After Work Rant


     Okay, I’m upset. So I need to get it off my chest, and what better way than to rant to you guys, put my thoughts down, try to gain some equilibrium and peace.


     As many of you know, I’m a former paramedic of 30+ years. One of my former partners was brought in day before yesterday in full cardiac arrest. We ran calls together as exclusive partners for 3 years, and off and on until I moved from the ambulance into the hospital as a cardiac tech. He has survived, is currentely extubated, off all drugs, and is being closely monitored. Enough about that. What is irking me is his preacher. I understand his wife and son, clinging to the notion of a miracle from god. Hell, even the doctors on the case said it was a miracle, one going so far as to say she was only the eyes and hands of jesus, that he had worked through her. Fine, give the credit to a non-existent entity. I was just happy he was getting better.


     Anyway, this preacher asked for everyone to gather around the bed so a prayer could be given. Needless to say, I did not participate. All the family did, and the nurses, and the doctor who was there at the time (who happens to be a hindu, but what the hell, right ?).


     Afterward, this preacher approached me at the desk where I was monitoring the telemetry from. Said he understood that we had been partners on the ambulance together. I said yes. He then asked me what I had against religion and the power of prayer, as I had seen this miracle with my own eyes.


     Closing my eyes and counting to 5, I then stated that I didn’t discuss religion or politics at work. I was not about to get into the furball with this sanctimonious, sniveling, hypocritical, specious, fallacious, spurious, counterfeit, fake, deluded windbag, whose doctrine of drivel, immorality, and falsehoods has driven so much hurt and pain through the body of mankind throughout the ages.


     I know I was red faced by this time from holding it in, but goddamnit all, this was not the place for confrontation! I had a friend recovering from something very serious, and he and his family needed calm and peace for recovery, which will take some time as some mental deficits are apparent.


     He shook his head at me,and said some friend you are, and started walking away. I rose from my chair, my vision closed down to just him, and still I held it. I just had to get this off my chest. I am so torn and frustrated right now, I’m having trouble thinking straight. But this has helped.


     I know some of you won’t agree with the way I handled it, some will. But at least I can vent to you. And if I am not at work, and I happen to see this prick, I plan to unload with both barrels, reload, and have at again!


     Thanks guys for listening.



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I'm here for you Tony.

It is good to let out your anger.

I understand completely.

I have to deal with these issues too from time to time.

Thanks Steph. You're a good friend.

Gosh that's awful.  But don't do anything that will jeopardize your job. Don't put anything in writing.  Just find some way of telling him that as a friend, you were there to actually do something for the man.  It was medical science that made it all possible.  Whereas his invisible imaginary pretend friend did nothing, as always.  If there was a god in charge, the man wouldn't have been there in the first place. Superstition is outdated.

Ask him if he prays in the car like that when he's on a long road trip.  Then when he says he does, ask him if he takes his hands off the steering wheel and closes his eyes. " NO!  Guess you know who's REALLY in control."

Thanks Roy. I won't. I really didn't hold it in because of work, but I had a former partner that didn't need any of that. He and his family have a lot of healing to do. When you eat, sleep, work with someone 24 hrs. at a time, and sometimes spend more time with them than your family, you become close, ya' know? Anyway, wasn't the time or place I felt. I'm just thankful he's getting better, and I'm able to vent and let off some steam. Thanks again.

You handled it perfectly. There will come a time when the pressures and risks are not in front of you, and in a neutral place where you can say everything you want to say to that believer. He needs to hear what you have to say, and not now, in that hospital room or whatever.
You can talk privately to the family away from your work to express your care and concern for your friend and his family. They will feel your expression of love, I am sure, and if they are infected with religious disease, you can still express your compassion.

 Tony Carroll: you indeed had a very disturbing experience but you showed a laudable restraint while helping your friend. If prayer and the unknown (divine) helping hand helped your friend to recover from a difficult medical situation then it should have done the job without any medical help. The fact that medical research is needed to be conducted and is continuously improving human ability to deal better with sickness itself is a proof that the so called divine hand is useless. The world is increasingly depending on science and not on the so called divine.

Prayers were existing for thousands of years, science is working only for a few centuries but has done much more than prayers to improve the human conditions.

     Closing my eyes and counting to 5, I then stated that I didn’t discuss religion or politics at work. I was not about to get into the furball with this sanctimonious, sniveling, hypocritical, specious, fallacious, spurious, counterfeit, fake, deluded windbag, whose doctrine of drivel, immorality, and falsehoods has driven so much hurt and pain through the body of mankind throughout the ages.

Everything that you say here is absolutely true and once again congrats for your excellent restraint. As for the Hindu doctor, Hindus are as good or as bad as any people. I feel sorry for all the deluded people.

Tony, there are enough idiots about to prove that not all mutations result in evolutionary progress. That's something we have to live with and we do cope well most of the time. What brings our piss up to boiling point is the way the vultures start to circle when times are bad. The time is then ripe for a good rant, so it's good there's a forum where it's possible to let rip. I hope you enjoyed it.

If/when confronted with said idiot again it might be a good idea to keep cool but explain your position in clear, positive words. Make him lose his rag and look like the fool he is. YOU are the experienced medical professional who knows what he's talking about.

Nobody could have done this better than you did. Sometimes it's just impossible to cope with them and their one dimensional thinking. You can do nothing now except work it out of your system. Perhaps your former partner can talk like a normal person to you.

Melinda, Ian, Chris, Joan, and Madhukar. Just getting up and getting ready for work. Wanted to say thanks to you all for the support. I was just steaming, really steaming when I got home last night, and had to get it off my chest. After a good nights sleep, I am feeling much better.

Don't worry, I'm gonna be okay, and so will my friend. That's all that really matters in this. I am, and will continue to be close to him and his family. They know all they have to do is call on me, and they have, and I will be there, in the flesh, not some spirit hovering somewhere, and if it is within my power, I will do what I can for them.  Again, thanks to you all.

I sure do agree with everything everyone has said here.  You might also point out to that preacher that your friend was brought in to your place of work and not his church for a reason.  It's quite obvious that everyone has more faith in you than in the preacher.

Good one, Roy. That really hits the nail on the head.

I would love the chance to have someone like that around to have a conversation with.  I might just tell him that even he doesn't believe what he says he does.  "Hey Preacher." "If you are badly hurt in an accident today, would you like us to direct the ambulance to the church or to the hospital?"  Da . . .   You can tell what people really believe by how they act more than what they say.  So they believe in the scientific solutions and show it with their actions, but they still might keep their fingers crossed, just in case.




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