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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Friday. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

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Comment by Natalie A Sera on April 6, 2012 at 10:51am

An interesting article on doubt from a person of faith. I like the theme that even the most profoundly faithful need to consider doubt.

Comment by Grinning Cat on April 6, 2012 at 9:41am

I agree, Flying Atheist, about celebrating our good fortune and not taking it for granted.

That and the ad on this site for a Humanistic Jewish congregation reminded me of a practice of some Jewish humanists that I learned about a few years ago: an elegant, concise reworking of the traditional grace before meals, which removes the imaginary middleman to become simply "Praised [or 'blessed'] are they who bring forth bread from the earth."

(Just five words in Hebrew! "ברוכים המוציאים לחם מן הארץ")

Comment by Plinius on April 6, 2012 at 1:29am

I teach elderly people, and I always enjoy their surprise when they learn that easter comes from Eostre and that Jesus wasn't born on the winter solstice.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 5, 2012 at 9:44pm

BTW, after Halloween, my favorite holiday is Thanksgiving.  I think it's a great day, and religion plays no part in it for me.  I love the idea of an overly-bountiful and delicious meal to celebrate all that I have.  I have a wonderful family, great friends and a place to live that has a four walls, a roof, running water, heat, electricity and moderate creature comforts.  That's much more than what many other people have in this world and I'm grateful that I've been lucky enough to have those things.  For me Thanksgiving is both humbling and celebratory.  I also like Thanksgiving because it's a non gift-giving holiday.  The focus is on the true nature of the celebration.  

Comment by Paula T. on April 5, 2012 at 9:29pm
I stand corrected, the origins are pagan or began with other religions. I suppose secular is the buzz word lately and I am aware of the origins, it's just that I'm still working at getting over my anger regarding religion and finding more information about the various holidays we celebrate. Going to Catholic school meant I was sheltered from anything that didn't agree with Catholicism/Christianity and wasn't even aware of Judaism until I was close to being a teenager. I couldn't figure out why Jewish people didn't believe that Jesus was the son of gawd! I had no idea there are thousands of different sects of many, many religions.

I typed religiloons before correcting myself. Not sure if I've heard it or seen it before, but kinda like the sound of it!
Comment by Jason Fleming on April 5, 2012 at 9:06pm

You're right, they aren't secular and are probably rooted in paganism. But its OK to pretend.  The difference is acknowledging those things are fantasy and not reality.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 5, 2012 at 9:00pm

Natalie, if you're the odd one out, then you have company because I'm there with you.  I'm also quite aware of the religious/spiritual background for many of holiday customs which are now labeled as "secular."  Of course this history is rarely if ever explained to children (or even adults!)  That's information that I took upon myself to learn as an adult.  Unfortunately most people don't bother to trouble themselves.  That's why I always find it rather funny when religious people complain about the "secular" aspects of religious holidays.  They just haven't a clue! 

Comment by Natalie A Sera on April 5, 2012 at 8:24pm

And to add an afterthought -- holidays like the 4th of July, Earth Day and memorials of events seem to me to be more secular than the observances of Christmas and Easter. I'm perfectly happy to observe those, because there truly is no pagan or other spiritual history behind them.

Comment by Natalie A Sera on April 5, 2012 at 8:21pm

I know that I'm the odd one out, but I don't consider those customs to be secular. To me, they're pagan, and the pagan belief in spirits is just as unacceptable to me as the monotheistic religions' belief in god. If you don't acknowledge the spirit-based beliefs in these customs, you might as well go to church, because you don't HAVE to acknowledge the divinity of Jesus either -- communion is just a cracker and some wine, isn't it?

Comment by Paula T. on April 5, 2012 at 7:55pm
Catholics and Christians in general are oblivious to the origins of their beloved holy days. The origins are not taught...that would cause people to think and doubt. Easter eggs, candy filled baskets, the Easter Bunny...they have been around for YEARS, just like Christmas trees, Santa, festively wrapped gifts, fancy baked goods. I don't remember learning about those aspects of "holy days" while I was in school. Don't people realize that the holidays they celebrate ARE, in fact, secular?? If they want the old-time holy days, let them get rid of all the non-religious aspects. They can attend mass, pray all day, and ask gawd to watch over them.....

It is scary to think that parents are teaching their children that innocent, fun parts of holidays are bad. Let kids be kids.

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