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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

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Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

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Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

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losing faith (TheraminTrees)

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Comment by Tony Carroll on November 26, 2012 at 10:48pm

You know, sometimes you get a song stuck in your head. Been singing this one off and on all day, so I decided to share it. Don't know why it just popped into my head, but it did.

'The Hills Are Alive' from The Sound of Music. Hope you guys enjoy.

http://youtu.be/p_-lKpxLK3g

Comment by Steph S. on November 26, 2012 at 10:03pm
Ian I also come here first thing in the morning. It's such a wonderful group with such nice people!
Comment by Lillie on November 26, 2012 at 9:52pm

Why do cats love a box?

Comment by Ian Mason on November 26, 2012 at 9:37pm

Feel for you, Melinda. I've been a "troubled soul" all my life, diagnoses: always with "atypical" in front (depression, OCD, ADD, ADHD). Then my daughter was diagnosed with anorexia.What a nightmare! It hurts so much more when it's your young ones.

Fortunately she made an almost full recovery.

About 18 years ago I took someones advice about how to deal with a crisis and started taking regular exercise and haven't looked back. It sooths the mind and keeps some sort of limit on the waist - although that has expanded since I stopped smoking. I may have to (gasp) EAT LESS! Almost unthinkable :(.

Anyway, all the best to you all. Love being here. This is my first stop when I turn on my laptop in the morning.

Comment by Steph S. on November 26, 2012 at 8:05pm

I love that Grinning CAt - I am like singing that song.

Thanks for sharing what's going on with you Melinda. I'm good at listening - you can talk to me anytime. : ) 

I love all the pictures posted here! Thanks Melinda, Ian, Grinning Cat, and anyone else I might have missed.

It's always a joy coming here to be with you all.

Comment by Grinning Cat on November 26, 2012 at 7:06pm

Thanks for all the pictures, wise words, and sharing about what's going on with your lives!

A "mew"sical note:

She's a grand old cat
She's a high-flying cat
And long may her proud tail wave
It's the emblem of
The cat we love
So handsome and clever and brave
Oh, the black and white
It's a horrible sight
If you happen to be a rat
May old acquaintance ne'er be forgot
Keep your eye on the grand old cat.


(Tune: "You're a Grand Old Flag"
 Words: sent in to the Department of Folk Song
 of A Prairie Home Companion)

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 26, 2012 at 3:05pm

It was 33 years ago I completed my formal training and modern research builds on the theories of those "ancient" ones. I learned that feelings of being unable to control outcomes or predict outcomes leads to anxiety and depression. The term most often used with this mix of anxiety and depression is "Learned Helplessness".

Just about very organism with a brain can learn helplessness as demonstrated by research on prisoners of war, battered women and children, dogs, rats, pigeons, pike (the fish), octopus, and many other creatures. Anxiety and depression come with having a brain. 

Treatments of anxiety and depression include medication, exercise, Rational Emotive Therapy, and Dialectic Behavior Therapy.

These last two involve a mixture of cognitive and behavioral therapies. For example, each one of us has a private conversation going on in our heads that only you hear and no one else can.

The conversation may include such "I am not good enough," "I can't do ...," "I don't belong," "am not worthy of being loved," "I'm not smart enough," "My life has no meaning or purpose."

These, of course, are not the only private internal conversations that create anxiety and depression, but they are the most common and the ones I heard most often during my 20+ years in practice.  


So, may I be so bold as to suggest listening for your quiet, personal talk and see if you can discover something that makes you anxious or depressed. Get some exercise and focus on positive self-talk. Do things you like to do with people you enjoy and make you feel good about yourself. None of the fake talk or friends, but honest and reassuring talk and friends. 

Let me know if you try these skills and if they help. I learn by listening to others, so go for it if you want to. 

Comment by Ian Mason on November 26, 2012 at 2:26pm

Who had the bird site? Here's one you might not have. Kingfisher misses minnow and catches stone instead.

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 26, 2012 at 12:33pm

I like the unfriended cat also. :)  

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 26, 2012 at 12:29pm

Oh, that's funny Ian!  And, cute.

 

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