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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner yesterday. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by sk8eycat on May 29, 2012 at 6:59pm

Why am I just now getting email notices from AN regarding posts made LAST WEEK?

Grrrrr!  Snarrrllll!

Comment by Steph S. on May 29, 2012 at 11:29am

This is the funniest picture!

I hope you all had a wonderful relaxing weekend!

Comment by Simone Rosa on May 28, 2012 at 2:20am

I was raised as an atheist Unitarian and got married in a Unitarian church by my (atheist) Unitarian minister.  There are lots of theists who get wrapped up in the pomp & circumstance (so to speak) of a wedding but I saw my church as a nice place to hold a ceremony where all my friends and family could attend and enjoy the after-party.

 

As for the purpose of the ceremony/license, I have been hoping that the debate on gay marriage might (finally) get rid of the benefits our employers, government and society associate with a marriage license so that we'll all have the right to visit whomever we choose in a hospital or list whomever we choose as a beneficiary to our insurance.  One of the reasons my ex-husband and I got married was all the legal hurdles and the fact that I had to pretend to wear a wedding band every time he wound up in the hospital (which was often).  We also pretended to be married when we bought our house and cars to avoid all the legal hoops associated with having two "unrelated persons" co-owning property.  It all would have worked well as a "commonlaw marriage" if the Feds hadn't gotten rid of that little provision of the tax and federal code.  Of course the existance of a marriage license also made it harder for us to part ways (not as hard as the 1 yr mandatory separation in our home state of Louisiana but Georgia's 30 days was still more than necessary).  It is my firm belief, even after having been married for a number of years, that the addition of a marriage license and/or ceremony adds nothing to the relationship and I am therefore even more devoutly opposed to the idea of marriage than I was before I got married!  I'd love to have a long-term, committed relationship again but I see no reason to eff it up with a marriage license.  My ex and I used to quote a Goldie & Burt movie by telling people not to screw up a perfectly good relationship by getting married; I wish we'd stuck to that ideal instead of giving in to the pressure to "make it official".

 

As for the "polyamorous" concept, there are many women (myself included) who are still stuck with the evolutionary burden of being emotionally attached to one person at a time.  Men are evolutionarily predisposed to "sow their seed far and wide"  in order to ensure the continuance of the species but women are not wired that way and most of women are happy to continue the practice of "one at a time" regardless of religious affiliation.

Comment by Plinius on May 28, 2012 at 1:34am

multipartner options, what a good idea! A pity my husband couldn't cope with that. We went by tram to townhall, were married, told our families later. A wonderful solution if you want to avoid a lot of trouble.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 27, 2012 at 7:35pm

Joe, as a fellow polyamorist I wish marriage contracts allowed multi-partner options. Someday, perhaps, if we evolve.

Comment by Chantal Wallace on May 27, 2012 at 7:15pm
Even though most wedding are conducted in religious places, you still have to obtain a marriage license. It's a contract. And there are many benefits to getting married. Y'all can file taxes together, residency rights if your spouse isn't a citizen, y'all can share employer benefits (i.e. Medical insurance), etc. You don't have to have the whole fancy wedding in a church to get these benefits either. You just need a judge to sign the license. :)
Comment by Joe Meyer on May 27, 2012 at 6:11pm

Something I have always wondered about is marriage in general, wasn't it a religious custom and idea? Being a life long Atheist, and someone who has lived polyamorous once I have never understood the concept, but maybe I am just the odd ball lol.

Comment by Sarah on May 27, 2012 at 1:42pm

Well, I survived the wedding mass (all 85 minutes of it). But not without the staff at the Catholic church messing with me. The reading was supposed to be on the podium for me, so I wouldn't have to bring anything up. They had shown me the notebook on Friday and given me an exact copy of what was in the notebook so I would be able to practice with it and know where the words were on the page so I could look down gracefully. But the reading in the notebook on Saturday evening was TOTALLY different. Different format, different verses. GAH!

Comment by Steph S. on May 26, 2012 at 11:06pm

Ruth that is an excellent observation. I agree.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 26, 2012 at 10:24pm

Sara, I think most people go through religious marriage ceremonies because they haven't rebelled against customary expectations. Questioning religion takes a lot of gut wrenching self-questioning, unless you were raised atheist. Not everyone has the wherewithal, emotionally, to do that at the age of youth or young adulthood. Some people don't get around to the deep questions until much later in life, many never get there. It's easier to just live up to the expectations pushed upon you.

 

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