LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends


LGBTQI atheists, nontheists, and friends

Nontheist lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex people & friends.

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We're targeted by the justice system

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Apr 19. 2 Replies

Porn site puts North Carolina legislature to shame

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Sep 29, 2016. 1 Reply

Research on Chest Binding

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Bertold Brautigan Sep 28, 2016. 1 Reply

First nationwide survey of anti LGBT youth violence

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Aug 27, 2016. 1 Reply

Supported Transgender Kids Do Fine

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jul 20, 2016. 2 Replies

Religious Colleges get federal pass on discrimination

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 9, 2016. 3 Replies

Gay Suicide - Art Backfires

Started by Bertold Brautigan. Last reply by Bertold Brautigan Mar 30, 2016. 6 Replies

Caitlyn Jenner loves Ted Cruz

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Susan Stanko Mar 7, 2016. 15 Replies

Mean Sally says, "Go kill yourself!"

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by k.h. ky Jan 31, 2016. 9 Replies

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Comment by Joan Denoo on March 3, 2014 at 11:05pm

Oh Chrissie, what a story you have to tell. Have you ever considered writing a book about your life, your feelings, your frustrations, hopes and dreams? How you coped? It seems as though you have begun to flourish. You have much to teach us. I just get goose bumps reading your story. 

The thought of you feeling you brought shame on your family wrenches me to tears. What a terrible experience. 

I do hope you find a comfortable place to build community here. This is a good place to rant and to wallow in comfort. Things happen with these fine folks that don't happen very often in real life. Sadly, we are a virtual family, meeting and becoming community over the internet. But, heck, what difference does that make. It is still community!

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on March 3, 2014 at 10:08pm

From my earliest memory I was a girl. My dad vintage 1895 and my mother vintage 1900 did not agree and made things quite painful until I decided to stop bringing shame on the family.  From that time forward I had to learn to keep it to myself.  If you appeared different during the 30 & 40s you were asking for trouble so not only was I in the closet but I was proving to the world that I was a bloke.  I was the Nerd all through school and always the loner.  Spent 13 years in the forces then things got a little close so I left and then wound up in the Air force of Oman and a short stint in the Nigerian Army.  All through that I was still that girl inside but no one would ever guess that about this bad ass bloke that I appeared.

The only person in all that time that I ever came out to was a lovely lesbian girl in Norwich UK and she came out to me.  We sorted it out, got married and that lasted 45 years till her death. That was perfect, we could hide right out in the open. 

So, yes I think being born with a brain that is at a different place to the body that it happens to be in is a horrible situation.  It does not show much on the outside but on the inside it's awful.  People do not accept you and many end their life.  Meeting my Linda was my saving grace but life was hell when I lost her.  I still after 10 years miss her terribly but changing gender finally made life great and I am catching up on all those things that I missed. So, Birth defect, You bet.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 3, 2014 at 9:45pm

Regarding my comment below, I meant to say, your perspective helps make us whole. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 3, 2014 at 9:23pm

Chrissie, I'm very intrigued by something you said below.  "It took a long time and a lot of money to correct that birth defect."  Do you really consider the condition of your birth to be a defect?  To me, that seems to be a rather harsh evaluation of yourself, but I have not been in your same situation.  

Thanks for you words below.  We are all a piece of the pie, and your perspective helps make up whole. 

Comment by Daniel W on March 3, 2014 at 8:52pm

Chrissie, thank you for sharing your experiences and insights.  You have done a lot and been through a lot.  People should listen to you.

Comment by Chrissie Farthing on March 3, 2014 at 8:30pm

It appears that to participate in any cult that claims to be a religion you have to pick at least one group of mankind to hate.  Even those who have suffered hatred for years seem to also find another group to hate.  Its not just the so called Christian bigots I have seen it in every cult going.  American evangelists are responsible for a lot of hate and murder in Africa.  I have traveled through Africa, Asia and the Middle East and being an in the closet transsexual woman during those times and an atheist I was able to look at all the stupidity that these cults can dream up with out any internal reason to accept any of this crap.  Living as what appeared to be a straight male made life fairly easy but I hated it and after 75 years of trying to be something that I was not I finally managed to gain my true gender as the female I always was.  It took a long time and a lot of money to correct that birth defect.  I am at home in my new life but I now have to face a new bunch of crazy's.  Not only the Sky god fruit cakes but now a lot of radical lesbians who say if I was not born woman than they also have the right to hate the tranny. Makes you wonder just what will be next.  Now we have black people hating black people.

I am now getting through my 80th year on this earth.  It seems like we humans find something new to hate every time we get to the point of finally accepting that we were wrong to hate this or that we go off in a new direction and start hating someone else.

In my opinion the Human race has a very long way to go before it grows up to finally be responsible for themselves.  Of course I think that long before that happens we will have given this planet back to the cockroaches.

Perhaps in another million years a new life form will materialize, It would have to go a long way to screw it up as bad as we have done. .The last lot, you know the big lizards were not all screwed up believing a bunch of fairy tales, all they had to worry about was getting eaten by one of the big bastards.  Life was quite simple.  

Comment by Daniel W on March 3, 2014 at 8:29pm

That guy doesn't know how he mirrors past bigotry.  I remember as a kid, in my church, they used to say black men would steal away white women because of the irresistible sensuality of black men.

As for testing the DNA of intersex children, I don't know what that accomplishes.  Even if chromosomally a child is one sex or the other, or both (XXY and XYY people), they have a right to keep their anatomy intact.  The rest of the world needs to learn to accept that people come in all sorts.  There are also women who are XY but their cells don't respond to androgen, so they are completely female but don't have ovaries and can't have children.  They come out of the uterus completely female.  There would be no reason to try to make them male, just because they are XY.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 3, 2014 at 8:05pm

Yes, Joan, I agree wholeheartedly.  Felaine has spoken passionately and eloquently.  Thanks to both of you and also to all our other allies on here who have chimed in with support.  All of you make the world a better place.      

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 3, 2014 at 7:31pm

There's so much wrong, outlandish and f*cked up about the person in this video that it's hard to imagine that he's actually being serious.  Where does one even begin?


Comment by Joan Denoo on March 3, 2014 at 7:18pm

Felaine, you write powerfully and your voice needs to be heard by a wider audience. Everything you write is factual and not just complaining about life and being a victim. By naming the problem, giving concrete details, you provide valuable information that some people just do not have. Once they get the real picture, some will pay attention and join in your and our struggles. 


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