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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller 13 hours ago. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Derek Bly on September 8, 2012 at 10:01am

"Her name was Lula,

She was a show girl."

C'mon, everyone, sing along with me now! You know the tune.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 8, 2012 at 9:50am

Lula is adorable!  Great photo.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 8, 2012 at 9:20am

Wow.  Blast from the past.  I loved watching Jeff Smith (and his cute assistant Craig) on PBS.  I was a big fan in the '80s.  I only have his first cookbook, The Frugal Gourmet.  Some great recipes.  Too bad he got caught up in a tainted scandal.  He had a great personality.

I would LOVE your recipe...send away!!  

Once again, you just crack me up.  (pot in the orange juice.)  LOL

I can just imagine what you're like at a party! 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 8, 2012 at 8:13am

I heard THAT!  Cranberry juice is the only fruit juice I can tolerate, but I sometimes add orange juice to the pot when I make cranberry sauce. (Maybe I should add some pot to the orange juice...)

I have also thought of cranberry sorbet with an orange swirl, I just wish I could get B&J or Baskin Robbins interested.... 

Do you want the recipe that I have?  It's in one of the late Jeff Smith"s cookbooks (The Frugal Gourmet Cooks American)

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 8, 2012 at 7:35am

Mmmmmm   Cranberry sorbet.  That would be wonderful.  I'm never without cranberry juice in the fridge.  Love the taste. 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 8, 2012 at 1:32am

Steph and Tony, I don't have any parffait in the fridge, but I have some die-VOON passionfruit punch sherbet in the freezer. Better hurry, though, I only bought it yesterday, and the carton is already half empty.

PS: I have been trying for years to get some commercial company to make cranberry sorbet or sherbet for the winter holidays, and they keep ignoring me.  I have a recipe, but no Donvier machine....  But doesn't it sound perfect for the usual turkey (or ham) feast?

Comment by sk8eycat on September 8, 2012 at 1:16am

@Idaho Spud: About the 100 lb bag of manure...It was very much a physical sensation when I suddenly realized the whole book had to be fiction. 

I was trying to find the answers to personal problems (I'd been told to "take my troubles to Jesus"), and had been struggling for more than 10 years with my inability to believe as whole-heartedly as the other people in my church seemed to, so I read the whole book, from beginning to end.  By the time I got halfway through Revelation, I was thinking, "This guy is tripping on acid!"  (I had NO idea at the time that diseased rye and other "recreational drugs" were widely available in the whole Mediterranean for centuries. I read about that much later in Colleen McCullough's "Masters of Rome" series.)

Anyroad, I thought back over other "miracle" stories, Jonah and the whale, the flood, Jesus raising an already decomposed man from the dead...I looked at the book in my hand and said out loud, "This is CRAP!"  I was appalled at myself for an instant, but I did feel as if I'd shed a heavy burden I'd been dragging around for years (I was in my mid 20s at the time). 

I had always felt that there was something wrong with me, that my problems (alcoholic father that I loved, for one thing) were my fault because I didn't believe enough, or something ....

I have always been fascinated with science, even though I lack the education, but at the time I was going through all this, all sorts of amazing scientific discoveries were making headlines, and I ate them up like mad.  They proved beyond a doubt that Genesis was just plain silly, and Darwin was right...I'd been struggling to keep my mouth shut about that in Sunday school for years. (I never did have a problem knowing that our ancestors were related to apes...I thought it was exciting.)

I wanted to know why "god" didn't tell "his chosen people" the truth about their origins, or about the shape of our planet and solar system, etc..  Woulda saved a lot of trouble.

Once I realized that the buybull was nothing but myths and lies, I stopped worrying about it, and got on with my real life. (My Dad went into rehab and sobered up, too.)  And nobody EVER asked me why I wasn't going to church any more.

I'm babbling...sorry.  It just is a long story because it took me so many years to get my head straight, and that final "This is CRAP!" was a surprising bolt out of the blue.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 7, 2012 at 11:37pm

Be true to yourself first! Indeed.

Comment by Derek Bly on September 7, 2012 at 11:29pm

Ruth, thank you for your comment.

I agree socializing is an important part of being human. But I came to realize the only reason I was attending the UUF was because i like the people . . . even though I wasn't on the same page about spirituality. In a way, I was pretending I was simply to hang out with them. I've let them know I still want to stay in touch, but I need to be true to myself and that means not attending their services anymore.

Comment by Steph S. on September 7, 2012 at 11:26pm
Yeah Ruth - I'm glad you got out of an abusive relationship early - you were so smart to see the signs. No one should take abuse of any kind. It is good to socialize - I agree. So, I am always here it seems - on the Nexus with all of you. So glad to have you!
 

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