Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Issues Atheist, Feminist, GLBTQ, Climate Change

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by BenGee 22 hours ago. 3 Replies

This is a test Continue

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly on Thursday. 15 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 2 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

A moment to relax and see the Earth from space; some how this comforts me.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Oct 16. 3 Replies

All the squabbles and struggles that I have do not compare with those of some others on this great planet. There are no boundary lines, no political arguments, no up or no down. What is, is. For right now, the scenes offer tranquility. Just the…Continue

Tags: and, wonder, awe, of, space

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by Plinius Oct 16. 27 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Sep 29. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Pamela on May 5, 2012 at 10:40am

My father-in-law died last summer, and although he never made his beliefs known he did leave specific instructions for the disposal of his remains.  His instructions started with "call someone to haul my carcass away" and didn't get much more serious after that!!  He wanted a cremation and burial next to his wife and even wrote "don't be afraid to go cheap on a container, it's just going in the ground).  No clergy, no wake, etc.  His two sons and their wives stood in complete silence while the small box was buried.  Nicest funeral I ever attended!

Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2012 at 10:23am

Ruth, what is so not-green is/are the fancy metal caskets...our molecules should be returned to the Earth that nourished us, but most "civilized" places won't allow that.  It's even against the law to bury dead pets in your own we don't tell anybody when we do it.

One friend still has the ashes of her first Chow in a plain brown wrapper that she puts under her Solstice tree every year.  She says he always took such pleasure in lifting his leg on her holiday decorations....

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 4, 2012 at 11:58pm

The Neptune Society option is interesting. I just asked that my useable organs parts be donated, the rest used by a medical school, and what was left could be disposed of the cheapest way that's legal. Taking up a cemetery plot seems so not-green. The ocean is greener.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 4, 2012 at 11:26pm

I don't know if the Neptune Society is a national organization or not, but I joined and paid in full more than 10 years ago.  They take care of the cremation and then scatter the ashes at sea.  They give you wallet cards with instructions for EMTs and hospitals, and papers with more complete instructions to keep at home. 

I told my Jehovah's Witless sister that she could just flush my ashes down the toilet with the cat poop if she wanted to. I don't care.

I think my dad was a closeted atheist, and some years before he died he told Mother that he just wanted to be cremated and be tossed in the ocean with no services, but mother forgot to tell me until after I'd made the mistake of having his body sent to Forest Lawn because I thought he'd bought a plot there.  (I'd seen receipts and cancelled checks when I worked in his accounting office.  Turns out he sold the plot back to them, but I didn't know that, and by the time it was obvious that he was going to die, he'd had a massive stroke, and couldn't speak.) We had to go through a lot of phone calls and extra paperwork to have them do things the way he wanted, and it cost a lot more than the Neptune Society. 

Dad's sister and her husband were offended that we didn't even have a memorial uncle was "a son of a preacher-man."  He always had to pray over his meals, no matter where he ate.

I did call Neptune when Mother died.  Almost 20 years ago!  Seems like yesterday.  She was a bit of a fundie, and got more so with age and illness, but she thought funerals were a waste of money, and god wouldn't care..

When our neighbors have lost a family member, I usually avoid the funeral and send a single white rose, or a white or pale pink phaleanopsis (SP?) orchid, in a bud vase to the house.

I also wear a MedicAlert bracelet (because I'm diabetic and allergic to morphine) that has "DNR" at the very top.  If/when I stop breathing, that's IT.

Comment by Steph S. on May 3, 2012 at 11:14am

Well Jessica you could state in your will the kind of funeral or non-funeral you wish. I just want cremation .. no ceremony or nothing.

Comment by Jessica on May 3, 2012 at 10:57am

Thank you everyone!  Unfortunately, there was not a lot of money left for her to buried so there will only be a graveside service.  I feel selfish in being happy over this development but I will not have to sit in a church and I am thankful.  

My Father in law was an Atheist adn my mother in law comes from a fundie family with preachers and all.  He told her after he got terminally ill that she could have whatever funeral she would like for him.  So, they had an all out Christian one.  I sat there ill at what had happened.  Ii know when you die that is it but I will be damned that someone throw me a christian funeral in my memory.  I'm just saying...

Since she passed I thought a lot about funerals and christianity.  Anybody else had a similar situation? 

Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2012 at 11:55pm
You're the only Atheist in your family Jonathan? Same here with me.
Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2012 at 11:53pm
Sorry to hear about your aunt Jessica. My thoughts are with you!
Comment by Jessica on May 2, 2012 at 6:34am

My Aunt Wanda died last night.  She was a tough woman who did not even let polio slow her down.  Her daughter died in a motorcycle accident at the age of 18.  She had been in the hospital several times this last year but she kept recovering.  However, she was 92 and it was just a matter of time.  She was also a fundie so I know the funeral will be at the church she went to, a baptist church.  Soooo, I am going to have to sit in that church and listen to jesus this, gawd that.  It makes me extremely uncomfortable and if it wasn't for my grandmother I probably would for go the funeral and just go to the funeral home.  I am dreading it bc I do not have a poker face.  Any time I have had to go to church funerals I always make faces (unintentionally) when the preachers say ridiculous things.  I needed some where to share this, I hate baptists churches and their bs.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 28, 2012 at 10:51pm

I got home about 2 hours ago (we stopped at a nice restaurant for dinner), and I'm still speechless.  Most of the songs were written by Sir elton John, but the number that blew me away was set to "Swan Lake."  I'm still breathless, too.

So many memories...


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