chocolates or flowers for valentines day. "My hubby never gives me flowers" .  In my role, I don't engage in the banter and gossip.  I'm just nice to everyone.  As I walked past, one of them said, "So, did your hubby give YOU flowers for valentines day?"  Blew me away.  I had never spoken to her about my hubby.

The answer was, "No, he's in China for Chinese New Year with his family" and she say "Awe, you poor man!  You deserve better"

Made me feel really good.  Totally accepting.  Nice feeling.  

I still have some PTSD about an earlier life of abuse and harassment and discrimination.  But yesterday felt really good.

Comment by Daniel W on February 15, 2013 at 11:10pm

I am sure the "god made a gay man" video is a parody of the  awful Paul Harvey dodge commercial.  I could also comment on the issue of inclusiveness - maybe it will start an internet meme for "god made a .....  " LGBTI person.  Or even "Evolution made a....."

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 15, 2013 at 10:58pm

The pro-gay message of your video is great, Sentient Biped, but the drumbeat of theism -yuck!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 15, 2013 at 10:27pm
Sentient, that is a beautiful and inspiring film. Thank you.
Comment by Daniel W on February 15, 2013 at 10:13pm

Comment by Grinning Cat on February 14, 2013 at 2:40pm

Appropriate for Valentine's Day -- the Illinois Senate passed marriage equality!

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on February 11, 2013 at 10:40pm

Oh, she is creepy but if you watch the video it is her and its the look she gave when they asked her if gay people had any use whatever and she was saying "in her opinion NO"  When you look at the data on Sullivan IN. There are just over 4000 people there and the average wages of those people in that town is in the $21K range and many have no job it appears they are not a very competent group.

Comment by Daniel W on February 11, 2013 at 9:48pm

Dallas,  I wonder if that pic of the special ed teacher was somehow photoshopped?  There's something not-right about her disconjugate gaze.    Kind of creepy, really.

Comment by Grinning Cat on February 11, 2013 at 2:53pm

Congratulations, Chrissie, on fully affirming your true self!

You're right, religion seems to be behind a great deal of the insistence on following the "One True Way" to be a real man, or a real woman, or a real small furry creature from Alpha Centauri. (I do miss Douglas Adams.)

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on February 10, 2013 at 12:42pm

It has been my experience that most people who have a place in the LGBT spectrum have and still are covering their true self because of the pressure from theology and it's influence on society.  For one to identify as a thinking individual who does not fit their ideal of what we all should be is asking for trouble and hatred sometimes resulting in death or injury.  As a result of that I and many others hid our true selves and never admitted our true self often not even to ourself.


I spent 74 years in that limbo and then then rather than ending it all I decided to let the world know my true self.  I admitted to the world as well as myself that I had gender disphoria and that I was going to put it right.  I completed my transition at 76 and life now is more than I ever thought possible.  Those people who you loose because you show who you really are, you know the ones whon believe in some form of invisable sky god, are not worthtrying to keep even if they are family.  The really hard part is finding the will to come out and be who you really are.  I am sure a lot of those grey areas would deminish if we were honest.


I am now a Trans. Atheist Lesbian and at nearly 80 life could not be better so we all need to come out and joinn the fun.


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