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Degrees of Doubt: The Claims and Credentials of Ravi Zacharias (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris May 17. 1 Reply

Anyone here ever run onto an apologist by the name of Ravi Zacharias?  I've seen his name dropped multiple times on YouTube as supposedly being THE ONE APOLOGIST that no atheist wants to cross swords with, because of his facility with christian…Continue

Tags: Ravi Zacharias, Steve Baughman, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Most Hated Woman in America (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Gary S Apr 19. 7 Replies

Before Aron Ra and Matt Dillahunty, before Dawkins or Dennett or Harris or even Hitchens, there was Madalyn Murray O'Hair.  In the midst of an America where Christianity was being flaunted as a defense against the godless communists of the Soviet…Continue

Tags: Frank Zindler, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Madalyn Murray O'Hair

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Todd Williams Apr 12. 16 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

attacking ideas (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 4. 1 Reply

Attacking ideas is a considerable portion of what we as atheists do.  Why attack ideas?  Ideas earn attack when they don't serve people, not just us but those who adopt said ideas, mistakenly thinking that they have value when they don't.  Our…Continue

Tags: ideas, Islam, TheraminTrees

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 4. 40 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Mar 28. 16 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

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Comment by Thomas Murray 13 hours ago


I agree with Kathy on this one. You could go in as limited partnership with them. I think C.S.A. is a great idea. We used to live across the street from these guys....

They were successful because their farm is right in the middle of community of houses and families plus they are CSA as well.

Do you think your family could contact other C.S.A. farms and see how they manage? I supposed if your farm was in Washington or Colorado you could grow "medical marijuana" as supplement income.... Wadda you think? Would Indiana allow this?

Comment by k.h. ky 13 hours ago
Randy, with your money and farm at stake you have every right to be a more active participant in how the business is ran. Few of us like to get involved in our children's business but this is also your business.
Comment by Daniel W 16 hours ago

Randy, they are lucky to have you as their guardian angel.  I hope your efforts are successful.

Comment by Randall Smith 18 hours ago

My third daughter and her husband manage an organic vegetable farm (mine), in their 5th year ( Well, yesterday, they both broke down in my presence to say they can't pay their debts--to the bank(s), bills, even me. They were distraught.

I knew they were "overextended", but I didn't realize how much. Their income comes mainly from CSA customers and Indianapolis restaurant sales, the latter drastically cutting back on orders. They quit going to farmers markets because they thought they could make ends meet without them. Big mistake.

I offered to loan/give them a major chunk of money (6 digits) to "get them over the hump". They were reluctant, but ultimately resigned to accept. This is not the first time I've had to help them, but, hopefully, the last. Fortunately, I have the money.

I'm optimistic the farm will make it. They both work so hard. Usually, I stay out of their way--especially Nate (he's stubborn). I'm no farmer or even a businessman. But, I do know how to save money. So I'm going to submit my suggestions and recommendations in an attempt to save their livelihood (and my farm!).  Basically the message will be to downsize--"less is more". Spend half as much and save twice as much. I'm going to become their "manager", being less passive and more forceful. The loan will come with a caveat: "Listen to what I have to say!"

We'll see.

Comment by Chris on Thursday

I know I'm kookie because I don't follow  Abrihamic religions  that think/teach that  suffering is the way to redemption.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on Tuesday

As Sister Teresa would tell you, the pain and misery aren't a bug, they're a feature.

Comment by Grinning Cat on Tuesday

Yup... and then they have to have an arbitrary rule about how you're not allowed to check out early 'cause the sky daddy doesn't like it -- even if it's his own mysterious plan that's causing you unremitting pain from a terminal disease.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on Tuesday

Good points, GC. You touched on one of the core beliefs of the con, that life in "this vale of tears" means nothing compared to the life eternal to come, or as the preacher said it at a recent memorial service, "the never-ending feast." (Like, couldn't they do a little better than that?) Cozy how this gels so nicely with not caring about the environment, truth, justice or social issues.

Comment by Ian Mason on Tuesday

Weddings could be fun.

Comment by Joan Denoo on Tuesday

Carl, the wedding would not be one of my choices, either. However, I think it touches a place in people that reason does not. I don't need that place, and I know you don't either. I wonder if people who do not need the pomp and circumstance of the rituals need to connect with believers in a different way than I recognize? 

Some refuse to consider non-belief; 

some have social pressures that inhibit non-belief; 

some have fear of non-belief; 

some have anger directed toward those who do not believe; 

some have feelings of guilt and shame that impede non-belief; 

Some like living in the answer instead of living in the question. 

Another way of looking at strategy is to observe how a lack of belief in god can influence individuals' who feel anger, fear, guilt, and shame? 

Perhaps, not focusing on trying to persuade believers to consider non-belief, it might be helpful to focus on the problems belief create, i.e. work toward separation of church and state, keep religion out of public schools, challenge the voucher system for funding education, confront violence in the home with public exposure of abusers, especially if the abusers are religious leaders and teachers. 

Many non-believers have doubts themselves, or they feel fear what will happen if they let others know about their lack of belief in god. The social protocols of "Don't discuss religion or politics in polite society" seems juvenile to me. Any mature, adult, mentally healthy person should be able to take on these discussions without becoming a fool or a tyrant. 

The family and friends who know I am not a believer reacted in expected ways: anger, denial, delusions, fear, pleasure, and agreement. I have a kind of script to respond to these differences. 

My goal is to remain calm, confident, competent, non-defensive, honest, and  challenge them to think, ala A Manual for Creating Atheists by Peter Boghossian. I like his style and especially his sense of humor. Challenging believers can be stressful and it does not have to be grim. Play with ideas and have some fun!


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