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Liberal Redneck - Climate Change the Game (Trae Crowder)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Friday. 2 Replies

Trae Crowder isn't just about atheism.  He has a deep and abiding concern about what's going on with this planet's climate and the all-too-probable catastrophe we face from a fundamental change in weather patterns.  That said, Trae is thinking about…Continue

Tags: climate change, Al Gore, Trae Crowder

concealing abuse (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Sep 3. 2 Replies

We think of institutionalized child abuse and for many of us, the natural reaction is to think of the Catholic Church. Certainly, their guilt is beyond question, even as the headlines of the Boston Globe early in 2002 and the more recent news…Continue

Tags: Children of God, Jehovah's Witnesses, David Berg, child abuse, TheraminTrees

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Grinning Cat Aug 27. 20 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

CBS News Treats Uri Geller as Actual ESP Talent?

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Aug 25. 1 Reply

CBS Sunday Morning is beginning to piss me off.  This morning they presented a story on the US governments foray into…Continue

Tags: espionage, fraud, ESP, Uri Geller, Sunday Morning

Is Christianity Persecuted? (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Aug 10. 7 Replies

Okay, gang ... when is the last time you saw Seth Andrews do an animated video on his YouTube channel?  Seems like donkey's years ago, don't it?  Well, apparently Jeff Sessions and his "religious liberty task force" got Seth's nelly up enough that…Continue

Tags: religious liberty task force, Donald Trump, Jeff Sessions, Seth Andrews, The Thinking Atheist

worshipping narcissists (qualiasoup & theramintrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Aug 4. 2 Replies

They're all around us: people who perceive the world as revolving around them and will go to considerable lengths to make it so: narcissists.  Such beings have been with humanity, I suspect, since humanity emerged from the gene pool.  Even worse,…Continue

Tags: narcissist, QualiaSoup, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Natalie A Sera on May 29, 2012 at 9:51pm

I have a female friend who is distinctly polyandrous, and it's causing her a lot of heartache, because she does truly love her husband, but she's also in love with and wants sex with other men. More than one. It's a really rough place to be in. And you're right -- why should laws complicate what is really an individual or group decision? I have nothing against polyandry or polygamy if all involved consent and are old enough to do so. My friend's problem is that it's her husband who is unable to love or let her love more than one person.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 29, 2012 at 6:59pm

Why am I just now getting email notices from AN regarding posts made LAST WEEK?

Grrrrr!  Snarrrllll!

Comment by Simone Rosa on May 28, 2012 at 2:20am

I was raised as an atheist Unitarian and got married in a Unitarian church by my (atheist) Unitarian minister.  There are lots of theists who get wrapped up in the pomp & circumstance (so to speak) of a wedding but I saw my church as a nice place to hold a ceremony where all my friends and family could attend and enjoy the after-party.

 

As for the purpose of the ceremony/license, I have been hoping that the debate on gay marriage might (finally) get rid of the benefits our employers, government and society associate with a marriage license so that we'll all have the right to visit whomever we choose in a hospital or list whomever we choose as a beneficiary to our insurance.  One of the reasons my ex-husband and I got married was all the legal hurdles and the fact that I had to pretend to wear a wedding band every time he wound up in the hospital (which was often).  We also pretended to be married when we bought our house and cars to avoid all the legal hoops associated with having two "unrelated persons" co-owning property.  It all would have worked well as a "commonlaw marriage" if the Feds hadn't gotten rid of that little provision of the tax and federal code.  Of course the existance of a marriage license also made it harder for us to part ways (not as hard as the 1 yr mandatory separation in our home state of Louisiana but Georgia's 30 days was still more than necessary).  It is my firm belief, even after having been married for a number of years, that the addition of a marriage license and/or ceremony adds nothing to the relationship and I am therefore even more devoutly opposed to the idea of marriage than I was before I got married!  I'd love to have a long-term, committed relationship again but I see no reason to eff it up with a marriage license.  My ex and I used to quote a Goldie & Burt movie by telling people not to screw up a perfectly good relationship by getting married; I wish we'd stuck to that ideal instead of giving in to the pressure to "make it official".

 

As for the "polyamorous" concept, there are many women (myself included) who are still stuck with the evolutionary burden of being emotionally attached to one person at a time.  Men are evolutionarily predisposed to "sow their seed far and wide"  in order to ensure the continuance of the species but women are not wired that way and most of women are happy to continue the practice of "one at a time" regardless of religious affiliation.

Comment by Plinius on May 28, 2012 at 1:34am

multipartner options, what a good idea! A pity my husband couldn't cope with that. We went by tram to townhall, were married, told our families later. A wonderful solution if you want to avoid a lot of trouble.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 27, 2012 at 7:35pm

Joe, as a fellow polyamorist I wish marriage contracts allowed multi-partner options. Someday, perhaps, if we evolve.

Comment by Chantal Wallace on May 27, 2012 at 7:15pm
Even though most wedding are conducted in religious places, you still have to obtain a marriage license. It's a contract. And there are many benefits to getting married. Y'all can file taxes together, residency rights if your spouse isn't a citizen, y'all can share employer benefits (i.e. Medical insurance), etc. You don't have to have the whole fancy wedding in a church to get these benefits either. You just need a judge to sign the license. :)
Comment by Joe Meyer on May 27, 2012 at 6:11pm

Something I have always wondered about is marriage in general, wasn't it a religious custom and idea? Being a life long Atheist, and someone who has lived polyamorous once I have never understood the concept, but maybe I am just the odd ball lol.

Comment by Sarah on May 27, 2012 at 1:42pm

Well, I survived the wedding mass (all 85 minutes of it). But not without the staff at the Catholic church messing with me. The reading was supposed to be on the podium for me, so I wouldn't have to bring anything up. They had shown me the notebook on Friday and given me an exact copy of what was in the notebook so I would be able to practice with it and know where the words were on the page so I could look down gracefully. But the reading in the notebook on Saturday evening was TOTALLY different. Different format, different verses. GAH!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 26, 2012 at 10:24pm

Sara, I think most people go through religious marriage ceremonies because they haven't rebelled against customary expectations. Questioning religion takes a lot of gut wrenching self-questioning, unless you were raised atheist. Not everyone has the wherewithal, emotionally, to do that at the age of youth or young adulthood. Some people don't get around to the deep questions until much later in life, many never get there. It's easier to just live up to the expectations pushed upon you.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 26, 2012 at 8:17pm

A fake you say? Please post that information in the discussion Surreal I haz it. I wondered about the dark nebula cloud objects in that position.

 

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